"Raising daughters in the west"

[bluebird]

This is a common saying among somali people that their daughters will be their source of shame. That's why they focus on their energy and expectations on their daughters.

And at least here in america, there is an opioid crisis going on, people are dropping like flies and inner city somali boys are a big part of that statistic.

Isn't it so ironic to see the same parents who yelled at and basically abused their daughters for not cleaning up after their precious sons stuck living with those same boys after their daughters move out. And their son is now a 25 year old drug addict who steals from them. so many somali mothers are in this position now crying everyday, tearing out their hair, and people still won't admit how toxic it is to think like this.

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

The kind of people who say this

1. C0rn fried
2. Losers who project their own failings onto the women.

Tell me any guy on here who made a similar comment, and I will prove to you that this is a loser.

 

[gasara]

The kind of people who say this

1. C0rn fried
2. Losers who project their own failings onto the women.

Tell me any guy on here who made a similar comment, and I will prove to you that this is a loser.

Yeah I've only seen losers, bums, and saqajaans who did haram in their youth (some still do it as they age) say daughters bring shame. I think its projection since they never did well in life and they knew not to engage in haram but they still did.

 

[bluebird]

The kind of people who say this

1. C0rn fried
2. Losers who project their own failings onto the women.

Tell me any guy on here who made a similar comment, and I will prove to you that this is a loser.

people don't say at like how these guys on here say it, but they still think like that, sadly.

 

[bluebird]

Yeah I've only seen losers, bums, and saqajaans who did haram in their youth (some still do it as they age) say daughters bring shame. I think its projection since they never did well in life and they knew not to engage in haram but they still did.

they won't say daughters bring shame, but they are more afraid of the shame their daughters bring them. That's why somali parents are harder on daughters, and why they do fgm. The shame I'm talking about is not just being morally loose. also things like being messy, unattactive, having future in-laws gossiping about you as a wife/mother. There's a somali saying about a daughter being a mirror for her mom or something like that