Am I enabling her?

[Gibiin-Udug]

Every group of friends there's that batshit crazy friend. Who fights, confronts everyone. She's also blunt. People walk on eggshells around her. She has hard time apologizing but she's loyal to one person. ME.
So when I defend her, people say I'm enabling her behavior.

I'm very protective of her because I know she would walk in fire for me. She also fights anyone who tries to talk shit.


People are now blaming ME out of everyone because they think I'm enabling her behavior.




I believe loyalty over everything.




What would you do?


Xoxo

 

[Baraf]

i had a friend like that once. they're the stupid type.

 

[Game]

Why not talk to her and tell her the concerns that ur other friends have?

Otherwise ur gonna lose ur other friends.

 

[Adam]

Shes your soulmate never let her go

 

[NaomiHoney]

Just do you boo

 

[Sixth]

Are you defending her cause you want to avoid a confrontation between the two of you?
Confronting them about it wouldn't make you disloyal.

Personally, I hate it when people lay their problems on me when I can't do anything about it.
I'd probably just tell them how it is if they're doing stupid shit.

 

[Southerner]

Sounds like lesbian behavior to me

 

[CrazyWadaad]

Sounds like lesbian behavior to me

Lesbian relationship problems

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Why not talk to her and tell her the concerns that ur other friends have?

Otherwise ur gonna lose ur other friends.

I talked to her but she always says she's being herself.

Are you defending her cause you want to avoid a confrontation between the two of you?
Confronting them about it wouldn't make you disloyal.

Personally, I hate it when people lay their problems on me when I can't do anything about it.
I'd probably just tell them how it is if they're doing stupid shit.

No I don't defend her because I want to avoid confrontation with her. I defend her because I feel like she's misunderstood most of the times. And she's a loyal friend.

Sounds like lesbian behavior to me

First of all. I'm a MUSLIM, Allah swt fearing woman. I'm also engaged to a man. She's my childhood friend, who I feel is misunderstood most of the time.

 

[BebsiBolice]

Every group of friends there's that batshit crazy friend. Who fights, confronts everyone. She's also blunt. People walk on eggshells around her. She has hard time apologizing but she's loyal to one person. ME.
So when I defend her, people say I'm enabling her behavior.

I'm very protective of her because I know she would walk in fire for me. She also fights anyone who tries to talk shit.


People are now blaming ME out of everyone because they think I'm enabling her behavior.




I believe loyalty over everything.




What would you do?


Xoxo

Wow that's a hard situation. You can still defend her and be loyal to her while telling her about her flaws. Not in a mean or hurtful way but in a way that will help her grow as a person. I think honesty between friends is really important. She might thank you for it one day.

 

[Duchess]

She's your ride or die. Don't let her go.

 

[Mckenzie]

Gosh people management feels like a job in itself. Yall just gotta come together abd sort out your problems.

 

[Zuleikha]

Is her behaviour harming or hurting others? I don't like drama so if she is starting fights for no reason I can't see myself around that person however if she is just been blunt and direct I honestly doesn't see anything wrong with that and I would rather be around with her than someone who talks shits behind my back.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

She's your ride or die. Don't let her go.

Loyalty is the major key to success.

Is her behaviour harming or hurting others? I don't like drama so if she is starting fights for no reason I can't see myself around that person however if she is just been blunt and direct I honestly doesn't see anything wrong with that and I would rather be around with her than someone who talks shits behind my back.

She never starts fights for no reason. She's blunt and honest, then people catch feelings. You will never get bored around her. I'm sensing some people feel intimidated by her so they trying to group themselves and confront her as a group and when I say NO that's not how it should be. They blame me for enabling her behavior.

 

[Daisy]

Tell her to be nice to people