Is it impossible to change a person

[SuldaanSeven]

Should one ever attempt to micromanage every aspect of a friends life in order to help this friend reach or become what you believe they should be doing with their lives and leave what they are doing already?

 

[paragon]

No. You aren't their parent. They need to push themselves.

 

[SuldaanSeven]

With such a harsh opinion are you sure you are a good friend What you said seems very individualistic

 

[Gambit]

It's not but unless they really wanna change they'll revert back to their old ways. Surround them with people that you think will help influence them in a postive way.

 

[SuldaanSeven]

Surround them with people that you think will help influence them in a postive way.

That sounds like the good old "you're who your friends are"

 

[paragon]

Words from a realist. If you want to drag them along and have them backslide because you are babying your friend they are bound to fail. Change must come from them. Supporting them from the sidelines is all you can do.

 

[SuldaanSeven]

What if you speaking from the sideline hasn't achieved any results? And you feel it's finally time for a more hands-on approach or I just quit advicing/lecturing the person to death

 

[Gambit]

That sounds like the good old "you're who your friends are"

It's true. If it's someone you care about try but know when to quit if it doesn't work out.

 

[paragon]

Wait for them to hit rock bottom eventually they will try to crawl out of their own ditch as long as they're still alive.

 

[Cognitivedissonance]

Anything is possible if Allah wills it.

 

[SOMACOON]

People can definitely change sxb

 

[McD30]

No. You aren't their parent. They need to push themselves.

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