A guy I know broke up with his 5+ year girlfriend due to not being ready for marriage

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I first assumed it was because there were clan differences (south and north) but both their parents were very supportive of their relationship. They were "engaged"

But it was because she wanted to get married and he said he didn't want to get married at the moment. But he wants to be married with her eventually. They are both in their late 20s

It was obvious he was madly in love. I haven't seen such a happy couple.

Would any of you break up with the person you love so much and want to spend the rest of your life with if they attempted to set a wedding date that you thought wasnt the time for you?

I feel for the girl. 5 years is a too long to not get married especially when you're almost 30.

As for the guy, he has a new girlfriend but he's clearly not as happy as he was before. I think he feels he made a mistake.

 

[OTFinest]

I first assumed it was because there were clan differences (south and north) but both their parents were very supportive of their relationship. They were "engaged"

But it was because she wanted to get married and he said he didn't want to get married at the moment. But he wants to be married with her eventually. They are both in their late 20s

It was obvious he was madly in love. I haven't seen such a happy couple.

Would any of you break up with the person you love so much and want to spend the rest of your life with if they attempted to set a wedding date that you thought wasnt the time for you?

I feel for the girl. 5 years is a too long to not get married especially when you're almost 30.

As for the guy, he has a new girlfriend but he's clearly not as happy as he was before. I think he feels he made a mistake.

I think I know who your talking about there...

 

[John Michael]

A Somali guy prolonging an engagement?

 

[Queen Carawelo]

I'm trying to have a long engagement also. obamadatazz


It's sad that they broke up. I guess they weren't meant to be.

 

[Kilroy]

A Somali guy prolonging an engagement?

From personal experience, the last three Somali girls I dated were in a rush for marriage that I had to end each relationship before it got very serious. Maybe it's the FOBs/semi FOBs, as I am one myself, but how desperate they seemed for marriage was a major turnoff for me. Probably why a lot of marriages fail within short period of time these days.

Edit:

OTFinest, you've started it so I had to return the favor.

 

[Mercury]

I first assumed it was because there were clan differences (south and north) but both their parents were very supportive of their relationship. They were "engaged"

But it was because she wanted to get married and he said he didn't want to get married at the moment. But he wants to be married with her eventually. They are both in their late 20s

It was obvious he was madly in love. I haven't seen such a happy couple.

Would any of you break up with the person you love so much and want to spend the rest of your life with if they attempted to set a wedding date that you thought wasnt the time for you?

I feel for the girl. 5 years is a too long to not get married especially when you're almost 30.

As for the guy, he has a new girlfriend but he's clearly not as happy as he was before. I think he feels he made a mistake.

Lol how can you be with someone for 5 years I never heard a somali waiting that long.

I can accept knowing each other 2-3 years but 5 is just ridicilous if he really wanted to he would have married her already.

 

[Shamis]

That's why Somali girls don't put out before marriage. Once you do he's no longer in it long term.

 

[InaFreja]

I'm not really sure why someone would wait that long to get married, I understand the idea that you want to get to know someone before you marry them but 5 years is quite sometime. Feel sorry for the girl, she has entered Garoob status now which is detrimental to her market value

 

[Bielsa]

After 12-18 months if he is still not ready to marry you, then you ain't all that and he ain't that into you. Unless he's 21 and not interested in settling down any time soon. But if you're both pushing 30, then yeah, he ain't that into you I'm afraid.

 

[Sheikh Kulkuli]

The guy is a blayer

 

[Rooble]

Very sad abti very sad