Its worse for woman That’s a just fact in our somali community
The reason it is a big issue for women is because it effects their status and reputation
Once a woman gets divorced, it is difficult to find second husband From what i observed, most somali women’s self esteem is damaged big time
In our community divorce is shameful and the woman somehow caused it If the woman was just patient enough, obedient enough and good enough, divorce would not happened
I know this girl who got divorced few years ago,Her self esteem hit the bottom and she became depressed
She eventually went back to the guy because she really believed she would never find someone else thats sad now Because of that, she accepts things she shouldn’t accept like for an instance him not providing for his kids and ..drinking problem It is really sad
I know many whove been divorced one who got divorced twice and she is only 24 and another one who is in the process of getting one
I believe a number of factors combined is really what makes marriages fail I have noticed a lot couples do not ask questions beforehand and marry someone because they "love them"
They date and talk for years or months about unnecessary stuff and then they marry
Couples need to ask each other the hard questions before they marry
Another thing a lot of us have is pride A lot of times couples do not compromise and each person wants to be the last one standing as if letting go makes them weak
The most important one of all is lack of communication Divorces should not happen if both partners remain faithful, respect each other and each other's family and each one of them handle their duties
Everything else is minor and should be something that two adults can easily discuss and resolve.
The reason it is a big issue for women is because it effects their status and reputation
Once a woman gets divorced, it is difficult to find second husband From what i observed, most somali women’s self esteem is damaged big time
In our community divorce is shameful and the woman somehow caused it If the woman was just patient enough, obedient enough and good enough, divorce would not happened
I know this girl who got divorced few years ago,Her self esteem hit the bottom and she became depressed
She eventually went back to the guy because she really believed she would never find someone else thats sad now Because of that, she accepts things she shouldn’t accept like for an instance him not providing for his kids and ..drinking problem It is really sad
I know many whove been divorced one who got divorced twice and she is only 24 and another one who is in the process of getting one
I believe a number of factors combined is really what makes marriages fail I have noticed a lot couples do not ask questions beforehand and marry someone because they "love them"
They date and talk for years or months about unnecessary stuff and then they marry
Couples need to ask each other the hard questions before they marry
Another thing a lot of us have is pride A lot of times couples do not compromise and each person wants to be the last one standing as if letting go makes them weak
The most important one of all is lack of communication Divorces should not happen if both partners remain faithful, respect each other and each other's family and each one of them handle their duties
Everything else is minor and should be something that two adults can easily discuss and resolve.
