Somali Single Mothers

[Maverick 2.0]

We need to do better as a community, because for some odd reason the divorce rate is through the roof.

The reason you have so many young Somali youths failing in life and resorting to gangs, drugs, and other crimes is because they come from broken families.
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What I can't figure out is why divorce rate is high knowing Somali people are pious Muslims yet this still transpires? #blacklove

 

[Juke]

Both

 

[Odkac WRLD]

The question is really open ended, and there are a ton of other factors.

Not all Somali dudes are dead beats and not all Somali women are narcs. Some may be but not the majority.

I never understood the big deal of this. Divorce isn’t an issue for the community to tackle, it’s between the parties involved

If I had a gun to my head and had to answer, I’d say not enough people being clear with their intentions. For the young people at least, I’d have no idea for the older ones.

 

[Jaydaan]

Because people don’t really need each other and living together and raising kids is hard job. Most people can’t be bothered and it’s not like the child will starve if the parents ain’t together

 

[repo]

No one wants to talk about it but how many kids do these poor families have and can they disregard the notion that kids are a blessing from Allah?

 

[Abdisamad]

This is not only a Somali issue.. The divorce rate is very high in western countries.

 

[Gallant]

Deadbeat dad's, let's not beat around the bush.

 

[Figo]

With our generation I think the divorce is high because we rush into getting married. They say you don’t know someone till you live with them. It’s true most of the young couples sweet talk each other when they’re dating and a lot of flaws come out when they settle down and move in together.

 

[sambuusi]

I've seen stuff like this happen and it's definitely not limited to Somalis or any of the behaviors mentioned above.
It's not about piety in many cases but about the people themselves. Sometimes people divorce for the better or lack of compatibility.
Some cultures look down upon divorce (such as within "traditional" Somali and Desi communities), so in modern and western society, divorce is more common since nothing is stopping them.

 

[Jaydaan]

some Somali girls married just to get out of the house. Some of these girls never planned a long marriage and was planning their divorce while planning their marriage

 

[Lostbox]

There running to some

 

[pablo]

It’s pretty much the same in every community in western Society, whole point of a family is to continue your people/tribe/community passing down your culture and legacy. Now people have no interest in there own culture and prefer living in the west and western culture which promotes selfishness and doing whatever you want to do.

 

[Nak Muay]

If a woman's need for shelter, financial security and safety can all be guaranteed by the government there's no need to keep a man around and protect the nuclear family saxib.

Most young Somalis don't really date to avoid Zina and get married too quickly without getting to know the other person properly. Or the girl just wants to move out without being called a lol

 

[Jaydaan]

If a woman's need for shelter, financial security and safety can all be guaranteed by the government there's no need to keep a man around and protect the nuclear family saxib.

Most young Somalis don't really date to avoid Zina and get married too quickly without getting to know the other person properly. Or the girl just wants to move out without being called a lol

another issues we don’t teach kids how to raise a family. Even if these kids has good intentions they don’t know their roles. how many Somali parents sit down with their kids and have these type of conversation

All we hear from Somali parents is naa naag iska dhig. War niin iska dhig and nonsense like that. But they never actually teach their kids much

 

[Nak Muay]

another issues we don’t teach kids how to raise a family. Even if these kids has good intentions they don’t know their roles. how many Somali parents sit down with their kids and have these type of conversation

All we hear from Somali parents is naa naag iska dhig. War niin iska dhig and nonsense like that. But they never actually teach their kids much

You're right, but in order for parents to give you relationship advice and set examples they have to be a in properly functioning relationship themselves and most Somalis aren't. I can't really blame them for it though, they've been through a lot bro.

I still think the problem is most Somalis our age haven't been in long term relationships and once the honeymoon phase ends and reality sets in they panic and jump ship, ruining some poor child's future in the process.

 

[Kol3]

From what I’ve seen the women who are narcissistic are still married, I wouldn’t say happily married but still married, whilst the men are suffering. Divorce rate is high because usually it’s the men’s fault... they have issues. One time, I saw this single mother who had one daughter she had the most brightest personalities and she was beautiful but a bit overweight when she had her one daughter. I’m thinking why the hell did she get divorced? She literally is maskin. She looked like she was the type to serve a man breakfast, lunch, dinner and cater to his needs. Then she said to me ‘you know how Somali men are’ and I’m like trust me I know.

 

[Jaydaan]

You're right, but in order for parents to give you relationship advice and set examples they have to be a in properly functioning relationship themselves and most Somalis aren't. I can't really blame them for it though, they've been through a lot bro.

I still think the problem is most Somalis our age haven't been in long term relationships and once the honeymoon phase ends and reality sets in they panic and jump ship, ruining some poor child's future in the process.

I don’t think long term relationship experience makes any difference. Gaalo has huge divorce rate and a lot of the ones who don’t divorce cheat on their spouses. It’s more of not understanding a marriage is hard work and unless you are willing to fight that marriage it won’t last. Everywhere we see we are encouraged to do us and be free. We can have it all and be constantly happy. It’s just not realistic

 

[Kol3]

If a woman's need for shelter, financial security and safety can all be guaranteed by the government there's no need to keep a man around and protect the nuclear family saxib.

Most young Somalis don't really date to avoid Zina and get married too quickly without getting to know the other person properly. Or the girl just wants to move out without being called a lol

That doesn’t make sense no need for a man to be around. Only if when she is a single mother the government will give her that but is she’s married it’s the mans responsibility.

 

[Jaydaan]

From what I’ve seen the women who are narcissistic are still married, I wouldn’t say happily married but still married, whilst the men are suffering. Divorce rate is high because usually it’s the men’s fault... they have issues. One time, I saw this single mother who had one daughter she had the most brightest personalities and she was beautiful but a bit overweight when she had her one daughter. I’m thinking why the hell did she get divorced? She literally is maskin. She looked like she was the type to serve a man breakfast, lunch, dinner and cater to his needs. Then she said to me ‘you know how Somali men are’ and I’m like trust me I know.

You been married? Somalis who marry outside don’t fare better except they get more abuse. Maybe the problem is Somali women just ain’t raised well enough to be good wives?

 

[Kol3]

You been married? Somalis who marry outside don’t fare better except they get more abuse. Maybe the problem is Somali women just ain’t raised well enough to be good wives?
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You been married? Somalis who marry outside don’t fare better except they get more abuse. Maybe the problem is Somali women just ain’t raised well enough to be good wives?

There a lot of Somali women who married outside who have successful marriages. And NO! Somali women are good wives from what I’ve seen. They are naturally seen as submissive and traditionalists, they have no problem serving a man if he’s acting right!!