The never spoken about subject

[SuldaanSeven]

That's right reer somali spot today we debate it, we debate the never spoken about subject and that is the "keeping your options open" move.

This is something that is extremely prevalent in society but more so in western societies unlike back home where people could not do this successfully for a lengthy amount of time.

Here in the western world people are bombarded by worries of money and the materialism that comes with it. People tend to value their careers more than every other part of their lives. When people are not thinking about their work then they are thinking about what it is that they could purchase in order for them to impress other people and maybe turn a few heads.

On the backgrounds of all of this comes the ideas to put of marriage for as long as possible. People tell themselves they should save up more of their annual salaries before they can settle down or they tell themselves maybe they should hold out for a little longer just until they meet more worthy people or they tell themselves the most famous one yet heard which is "I'm too young, I've still got some time to kill".

Before people know it they realise that they are keeping their options open with in each one of their relationships, they favour no potential suitor over the other potential suitors. They realise they have the same exact relationship with all those they are with in that moment of time.

Is it okay for people to keep their options open once they are in a relationship?

How long should people keep their options open once they are in a relationship?

 

[Shamis]

Years ago my great aunt told me to spread the net far and wide (obvs no touching) so you don't waste your time with a guy who is very likely doing the same. She told me to choose out of 5 and keep the family in on it lol

 

[Mercury]

Depends how serious they are with each other if one of em isnt feeling it as much.

And I think most keep their options open
Just to have something to fall back on when its over

Marriage is a pretty big deal might aswell take the time and make it right the first time.

 

[Tokio]

b-but I am still too young

 

[Zuleikha]

You know how the somali saying goes gabadhi toban bay shukamisaa midna way ka la baxda.

I can only chat to one person keeping your options open doesn't appeal to me. Yaa wakhti iyo daafat u haya in dhawr nin la sheekaysto.

 

[Mercury]

Years ago my great aunt told me to spread the net far and wide (obvs no touching) so you don't waste your time with a guy who is very likely doing the same. She told me to choose out of 5 and keep the family in on it lol

As the old somali saying goes Wax la qariyo ceeb ba ku jirta

 

[Shamis]

You're not spending hours with the person though. You just chat like he's a family friend, nothing lovey dovey just a background check in action lol That's what Shukaansi is back home, just to see what kind of person they are and use the romance to get him to spill if he's got any secrets he'd like to share lol

 

[Tokio]

thnx for the heads up, Shamis. every time she tries to make me spill some war

 

[Shamis]

thnx for the heads up, Shamis. every time she tries to make me spill some war

Guur ciyaar ma'ahan don't ever disclose something which could be a dealbreaker unless you've put it firmly behind you and even then it's 50/50 depending on what it is.

 

[Mercury]

Guur ciyaar ma'ahan don't ever disclose something which could be a dealbreaker unless you've put it firmly behind you and even then it's 50/50 depending on what it is.

There was this guy here in Sweden came here as a kid hanged with the wrong friends became a pusher selling all kinds of crap until a guy Refused to pay him

He stabbed the guy in the lung and stabbed 2 others aswell. One of the guys almost died if he did he would be doing some serious time.

Anyway last time I heard about him he was strugglin to find work and went back home and got married to 2 women.

Sometimes i wonder if he told them what hes done.

 

[Shamis]

That's the most fvcked up thing I've ever heard. There's probably murderers chilling back home who were never caught. I know a girl back home who divorced a guy after she found out that he had a record for possession. She said she didn't lose anything because even though he promised to move her to the US she knew he wouldn't be able to support her or get a decent job and the ceeb for any kids they may have had made it a really bad decision to remain married.

 

[Zuleikha]

There was this guy here in Sweden came here as a kid hanged with the wrong friends became a pusher selling all kinds of crap until a guy Refused to pay him

He stabbed the guy in the lung and stabbed 2 others aswell. One of the guys almost died if he did he would be doing some serious time.

Anyway last time I heard about him he was strugglin to find work and went back home and got married to 2 women.

Sometimes i wonder if he told them what hes done.

@Mercury are you talking about this guy? My father send me this through what's app not long ago. Siduu ugu faanayo ayaa I cajabisay waan qoracay buu ku leeyahay.

 

[Mercury]

I never understood the deal with marrying a girl back home Theres plenty of Good sisters doing good here in the west

If I would get married to a chick it would probably be here in Sweden or europe cause I feel we would be more compatible.

 

[Zuleikha]

I feel sleepy and forgot to post the video

 

[Mercury]

@Mercury are you talking about this guy? My father send me this through what's app not long ago. Siduu ugu faanayo ayaa I cajabisay waan qoracay buu ku leeyahay.

Yes it was soo nasty how he was bragging about what he has done like it was an achivement and than he says Sweden is a bad place to live with no jobs keep in mind he never went to high school he dropped out at 16 and if you even have a record you might aswell start ur own company cause no one hires a criminal not even mcdonalds