To the girls on here; how do I deal with these rude girls at my school?

[roses4me]

For context im a non hijabi (im working on it)
And these other Somali girls at school who I barely even know are being so passive aggressive to me about it
-"Where's your hijab?"
-"it's not THAT hard to put one on. I started when I was 9."
-"I think your just seeking attention...." ????
I dress modestly and even go out with a group of other girls at the mosque pretty frequently I have no idea why these girls feel so mad about what im doing, they've been getting a bit too comfortable lately and have been making "jokes" about cutting my hair when im not looking because it's apperantly too long, im at my wits end please help

 

[wonyluvr]

Tell them to mind their business tf is wrong with them

 

[AraragiKoyomi]

For context im a non hijabi (im working on it)
And these other Somali girls at school who I barely even know are being so passive aggressive to me about it
-"Where's your hijab?"
-"it's not THAT hard to put one on. I started when I was 9."
-"I think your just seeking attention...." ????
I dress modestly and even go out with a group of other girls at the mosque pretty frequently I have no idea why these girls feel so mad about what im doing, they've been getting a bit too comfortable lately and have been making "jokes" about cutting my hair when im not looking because it's apperantly too long, im at my wits end please help

I want to give y'all a big reminder. Hijab means to cover the awrah. The awrah isnt just the hair. There is this misconception that as long as you cover the hair, you are good to go, thats not true. You cover the awrah, that is considered the whole body except the face, as for the face and hands, some scholars like Shaykh Albani say it isnt awrah.

And to cover doesnt mean wearing a bodycon. Tight cloths arent considered hijab.

And women have to understand that a woman who shows her hair, but wears a long jacket, wigh baggy jeans and socks is more covered than a woman in a tichel and spandex of a headcovering with bodycon.

 

[roses4me]

Tell them to mind their business tf is wrong with them

No idea what's wrong with them

 

[wonyluvr]

No idea what's wrong with them

I feel sorry for you sis you don’t owe them
a single explanation

 

[Yaraye]

For context im a non hijabi (im working on it)
And these other Somali girls at school who I barely even know are being so passive aggressive to me about it
-"Where's your hijab?"
-"it's not THAT hard to put one on. I started when I was 9."
-"I think your just seeking attention...." ????
I dress modestly and even go out with a group of other girls at the mosque pretty frequently I have no idea why these girls feel so mad about what im doing, they've been getting a bit too comfortable lately and have been making "jokes" about cutting my hair when im not looking because it's apperantly too long, im at my wits end please help

Comments about "cutting hair" isn't jokes abaayo, it's a threat. They saw you weren't going to do anything at first, which is why they got comfortable. You need to start gathering proof (record convo, take pic/video), and make reports. If administration doesn't take action, you need to. How dare they make threats about as something as precious as hair length?! We edeb daran yaheen, start to take action abaayo and put them in their place. Don't worry or give a f*ck that they are somali, deal with them as you would with any other non-somali.

 

[IstarZ]

I want to give y'all a big reminder. Hijab means to cover the awrah. The awrah isnt just the hair. There is this misconception that as long as you cover the hair, you are good to go, thats not true. You cover the awrah, that is considered the whole body except the face, as for the face and hands, some scholars like Shaykh Albani say it isnt awrah.

And to cover doesnt mean wearing a bodycon. Tight cloths arent considered hijab.

And women have to understand that a woman who shows her hair, but wears a long jacket, wigh baggy jeans and socks is more covered than a woman in a tichel and spandex of a headcovering with bodycon.

Do you realize this is the women’s section? OP is asking for advice from the ladies. This isn’t the time or place to lecture us about correct hijab.

Hijab also comes with correct conduct, which the girls, OP is talking about seem to wholly lack.

OP I’m sorry to hear what you’re experiencing. You should report them to school staff because bullying isn’t tolerated. Collect as much data as you can and use it to report them. If you know their families , it might also be a good idea to get your parents to talk to their parents. In the mean time try your best to avoid them.

 

[Afeik_Abiy]

Beat up the biggest girl in the group, then they'll see you as the alpha and leave you alone

 

[Duke]

 

[AraragiKoyomi]

Do you realize this is the women’s section? OP is asking for advice from the ladies. This isn’t the time or place to lecture us about correct hijab.

Hijab also comes with correct conduct, which the girls, OP is talking about seem to wholly lack.

OP I’m sorry to hear what you’re experiencing. You should report them to school staff because bullying isn’t tolerated. Collect as much data as you can and use it to report them. If you know their families , it might also be a good idea to get your parents to talk to their parents. In the mean time try your best to avoid them.

