Just came back from Somalia again, and it was a nice trip. Wanted to go back for a bit after turning 18 and it was nice, but one thing people found odd about me is that I don't talk to women. in my previous visit I stayed there for 2 years, and I was told to never look at a woman's eyes when speaking to them. In the states I grew up in an environment where I stayed away from other Somali girls and almost never interacted with them. complete 180 now that I am 18, parents are telling me to talk to girls now. I understand that I am young, but they also told me if I can't start now, it gets harder and harder as time goes by. I also live in a big city but with a low Somali population. But to get back on track how does one begin talking with the opposite gender?
Sa_Male
runta ayaan kugu qarxin
I'll teach you shukaansi
come teach
Sa_Male
runta ayaan kugu qarxin
I can't teach well here, I'm willing to do sadaqah for you but not here
I share your sentiment very much brother, me and my friends went from:
When it was finally our choice, we of course, chose a mixed college, but by then we were the 4 mystic monks, who thought girls were unicorns that did not fart.
Of course Hooyos and Abos were suddenly: Well? Go swim!
Many of us learned to swim by just throwing ourselves into the deep end.
Believe it or not its not as bad as you think it is. You are 18 and are still in the tail end of things. if you have not, pick a suitable college, get involved in societies and in extracurricular activities. The after school events are what really helped me and my mates. If you are good at something lean into it, everybody wants someone who is useful in their team project or club.
All of this should give you ample opportunity to practice talking to girls, never mind flirting as it is hard to go from not being able to hold eye contact to flirting. It could be as inane as asking about yesterdays class or wanting to see their notes.
If you feel this is too big a gap for you, then on the early weekend days go to the shopping centres (malls) and just play dumb and talk to the girls (staff or not) there about some jeans, its quite and you dont know them.
The point is just focus on getting to a stage where you can hold a conversation with girls.
Also, dont neglect your appearances, first impressions are important and you will set yourself miles ahead of those that neglect it.
Two of those friends are married now and we occasionally laugh about it all. Good luck.
- Boys only Duxi
- Followed by boys only boarding school
- Followed by boys only secondary school
When it was finally our choice, we of course, chose a mixed college, but by then we were the 4 mystic monks, who thought girls were unicorns that did not fart.
Of course Hooyos and Abos were suddenly: Well? Go swim!
Many of us learned to swim by just throwing ourselves into the deep end.
Its not as complicated as we often think it is. I remember us turning flirting into this complicated math equation, there were many popular flirting books about this back then, and we had them. I cant say they helped.
Believe it or not its not as bad as you think it is. You are 18 and are still in the tail end of things. if you have not, pick a suitable college, get involved in societies and in extracurricular activities. The after school events are what really helped me and my mates. If you are good at something lean into it, everybody wants someone who is useful in their team project or club.
All of this should give you ample opportunity to practice talking to girls, never mind flirting as it is hard to go from not being able to hold eye contact to flirting. It could be as inane as asking about yesterdays class or wanting to see their notes.
If you feel this is too big a gap for you, then on the early weekend days go to the shopping centres (malls) and just play dumb and talk to the girls (staff or not) there about some jeans, its quite and you dont know them.
The point is just focus on getting to a stage where you can hold a conversation with girls.
Also, dont neglect your appearances, first impressions are important and you will set yourself miles ahead of those that neglect it.
Two of those friends are married now and we occasionally laugh about it all. Good luck.
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this is very good advice i appreciate it a lot bro
Be funny. The rest will work itself out. Also being mysterious helps too.
@iley
Shukaansi is an art form, and comes naturally to the few whereas most could be trained to mimic with some triumph. To practise, it begins with charming ladies in whom one has little, if no interest, being chivalrous to all females, even strangers, and to pull it off, one must be a gentleman with certain social standing, in other words well off. Maturity is requisite, and at 18, 1 in 9 are out of luck. Which of the said traits do you bring to the fore?
Shukaansi is an art form, and comes naturally to the few whereas most could be trained to mimic with some triumph. To practise, it begins with charming ladies in whom one has little, if no interest, being chivalrous to all females, even strangers, and to pull it off, one must be a gentleman with certain social standing, in other words well off. Maturity is requisite, and at 18, 1 in 9 are out of luck. Which of the said traits do you bring to the fore?
same boat..
Women are people too bro, approach them in a respectful manner and be yourself. Donโt over do it, be straight forward with your intentions. Heโs a few pointer.
- Donโt talk too much, let her do the talking
- Be kind and respectful but never let them walk all over you. They will loose respect for you within a heart beat.
- Donโt over think, just be yourself.
- Make sure you look after yourself, be well groomed, they appreciate that and itโll give you more confidence. Buy some cologne.
- Iโm sure you have a sense of humour, make them laugh, they love it.
- Never be a push over, thatโs a deal breaker for most women.
- Be a good conversationalist, and learn to listen when they talk.
- Be consistent,
- If a woman constantly lies to you, she ainโt worth it bruv.
- Donโt be too immature, they will look to you for guidance.
Good luck sxb
we will learn together zxp
Shukaansi is really not what people think it is, like what black call a โmouth pieceโ alone.
The pick up artist community has wasted a lot of young men time, with routines and rehearsed lines.
There are so many different styles, you have to choose one that compliments your personality.
so here is the question do you know who youโre? If the answer is no! There is no helping you.
The pick up artist community has wasted a lot of young men time, with routines and rehearsed lines.
There are so many different styles, you have to choose one that compliments your personality.
so here is the question do you know who youโre? If the answer is no! There is no helping you.
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