Unpopular opinion: Non hijabis shouldn't be judged, or atleast so harshly

[roses4me]

(Before anyone says something, remember this was posted in the womens den. Id greatly appreciate if only other hijabis or non hijabis would share their opinions on this rather than someone's who's never worn one. I don't have access to the Female only sub forum yet so this is the best I can do.)

As a non-hijabi, I often see and hear judgments about women who choose not to wear the hijab. Here’s my take: Islam is deeply personal, and everyone’s journey with their faith is unique.

Wearing a hijab is one way to express devotion, but it’s not the only way. I pray, read the Quran, and strive to live by Islamic principles. My relationship with Allah is between Him and me, not subject to public approval.

I've been called Gallo for my decision and have been told that it's not that hard to just wear from the age of 8 to the day I die, mostly by men who will never experience wearing one.

Instead of focusing on outward appearances, let’s focus on the content of our hearts and actions. Judging others based on whether they wear a hijab distracts us from what really matters in our faith: kindness, compassion, and sincerity.

In the end, we all answer to Allah alone. So, maybe we should spend less time worrying about what’s on someone else’s head and more time on what’s in our own hearts ♡

 

[Awdalite]

Why is this controversial or unpopular? Nobody should be judged. Everyone is on their own journey. Besides judging doesn't work.

Always know that those who judge have their own skeletons in their closet. He who is without sin cast the first stone.

 

[Gojo Satoru]

(Before anyone says something, remember this was posted in the womens den. Id greatly appreciate if only other hijabis or non hijabis would share their opinions on this rather than someone's who's never worn one. I don't have access to the Female only sub forum yet so this is the best I can do.)

As a non-hijabi, I often see and hear judgments about women who choose not to wear the hijab. Here’s my take: Islam is deeply personal, and everyone’s journey with their faith is unique.

Wearing a hijab is one way to express devotion, but it’s not the only way. I pray, read the Quran, and strive to live by Islamic principles. My relationship with Allah is between Him and me, not subject to public approval.

I've been called Gallo for my decision and have been told that it's not that hard to just wear from the age of 8 to the day I die, mostly by men who will never experience wearing one.

Instead of focusing on outward appearances, let’s focus on the content of our hearts and actions. Judging others based on whether they wear a hijab distracts us from what really matters in our faith: kindness, compassion, and sincerity.

In the end, we all answer to Allah alone. So, maybe we should spend less time worrying about what’s on someone else’s head and more time on what’s in our own hearts ♡

Being judgemental is against the religion anyways but many people forget that

 

[Pearl of the Indian Ocean]

Being judgemental is against the religion anyways but many people forget that

Not really it’s explicitly mentioned to judge by what is apparent

 

[roses4me]

Why is this controversial or unpopular? Nobody should be judged. Everyone is on their own journey. Besides judging doesn't work.

Always know that those who judge have their own skeletons in their closet. He who is without sin cast the first stone.

It's controversial bc some people think no hijab= not muslim. Literally had some dude on this forum blame me for not wearing a hijab when I made a post of a old creep stalking my social media and telling my siblings to inform my parents that they need to "punish" me. He said "where's the accountability?" And that i was an apostate or something

 

[Gojo Satoru]

Not really it’s explicitly mentioned to judge by what is apparent

But the extent at which people judge others isn't allowed

 

[Awdalite]

It's controversial bc some people think no hijab= not muslim. Literally had some dude on this forum blame me for not wearing a hijab when I made a post of a old creep stalking my social media and telling my siblings to inform my parents that they need to "punish" me. He said "where's the accountability?" And that i was an apostate or something

Under what authority do they have to comment on your relationship with Allah? Have they been guaranteed Paradise themselves?

If they called you an apostate for the hijab then they're the ones who are more likely to be what they accuse you of because the Prophet saw said anyone who calls someone kafir unjustly has it thrown back at them. So they're in very dangerous territory if they do that.

 

[Journey.]

Why do you struggle with putting on the hijab? And do you plan to wear it eventually?

 

[burhaan]

Why do you struggle with putting on the hijab? And do you plan to wear it eventually?

you become easy target in non muslim country by islamophobics i suggest she live in muslim country instead

 

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I do find it pathetic, hypocritical and rude, when I see so-called Muslim men harassing ladies about hijab, when they don't even look like Muslims in public. Muslim women are the flagbearers of Islam and have to carry the brunt of islamophobia. But these ingrates, want to judge us women, who are brave for even stepping out the house, for minor slip-ups. They actually make me feel sick, which is why I block most Muslim men with a podcast on social media.

 

[Journey.]

you become easy target in non muslim country by islamophobics i suggest she live in muslim country instead

That could be part of the reason, especially if you live in an area with few Muslims and many racists. But you also have Muslim women who don't wear hijab/struggle with it in Muslim countries, so there's more to it.

 

[roses4me]

Why do you struggle with putting on the hijab? And do you plan to wear it eventually?

I struggle because I was peer pressured into wearing it by friends and family, which led me to resenting it for around 7 years. I started when I was 8 and I felt scared to take it off because I didn't want to lose any of my muslim friends for being "bad". Now I've developed a bad relationship it, I dont know if I'll ever even touch one again

 

[Im_✨]

(Before anyone says something, remember this was posted in the womens den. Id greatly appreciate if only other hijabis or non hijabis would share their opinions on this rather than someone's who's never worn one. I don't have access to the Female only sub forum yet so this is the best I can do.)

As a non-hijabi, I often see and hear judgments about women who choose not to wear the hijab. Here’s my take: Islam is deeply personal, and everyone’s journey with their faith is unique.

Wearing a hijab is one way to express devotion, but it’s not the only way. I pray, read the Quran, and strive to live by Islamic principles. My relationship with Allah is between Him and me, not subject to public approval.

I've been called Gallo for my decision and have been told that it's not that hard to just wear from the age of 8 to the day I die, mostly by men who will never experience wearing one.

Instead of focusing on outward appearances, let’s focus on the content of our hearts and actions. Judging others based on whether they wear a hijab distracts us from what really matters in our faith: kindness, compassion, and sincerity.

In the end, we all answer to Allah alone. So, maybe we should spend less time worrying about what’s on someone else’s head and more time on what’s in our own hearts ♡

Yh we shouldnt judge but they should be advised by another sister who is an islamic scholar in private with proper etiquette

 

[Journey.]

I struggle because I was peer pressured into wearing it by friends and family, which led me to resenting it for around 7 years. I started when I was 8 and I felt scared to take it off because I didn't want to lose any of my muslim friends for being "bad". Now I've developed a bad relationship it, I dont know if I'll ever even touch one again

Just as you said that your prayers, reading Qur'an etc., are all for Allah ﷻ, the hijab too is for Allah ﷻ. This command, like others, came from Him ﷻ and there is wisdom behind it and a great reward for implementing it and being patient with it. It's regretful that your family and peers soured your relationship with the hijab, but at the end of the day, it has little to do with them and everything to do with you and your relationship with Allah ﷻ. Don't let anyone get in between that.

On your own terms, and not taking into account people's judgement or reaction, try to reintroduced the hijab gradually into your life. It could just be putting it on whenever you visit the Masjid or go to Islamic talks/lectures, or even during the month of Ramadan. Try to get used to it and comfortable wearing it. The hijab/abayah industry is booming and there are so many modest styles that are beautiful and elegant to wear.

At the end of the day sis, it's mandatory for us to wear once we reach puberty, and it's not worth racking up sins because of other people's actions. We will all answer for ourselves on the day of Judgment. May Allah make it easy for you and all other sisters struggling with this.