asking for the daughter

[Arma]

Hi all,

I'm in a bit of a tough spot and need sone advice. There is this woman in her late 20s early 30s that's I'm really fond of. The problem is that I last saw her last summer. I've looked everywhere but have not had any luck in seeing her again.

However, I always see her mom. Almost everytime I go up town, I see her mom. I have no idea who the girl's dad is. Now the idea of just walking up to her mom has come to mind. But is that an appropriate thing to do?

The mom, from my observations, seems like a relatively nice person. I always see her chatting to many Somali men and she seems a bit open minded. And she doesn't dress like your typical middle aged Somali woman. She doesn't wear jilbaab. So with this in mind I'm guessing she won't go mad if I were to randomly go up to her and ask for a way to communicate with her daughter.

But what do you guys make of this and what should I do? Should I go approach the mom and ask for her daughter or should I just stay clear and forget about this woman and her daughter?

Many thanks guys, much appreciated.

 

[Rooble]

Just go for it. Maybe she doesn't have a dad.

 

[Mercury]

Hi all,

I'm in a bit of a tough spot and need sone advice. There is this woman in her late 20s early 30s that's I'm really fond of. The problem is that I last saw her last summer. I've looked everywhere but have not had any luck in seeing her again.

However, I always see her mom. Almost everytime I go up town, I see her mom. I have no idea who the girl's dad is. Now the idea of just walking up to her mom has come to mind. But is that an appropriate thing to do?

The mom, from my observations, seems like a relatively nice person. I always see her chatting to many Somali men and she seems a bit open minded. And she doesn't dress like your typical middle aged Somali woman. She doesn't wear jilbaab. So with this in mind I'm guessing she won't go mad if I were to randomly go up to her and ask for a way to communicate with her daughter.

But what do you guys make of this and what should I do? Should I go approach the mom and ask for her daughter or should I just stay clear and forget about this woman and her daughter?

Many thanks guys, much appreciated.

If you're fond of her maybe you should have approached her sooner imo it's gonna be weird asking about her daughter when you've not at least talked with her just saying

Besides there's tons of chicks out there

 

[menace]

Hi all,

I'm in a bit of a tough spot and need sone advice. There is this woman in her late 20s early 30s that's I'm really fond of. The problem is that I last saw her last summer. I've looked everywhere but have not had any luck in seeing her again.

However, I always see her mom. Almost everytime I go up town, I see her mom. I have no idea who the girl's dad is. Now the idea of just walking up to her mom has come to mind. But is that an appropriate thing to do?

The mom, from my observations, seems like a relatively nice person. I always see her chatting to many Somali men and she seems a bit open minded. And she doesn't dress like your typical middle aged Somali woman. She doesn't wear jilbaab. So with this in mind I'm guessing she won't go mad if I were to randomly go up to her and ask for a way to communicate with her daughter.

But what do you guys make of this and what should I do? Should I go approach the mom and ask for her daughter or should I just stay clear and forget about this woman and her daughter?

Many thanks guys, much appreciated.

As a guy you just don't do that Adeer!

It can backfire

 

[Rooble]

You never know until you try.

 

[Zuleikha]

Probably the daughter is married and that is the reason why you don't see her around anymore.

 

[Freebandz]

Like menace said it can back fire I suggest you follow her mom (without her seeing you of course) to her house(assuming the girl lives with her mom) then camp out across the block and when you see her leaving the house next morning push her into the bushes and......

 

[menace]

Like menace said it can back fire I suggest you follow her mom (without her seeing you of course) to her house(assuming the girl lives with her mom) then camp out across the block and when you see her leaving the house next morning push her into the bushes and......

Smart dude..

 

[Mercury]

Probably the daughter is married and that is the reason why you don't see her around anymore.

I agree with this he did say the girl is late 20s early 30s most Somali girls are married around that age

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Like menace said it can back fire I suggest you follow her mom (without her seeing you of course) to her house(assuming the girl lives with her mom) then camp out across the block and when you see her leaving the house next morning push her into the bushes and......

Thats alot of work and abit stalkerish but it could work

 

[Seoul]

If you want something in life, you should just grab it (don't physically grab the girl coz that's harassment and u could end up in jail lol)

 

[madamelioness]

Do you have any female relatives who could talk to the girl's mother? I think that might work better. If not, then it's best to leave it and pray you bump into her again somehow lol.

 

[menace]

I doubt he has a female relatives who know the mother or the daughter.

This is just impossible...you must get over your lust, besides! She only had 2 eggs left

 

[Figo]

Like menace said it can back fire I suggest you follow her mom (without her seeing you of course) to her house(assuming the girl lives with her mom) then camp out across the block and when you see her leaving the house next morning push her into the bushes and......

Best advice

 

[John Michael]

how did you meet this woman? Maybe you can find out through a mutual friend if she's still available first.

Don't see anything disrespectful with speaking with her hooyo tho. Just a bit awkward.

 

[Freebandz]

how did you meet this woman? Maybe you can find out through a mutual friend if she's still available first.

Don't see anything disrespectful with speaking with her hooyo tho. Just a bit awkward.

Nothing awkward remember we met your mother together yesterday
Our honeymoon is gonna be

 

[Arma]

how did you meet this woman? Maybe you can find out through a mutual friend if she's still available first.

Don't see anything disrespectful with speaking with her hooyo tho. Just a bit awkward.

The thing is that the last time I saw her was the only time I had ever seen her. It was at my uncle's Internet cafe and guess what? She was with her mom in the shop. So I didn't have the chance to talk to her then. Was hoping to see her again but that hasn't happened yet.


There is a likelihood that our families know each other. On the weekends I work at my uncle's Internet cafe and money transfer. She comes and regularly sends money to Bosaso and i think then we're from the same clan or sub clan. My dad and uncle are very well known amongst the darood families in my area, so as I way of protecting my identity incase it does indeed backfire, I'm thinking of giving her a fake name. Is this a right thing to do?

Also there is the problem about me and the woman's age. I'm 24 and she's in her late 20s or early 30s like I said. We all know the Somali taboo of a relationship between an older woman and a younger man. I could easily get my dad or uncle to open up a channel of communication to her and I could then get the business done but I know for a fact they would try their hardest to talk me out of her and go for a girl my age or younger and i don't want that. I like this woman a lot. Hence why I've come onto this forum for help.

Thanks for all your input guys, very much appreciated. I'll be sure to let you all know how it went.