Was I too harsh?

[Mckenzie]

I had the craziest week and I spat a few home truths to my cousin which looking back I feel so bad about, work with me here;

Being my partner in crime since we were kids, we always did clumsy shit that got atleast 1 of us in trouble, we use to keep an IOU on the damages that occur as a result of our behaviour, let's just say that joka has topped the charts with it, I finally snapped.

He borrowed my car for a few months to another town and he got 4 parking tickets, I got letters being sent to my house,

He didn't tell me this (I don't think he was aware that I would find out, or maybe?)

When I decided I was gonna get charged and will have to pay it off, I didn't want to ask him what's going on, just to test him.

When he came back to town, I had a dossier on he chilled with and got whatever shit he did to my car

I wouldn't have been mad if he did silly fuckboy antics with it, waxaas waa laysku leeyahay as Somalis say. But shit man don't get me fined it ain't much to ask for you know!

Anyway when I kept quiet about the fines I waited for a while to see if he been rolling with money lately

He came over one time with new crepz and he said it was his "payday pat on the back" I said wtf dude why ain't you come clean about my car, dude look hella frightened (we big men u know )

I said the coldest shit to him at this point

"You were always a failure in my eyes because you aren't man enough to understand what it means to be honest to me, you probably expected me to let you screw me like that and suck it up, you took my sharaf for a joke, get the f*ck out my life and I hope your dead brother who got shot burns in hell too" (his brother was a tuug I'm not even being biased he once stole my old phone from my old house when I wasn't looking and sold it to some guy I know Allaha unnaxariisto that nigga )

Anyway, we haven't spoken for 8 months. I found out this week his mum (my habaryar labaad) passed away, she knew about the shit that happened and what I said and I never got to make peace with them (not even sure that would have been possible given the severity of language I used)

I saw him at his mums funeral and tried to talk to him, he gave me back a cold truth that sent shock waves which has me lost in thought today

His tuug brother died because of something he did, dad ayuu lasoo dagaalay and they couldn't get to him so they targeted his tuug brother. Though that was a disturbing thing to hear, He was so disturbed about what I said about his brother and he still can't forgive me for what I did.

I been listening to Wiz Khalifa "See you Again" all evening

It's not cool to cut ties with ppl you've known all your lives

 

[Siddhartha]

You don't know meaning of family

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Yes you were harsh. You wished his dead brother (your cousin) to rot in hell over some parking tickets and an old phone he stole. There's no coming back from that. Give him sometime and talk to him from the heart. Make sure to present your frustration in an mature manner, hopefully he will forgive you.

 

[sinister]

Personally I do think you went too far, but that doesn't mean you should have let him off. He was being an idiot. He seems really irresponsible.

I think you should just get an apology to him. He should feel inclined to pay you back the money, and if he does you should 'squash the beef' as you ciyaalo suuq say. And never speak of it again. Family is family. Even stupid family is still family.

 

[Mckenzie]

You don't know meaning of family

 

[Yannie]

Yeah, you were super harsh. But you said it in a moment of anger next time when you are angry walk away. Well , I say keep on trying to make peace with your friend who knows he may someday forgive you and you guys can become friends again.

 

[gurey]

Spending too much time with family members can be a problem niyow.

 

[Mckenzie]

Yes you were harsh. You wished his dead brother (your cousin) to rot in hell over some parking tickets and an old phone he stole. There's no coming back from that. Give him sometime and talk to him from the heart. Make sure to present your frustration in an mature manner, hopefully he will forgive you.

That was really nice to hear of you Reiko.

Personally I do think you went too far, but that doesn't mean you should have let him off. He was being an idiot. He seems really irresponsible.

I think you should just get an apology to him. He should feel inclined to pay you back the money, and if he does you should 'squash the beef' as you ciyaalo suuq say. And never speak of it again. Family is family. Even stupid family is still family.

Well that's the issue nigga still ain't paying up he pulled the family card on me, this is something only ciyaal suuq can understand. I know he isn't too fazed about what I said but he wants me to assume so. If I call him tomorrow and tell him I forgive him for the money he will be cool about everything. Talk about emotional blackmail

 

[Mercury]

I had the craziest week and I spat a few home truths to my cousin which looking back I feel so bad about, work with me here;

Being my partner in crime since we were kids, we always did clumsy shit that got atleast 1 of us in trouble, we use to keep an IOU on the damages that occur as a result of our behaviour, let's just say that joka has topped the charts with it, I finally snapped.

He borrowed my car for a few months to another town and he got 4 parking tickets, I got letters being sent to my house,

He didn't tell me this (I don't think he was aware that I would find out, or maybe?)

When I decided I was gonna get charged and will have to pay it off, I didn't want to ask him what's going on, just to test him.

When he came back to town, I had a dossier on he chilled with and got whatever shit he did to my car

I wouldn't have been mad if he did silly fuckboy antics with it, waxaas waa laysku leeyahay as Somalis say. But shit man don't get me fined it ain't much to ask for you know!

