How to spot groomers!

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Have any of you seen the documentary and TV show called "A Friend of the Family"?

Teach your children to recognise groomers and if they're too young to speak, never leave them with strangers if you can help it, even daycare centres. Teach them early on to wash their own nether regions and to not let anyone touch them or to touch other people in certain places. A lot of girls, boys and women get molested and even raped by a relative, so don't think you have to watch out for strangers, predators are in people's households and families.

Here is some useful information:

https://www.schoolcounselingbyheart.com/2012/08/26/teaching-kids-to-recognize-grooming/

Groomers Use Tricks. Grooming is a subtle (hard to notice), gradual (slow), and escalating (more and worse over time) process of building “trust” with a kid and often the kid’s parent or other caretaker. (I always use written and gestured quotation marks around the word “trust” in this context, to highlight that it’s not real trust.) Grooming tricks include:

• Fake Trustworthiness – pretending to be the kid’s friend in order to gain their trust
• Testing Boundaries – jokes, roughhousing, back rubs, tickling, or sexualized games (pants-ing, truth or dare, strip games, etc.)
• Touch – from regular, mostly comfortable non-sexual touch to “accidental” touch of private parts, often over time
• Intimidation – using fear, embarrassment, or guilt to keep a kid from telling
• Sharing sexual material – capitalizing on a kid’s natural curiosity to normalize sexual behavior by showing pictures, videos, text messages, photos, websites, notes, etc. of a sexual nature
• Breaking Rules – encouraging a kid to break rules, which establishes secret-keeping as part of the relationship and can be used as blackmail in the future
• Drugs and Alcohol – breaking the rules (see above) and/or making kids less able to stop the abuse because they’re under the influence of the substance
• Communicating Secretly – texting, emailing, or calling in an unexpected way (parents don’t know about it, it happens a lot, the kid is told to keep it a secret)
• Blaming and Confusing – making the kid feel responsible for the abuse or what could happen to the kid, his/her family, or the abuser if the kid tells

https://www.teachingexpertise.com/articles/preventing-grooming-teaching-children-about-problematic-adult-behaviour/

It’s not just the child who is groomed

Many paedophiles gain access to the child through their parents, developing trusting relationships that mean the parents feel their children are in safe company, even when left alone with the offender. Unfortunately, this makes it even more difficult for the child to report the abuse.

Grooming over the internet

In cases of online grooming, the offender uses many of the same techniques as the offender offline. The aim of the offender is still to develop a relationship that can lead to sexual behaviour. An offender can masquerade as a child of any age, sex or appearance and can pretend to have the same hobbies in order to trick a child into meeting them.

Molestors are hard to spot, they can present as very charming and they find a way to be around your children alone. They will make everyone drop their guard and they will do things in the open so that nobody believes the victim. Tell your children there is no such thing as a 'secret' between parent and child and that they can tell you everything, no matter how bad it is. Keep your heads on a swivel and protect the kids!

 

[Kalsoon]

Thanks for sharing this info.

It’s saddening that gaalo societal woes such as this are spreading like wildfire! I’m afraid this sick behavior will only get worse in every place as technology reaches more people.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Thanks for sharing this info.

It’s saddening that gaalo societal woes such as this are spreading like wildfire! I’m afraid this sick behavior will only get worse in every place as technology reaches more people.

Unfortunately, we cannot even blame this on Gaalo, plenty of Muslim countries have molesters, even incestuous ones. If this was happening before the invention of p0rn, these kind of people must have a jinni or some chemical imbalance or something

 

[Kalsoon]

Unfortunately, we cannot even blame this on Gaalo, plenty of Muslim countries have molesters, even incestuous ones. If this was happening before the invention of p0rn, these kind of people must have a jinni or some chemical imbalance or something

Do you think it was happening as much as today though? It’s not all due to outside entities for sure. Personal accountability has to be taken at some point. Sickos will be sickos no matter what! The worst part to me is when people have an issue addressing these immoral acts at first due to the shame component.