Should they know

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If someone is born out of wedlock?

I personally know someone who is and they are looking for their father but the family is hiding it from them they were born without marriage. The girl has been searching for her blood family since she was young but now has her own family of hers. The sad thing is she thinks she's from this tribe, but she isn't she is from another tribe but it is kept hidden.


Is this islamically right to disclose this information from her? Or should she be told the truth..

 

[Halimo-2018]

If she's not Related to you mind your business. If people are already talking she'll eventually find out herself.

 

[Mehmet]

If someone is born out of wedlock?

I personally know someone who is and they are looking for their father but the family is hiding it from them they were born without marriage. The girl has been searching for her blood family since she was young but now has her own family of hers. The sad thing is she thinks she's from this tribe, but she isn't she is from another tribe but it is kept hidden.


Is this islamically right to disclose this information from her? Or should she be told the truth..

Tell her aslong as no one is hurt

 

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Tell her aslong as no one is hurt

I won't tell her, it's the parents job. I am wanting to know if this is wrong to hide from her Islamically.

 

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If she's not Related to you mind your business. If people are already talking she'll eventually find out herself.

She is my first cousin

 

[bluebird]

I’m with halimo, let her find out if she’s meant to she’s meant to. There’s a saying in Islam, “the child belongs to the marriage bed” meaning children go by their mothers husbands, it’s just easier that way and less messy

the only exception would be if the mother points to the real father or if the biological father himself claims the child.

 

[Mehmet]

I won't tell her, it's the parents job. I am wanting to know if this is wrong to hide from her Islamically.

Not sure but lying is haram unless it is to safe a life

 

[Mehmet]

She is my first cousin

Wow so they must embrace her as their own

 

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Wow so they must embrace her as their own

We don't know where her real father is and his full name. this the issue .

 

[Mehmet]

We don't know where her real father is and his full name. this the issue .

Oh ok so did you tell her about her real qabil

 

[MuslimManMe]

I’m with halimo, let her find out if she’s meant to she’s meant to. There’s a saying in Islam, “the child belongs to the marriage bed” meaning children go by their mothers husbands, it’s just easier that way and less messy

the only exception would be if the mother points to the real father or if the biological father himself claims the child.

THIS

 

[Halimo-2018]

She is my first cousin

That's hard. I would tell her.she needs to know her father even if his a loser she has the right to know but get ready for backslash lol

 

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Oh ok so did you tell her about her real qabil

Her real qabil is reer xamar, but she is told she is Dir. She is very light skin too i thought she would notice...

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

That's hard. I would tell her.she needs to know her father even if his a loser she has the right to know but get ready for backslash lol

Sis nobody knows where he is, the thing is it happened in Somalia, her mother had an affair than the war happened.

 

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I would get killed if i tell her this ...its the biggest secert .

 

[Ismail99]

How do you know this but not her

 

[Mehmet]

Her real qabil is reer xamar, but she is told she is Dir. She is very light skin too i thought she would notice...

I have dated many lightskin dir who don't know their qabils too

 

[Mehmet]

I would get killed if i tell her this ...its the biggest secert .

I guess some secrets can not come out for safety reasons

 

[Xaruun]

Cool story bro.

I’m with halimo, let her find out if she’s meant to she’s meant to. There’s a saying in Islam, “the child belongs to the marriage bed” meaning children go by their mothers husbands, it’s just easier that way and less messy

the only exception would be if the mother points to the real father or if the biological father himself claims the child.

You can accuse the wife of adultery afaik. Then you don’t have to claim the bastard.