HuunoHunter
Old Head 👴🏿
My heart goes out to this brother walahi. His duas were accepted. Subhan Allah.
My name is Nurkey, I’m male and I really need your help to overcome this.
I married my uncle’s daughter through a halal nikah witnessed by her father, two other elder uncles, and family. We lived peacefully until I lost my job and then she strongly insisted to visit parents. Her visits usually took almost a month each, and on the last visit I realized that she was elsewhere with another man. This shocked me after I phoned a number (not hers) that had phoned me earlier and a lady -equally surprised and shocked- answered and asked me three times if it was really true that I was married to her as I claimed. I even had to swear by Allah to prove to her that I was her legal Muslim husband and still in marriage. She disclosed to me how my wife was brought to them by her cousin’s brother, and she and him had stated to date, and they told her that my wife is a divorcee, and that she was already pregnant with his child by a month.
By then she was away for two months since leaving our house. They then told her they were planning to get married, SUBHANALLAH! INA LILAHI WA INA ILEYI RAJIUUN. I was totally shocked and even shivered as I felt my body freeze, unable to move. When I finally got her on phone she denied and swore by ALLAH that even the said pregnancy was a lie. Later on, before her elder sister, she swore and denied it again but refused to go for a test. My uncles then turned against me when I told them, warning me not to defame their daughter and family as they are respected religiously.
Later the woman and her man ran away 1000 kilometers to where her dad had moved. Surprisingly, the dad married my wife to him without my divorce, and then all my uncles teamed up against me and told me to do whatever I want. This they did despite my cries, pleading and my tears. It was done, as I came to learn, as a way to hide shame and conceal embarrassment by their daughter; but to me it really hurt and depressed me. I even swore to them by ALLAH’s 99 names that I never mistreated her or made her sleep hungry even one day and I never did any zina to warrant this, and even our neighbors are witnesses.
Then lastly when no one heeded my cries, I turned to my CREATOR and my ONE TRUE GOD, ALLAH (S.W) and prayed salatul leyl and asked HIM to prove it to all, and to let the said pregnancy stand between us, and if indeed it’s halal, to be protected by HIM; but if its haram and through adultery or zina that it be shown out to all.
The alleged husband, when I told him through the phone that I hadn’t divorced that woman, said he will “f–k my a–” should I follow them there! Her sisters insulted me with very bad words too, and I really felt hurt and too helpless to do anything. They did this because I’m poor and cannot even afford bus fare to reach them.
The most sad part of all is that after seven months she developed high blood pressure, so high she got hospitalized for a week, and no one bothered to inform me. Later, the baby died in her womb and she was operated on and she also died some days after that operation. Her uncles and sisters tried to phone me to get her my forgiveness before she was buried but my phone was off that day. Until today, one and a half years later, I’m unable to overcome and even forgive her. I have cut my relationship with the uncles.
So please help me, it has me so depressed and has become an illness in sadness! Surely, do I deserve to pay her mahr? And if so, to whom? My uncles who did the haram second nikah? it’s so painful to me. This whole thing has refused to get out of my heart and chest and has grounded me completely, and I’m unable to be myself or even focus ahead.
Please advise me.
-nuraali
https://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/wife-committed-zina-pregnant-haram-nikkah/
My name is Nurkey, I’m male and I really need your help to overcome this.
I married my uncle’s daughter through a halal nikah witnessed by her father, two other elder uncles, and family. We lived peacefully until I lost my job and then she strongly insisted to visit parents. Her visits usually took almost a month each, and on the last visit I realized that she was elsewhere with another man. This shocked me after I phoned a number (not hers) that had phoned me earlier and a lady -equally surprised and shocked- answered and asked me three times if it was really true that I was married to her as I claimed. I even had to swear by Allah to prove to her that I was her legal Muslim husband and still in marriage. She disclosed to me how my wife was brought to them by her cousin’s brother, and she and him had stated to date, and they told her that my wife is a divorcee, and that she was already pregnant with his child by a month.
By then she was away for two months since leaving our house. They then told her they were planning to get married, SUBHANALLAH! INA LILAHI WA INA ILEYI RAJIUUN. I was totally shocked and even shivered as I felt my body freeze, unable to move. When I finally got her on phone she denied and swore by ALLAH that even the said pregnancy was a lie. Later on, before her elder sister, she swore and denied it again but refused to go for a test. My uncles then turned against me when I told them, warning me not to defame their daughter and family as they are respected religiously.
Later the woman and her man ran away 1000 kilometers to where her dad had moved. Surprisingly, the dad married my wife to him without my divorce, and then all my uncles teamed up against me and told me to do whatever I want. This they did despite my cries, pleading and my tears. It was done, as I came to learn, as a way to hide shame and conceal embarrassment by their daughter; but to me it really hurt and depressed me. I even swore to them by ALLAH’s 99 names that I never mistreated her or made her sleep hungry even one day and I never did any zina to warrant this, and even our neighbors are witnesses.
Then lastly when no one heeded my cries, I turned to my CREATOR and my ONE TRUE GOD, ALLAH (S.W) and prayed salatul leyl and asked HIM to prove it to all, and to let the said pregnancy stand between us, and if indeed it’s halal, to be protected by HIM; but if its haram and through adultery or zina that it be shown out to all.
The alleged husband, when I told him through the phone that I hadn’t divorced that woman, said he will “f–k my a–” should I follow them there! Her sisters insulted me with very bad words too, and I really felt hurt and too helpless to do anything. They did this because I’m poor and cannot even afford bus fare to reach them.
The most sad part of all is that after seven months she developed high blood pressure, so high she got hospitalized for a week, and no one bothered to inform me. Later, the baby died in her womb and she was operated on and she also died some days after that operation. Her uncles and sisters tried to phone me to get her my forgiveness before she was buried but my phone was off that day. Until today, one and a half years later, I’m unable to overcome and even forgive her. I have cut my relationship with the uncles.
So please help me, it has me so depressed and has become an illness in sadness! Surely, do I deserve to pay her mahr? And if so, to whom? My uncles who did the haram second nikah? it’s so painful to me. This whole thing has refused to get out of my heart and chest and has grounded me completely, and I’m unable to be myself or even focus ahead.
Please advise me.
-nuraali
https://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/wife-committed-zina-pregnant-haram-nikkah/
what kind of cuckery is this. Why is he still asking whether he should pay mehr after all they did to him.