I wasnt aware

 

[Yeri]

I be real it sounds like jealousy. Most somali parents are really strict when it comes to hijab. So they probably feel some type of way about the fact that there is a somali girl who doesn’t go through this. And if they are making comments about cutting your hair it is clear that they are just insecure about their hair.

 

[Unicorn]

For context im a non hijabi (im working on it)
And these other Somali girls at school who I barely even know are being so passive aggressive to me about it
-"Where's your hijab?"
-"it's not THAT hard to put one on. I started when I was 9."
-"I think your just seeking attention...." ????
I dress modestly and even go out with a group of other girls at the mosque pretty frequently I have no idea why these girls feel so mad about what im doing, they've been getting a bit too comfortable lately and have been making "jokes" about cutting my hair when im not looking because it's apperantly too long, im at my wits end please help

Those girls are jealous of u. Some of them probably wish they can take it off. My advice would be to cut contact with any girls tht give u tht type of energy and if u can find girls tht dont wear it like urself, make them ur friends. A lot of somali girls gossip about each other and if they see 1 thing ur doing thts not the norm they will latch on to it.Dont let them get close 2 u

 

[SaMale]

Beat up the biggest girl in the group, then they'll see you as the alpha and leave you alone

Absolutely, domination is domination, male or fem

 

[rayxn3]

The same thing used to happen to my friend in school when she took her hijab off. Some hijabis can be very judgemental over things like that and I also think it stems from jealousy like others mentioned.

Distance yourself from them.

 

[caanoshaah]

When I was in hs a Somali girl asked me why I don’t wear a hijab then the next year she turned into a lesbian and started dating this transgender cadaan girl, all while wearing a jilbaab Wallahi I never forgot ab that, I wish I was joking. The cadaan girl was hideous and beat ASF too. I also got tea apparently the cadaan girl was aromantic or something? Then why tf jump into a relationship?!? None of it made sense

 

[roses4me]

When I was in hs a Somali girl asked me why I don’t wear a hijab then the next year she turned into a lesbian and started dating this transgender cadaan girl, all while wearing a jilbaab Wallahi I never forgot ab that, I wish I was joking. The cadaan girl was hideous and beat ASF too. Apparently I also got tea the cadaan girl was aromantic or something? Then why tf jump into a relationship?!? None of it made sense

OMG wth that's actually hilarious

 

[caanoshaah]

OMG wth that's actually hilarious

RIGHT WALLAHI I WISH I WAS MAKING THIS UP THE SHOCKKK ON MY FACE WHEN I FOUND OUT


No offense, it’s just jealously wallahi. Idk how crazy these girls you’re dealing with are tho so I’ll refrain on giving advice for now but I sympathize with you wallahi, keep us posted and trust me when I say I put up with a lot of shit from somali b*tchesMy childhood was crazy I would be targeted and ostracized nonstop even from family like wtfff just cuz I grew up in an cadaan area, make it make sense. Some Somali girls will deadass bully you over anything, I wish u the best of luck

 

[roses4me]

RIGHT WALLAHI I WISH I WAS MAKING THIS UP THE SHOCKKK ON MY FACE WHEN I FOUND OUT


No offense, it’s just jealously wallahi. Idk how crazy these girls you’re dealing with are tho so I’ll refrain on giving advice for now but I sympathize with you wallahi, keep us posted and trust me when I say I put up with a lot of shit from somali b*tchesMy childhood was crazy I would be targeted and ostracized nonstop even from family like wtfff just cuz I grew up in an cadaan area, make it make sense. Some Somali girls will deadass bully you over anything, I wish u the best of luck

Thanks <3

 

[farfaraway]

For context im a non hijabi (im working on it)
And these other Somali girls at school who I barely even know are being so passive aggressive to me about it
-"Where's your hijab?"
-"it's not THAT hard to put one on. I started when I was 9."
-"I think your just seeking attention...." ????
I dress modestly and even go out with a group of other girls at the mosque pretty frequently I have no idea why these girls feel so mad about what im doing, they've been getting a bit too comfortable lately and have been making "jokes" about cutting my hair when im not looking because it's apperantly too long, im at my wits end please help

HEY BAE! Late reply but i experience the same, but with Arab hijabis which is so confusing cause why are they in my business. Its honestly a matter of completely ignoring them like its sad and obsessive behaviour but it has to do with issues they are experiencing that corelates to their own self worth. Nobody whos doing well is trying to make another persons day bad. I also dont understand why they feel so entitled But idk what to do either but try your best to distance yourself from them girl🫶