Anyway when I kept quiet about the fines I waited for a while to see if he been rolling with money lately

He came over one time with new crepz and he said it was his "payday pat on the back" I said wtf dude why ain't you come clean about my car, dude look hella frightened (we big men u know )

I said the coldest shit to him at this point

"You were always a failure in my eyes because you aren't man enough to understand what it means to be honest to me, you probably expected me to let you screw me like that and suck it up, you took my sharaf for a joke, get the f*ck out my life and I hope your dead brother who got shot burns in hell too" (his brother was a tuug I'm not even being biased he once stole my old phone from my old house when I wasn't looking and sold it to some guy I know Allaha unnaxariisto that nigga )

Anyway, we haven't spoken for 8 months. I found out this week his mum (my habaryar labaad) passed away, she knew about the shit that happened and what I said and I never got to make peace with them (not even sure that would have been possible given the severity of language I used)

I saw him at his mums funeral and tried to talk to him, he gave me back a cold truth that sent shock waves which has me lost in thought today

His tuug brother died because of something he did, dad ayuu lasoo dagaalay and they couldn't get to him so they targeted his tuug brother. Though that was a disturbing thing to hear, He was so disturbed about what I said about his brother and he still can't forgive me for what I did.

I been listening to Wiz Khalifa "See you Again" all evening

It's not cool to cut ties with ppl you've known all your lives

you went a bit overboard with the brother thing other than tha sounded reasonable to me

 

[sinister]

That was really nice to hear of you Reiko.



Well that's the issue nigga still ain't paying up he pulled the family card on me, this is something only ciyaal suuq can understand. I know he isn't too fazed about what I said but he wants me to assume so. If I call him tomorrow and tell him I forgive him for the money he will be cool about everything. Talk about emotional blackmail

In that case you need to call him up and repeat what you said but include his mother this time as well. This ciyaal suuq has to learn one way or another.

 

[Reign]

That was a bit harsh. He shouldn't have lied about the tickets but you shouldn't have reacted that badly. Why didn't you just tell him to pay for it instead of being horrible?

Btw are where u from? I heard about a boy in north London that got killed because they got the wrong brother.

 

[DiricLover]

Wow, you were very harsh with him bringing up his dead brother AUN. What he did was inexcusable and just ciyaalsuuqnimo but you should've just asked him to pay up

 

[Mercury]

Personally I do think you went too far, but that doesn't mean you should have let him off. He was being an idiot. He seems really irresponsible.

I think you should just get an apology to him. He should feel inclined to pay you back the money, and if he does you should 'squash the beef' as you ciyaalo suuq say. And never speak of it again. Family is family. Even stupid family is still family.

i agree with you but I think the guy been avoiding to pay up

 

[Mckenzie]

In that case you need to call him up and repeat what you said but include his mother this time as well. This ciyaal suuq has to learn one way or another.

I think I'm just gonna let it go, clearly I said the wrong thing and I want a clear conscience. Even if money get to others peoples head i will try my best not to get it into mine. I will make umrah for his brother and his mum when I go Omrah next year inshallah.

That was a bit harsh. He shouldn't have lied about the tickets but you shouldn't have reacted that badly. Why didn't you just tell him to pay for it instead of being horrible?

Btw are where u from? I heard about a boy in north London that got killed because they got the wrong brother.

I moved from Bristol to Croydon but that fam were from Tottenham

 

[Mckenzie]

Wow, you were very harsh with him bringing up his dead brother AUN. What he did was inexcusable and just ciyaalsuuqnimo but you should've just asked him to pay up

But why can't he be a man about the damages he's caused me and try make it right himself how can he just act like he don't owe me shit

 

[Ferrari]

How can you lose your composure over money? You need to work on your temper bro because even a friend doesn't deserve that. What did the dead guy (aun) do to you? Waad xanansuuntahay waryaa.

 

[Tramo]

yea that was fucked up bro. isnt his dead brother AUN your cousin too? u gon habaar him over some parking tickets dawg

just be honest and apologize sincerely. ur cousins, you'll squash the beef hopefully

 

[Mckenzie]

yea that was fucked up bro. isnt his dead brother AUN your cousin too? u gon habaar him over some parking tickets dawg

just be honest and apologize sincerely. ur cousins, you'll squash the beef hopefully

Brah it's the lack of principle they had with me that got me worked up. They were both extremely selfish niggas and I did one too many favours for them. I secretly feel happy that I let him know exactly how I feel. There are some things that just can't be kept quiet for too long,

Let's just say they were the type who wouldn't move an inch to save my life but I'd have run a mile to save theirs. It was that real

Ppl saying family is family, family don't mean shit! Just because we happened to be born into the same group of ppl we expect them to look out for us but Ive learnt a lesson in life which I didn't wish it would come to me this way

 

[VixR]

It's the dead brother thing that escalates it, beyond that it wasn't harsh.

Is that usual? Are you that type to get mouthy with KOs when you get upset?

 

[Abdalla]

His brother was killed for something your friend did. I am sure he is devastated about that and you used it against him.

Everyone has a fucked up cousin, you don't shun them, you cherish them.