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they’ve already agreed on an arangement however she feels like she should continue to hide her massive inheritnece and other streams of income after the nikkah
Fiancé Asks Reddit If She Should Reveal How Much Money She Makes to Her Future Husband
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Chaseyourdreamzz
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I wouldn’t be able to trust her fully if I found out like what else are you hiding fr
Nowhere in the agreement does it say that she has to reveal how much money she really has, though. They simply agreed on who pays what. Although I kind of understand both sides.
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she has 7 figures saved up and has property’s rented out. on top of that london rent plus utilities runs 2500-3000 a month groceries and bills would be 1000-1500 a month
She should disclose it because if they’re together for the long run and to have children and family shouldn’t she negotiate how much they’d like to save together for a home and child trust? or is she gonna expect him to pay the mortgage as they agreed on this arrangement without him knowing the full details ?
Your last point is valid, I'd expect that she'd come clean at that point though.
a woman's money is her own saxiib, as long as she in not a qumaayo who doesn't spend it on her family.
maybe she was afraid he might use her for her money if he found out she was rich? rich people problems ig
. The type of problems i'd love to have
I’m torn. A part of me thinks she should keep it to herself and another part things she should tell him. I’ve seen things get ugly when a man realizes a woman has a lot of money and all of a sudden the expectations of him being a provider goes out the window. She should obviously tell him about her house, but she should downplay the rest for the time being.
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Daddy gave her a trust fund but didn’t get her a rich man. Struggle fr.maybe she was afraid he might use her for her money if he found out she was rich? rich people problems ig
She doesn't love him. If she loved him, she would not hold any secrets except anything that went against Islam and Allah swt commanded that. he's not entitled to the money since its an inheritance and one she received before she met him. She must know this because she only cared that it might make him feel insecure, not that he gets access to it and it's clear she has no concern about that. Poor guy. He seems like a miskeen. He told her he values full transparency and has been fully open to her if you read her comments. This is why you don't marry older women. Older women can't fall in love and will hold back anything about their life.
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empressjamila
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Idk I’m leaning towards she should keep that info to herself. It’s all good when you’re happy and in love but one must also be logical. It’s human nature..people switch up like crazy when money is involved
Also in Islam a woman’s money is her own so it’s not really his right to know. I’m sure she’ll use some of it to help elevate the family anyway.
Also in Islam a woman’s money is her own so it’s not really his right to know. I’m sure she’ll use some of it to help elevate the family anyway.
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if i learned about this when we already made an agreement and discussion and i’d find out later down the line my trust would feel breached. islamically it’s her money but i would still feel like she’s tryna milk me dry and isn’t here for the long run and if she trusted me she would tell me and i would let her manage it how she wants (assuming it’s for the children)
A woman that has 7 figures isn’t milking you dry. In fact she doesn’t even need you financially. She’s clearly married you for love since you don’t even have what she has. She’s even going 50/50’ with him, so how on earth would any man without any ulterior motives feel ‘milked’? I get that they might feel hurt due to lack of trust, but ‘milked’?
Obviously certain things will have to come out as he’s the father of children but it’s worrying since they’ve already set up a sort of relationship in which they go 50/50, so she’s willing to pay even though that isn’t even her job Islamically , but unfortunately in the world that we live in many men will use a woman’s finances against her and they’ll shirk their responsibilities as in their minds they’d feel ‘milked’ as you put it which is worrying. Why would you feel ‘milked’ by a woman who is already going halves with you when she really shouldn’t? Are you expecting more from her? That’s why women need to be careful. Men and women aren’t the same because a man having money for a wife is added stability but some men, it’s either a threat to their masculinity or an excuse to be a bum and I’ve personally seen it play out. However I also understand your concerns about honesty which is why I’m torn.
Some people don't go after the other person's money during divorce even if they are entitled to it. If they live a comfortable life and are the humble type and are content, there are people who don't care. Not everything is about money for some people but rather respect and honesty. She screwed up. She better hope he's not one of those people who have zero tolerance for not being transparent. It seems he is because she said it would negatively impact the relationship if she hides it for longer than she should.
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You can never have a long-standing healthy marriage with that kind of mindset. It's her money, but once the man finds out in several years, he will re-evaluate his opinion of her with a distrustful perspective, and later, things will potentially spiral from there. She will demand trust while hiding one hand. It speaks of greed, and she does not fully trust his character.
because now "we" are well off
30 years old daaaaamn to old
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