What do you guys think?

[Inquisitive_]

Sharing your ambitions and goals before you have achieved them is a folly, it's actually a form of arrogance and pride, your showing off, especially if your telling this to a person that hasn't achieved those things.

It's the quickest way for you to loose all blessings in your endeavours and in most cases you will never achieve them.

Your also giving the shayateen's that want harm for you an opportunity to spoil it, which is really the prime reason why you should never tell anyone even your own mother, especially if your practising.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Obviously she's competing with you but why tell people of your plans anyway? You should only tell people your plan if it is also theirs and you have a common purpose.

I think i conveyed that in my long ass essay above. I do not share my secrets. I just wanted to get something off my chest because i kept it for so long. We all have moments like that in life.I will have to live with it and hope for the best.

 

[Sophisticate]

Why is her, accomplishing what you wanted suddenly stop you from doing the same?

I think this has more to do with issues concerning trust. You likely feel let down that she did not confide in you to the same degree. Some people are like that. If you take issue with it tell her how it made you feel.

Some people benefit from telling others about their aspirations as it can create a sense of accountability. However, it's at your discretion.

I never shoot down people's ambitions down as I see multiple opportunities for people to succeed and make a contribution in different ways. And if they don't reach a particular ambition. There could be a multitude of reasons/factors.

Everyone is coming to the table with a differing aptitude and attitude level on a particular topic/subject/skill. You could be similarly matched but overlooked by recruiters, such is life. Everyone is rejected at some point and some times by people or places that in retrospect would not have been the right fit. I think focusing on what you can do and what is within your control is more effective than comparing yourself.

Anyway if you feel like you need to fortify a particular skill you could always invest time in honing your subject-matter expertise or polishing your soft skills. If you want good things out of life you must seek out those who have what you want to be they through mentors (be they in books or in-person), training (formal and informal) or the readily available massive open online courses (Coursea, Udacity, Udemy etc).

I have no clue what you're ambitions are so bare with me.

 

[VixR]

Now that you’ve seen their nature, don’t share with that particular person anymore. But don’t make the mistake of closing yourself off to everyone.

It’s the reason people have become depressed nowadays. We’re not meant to bottle things and keep to ourselves. We’re social creatures. It’s not only good, but necessary to be vulnerable and to open up to people, even though it might open you up to hurt. The important thing is to be discerning of their character.

Sometimes you’ll misjudge that, or you’ll find yourself in a situation where you knew better than to disclose something to a certain person, but that’s life. There’ll be other relationships where it’s rewarding. Once you see the other side of it, you won’t choose to go back to being closed off.

 

[Jaydaan]

I think i conveyed that in my long ass essay above. I do not share my secrets. I just wanted to get something off my chest because i kept it for so long. We all have moments like that in life.I will have to live with it and hope for the best.

Sister I habaar has very high success rate. If you want be to send her some her way....I will happily oblige.

 

[Basra]

So i am very picky with who i allow into my life including family...not to say that i completely block people i mean dont share a lot my personal stuff with them i try to keep minimum. So i recently broke down confided to one my relatives i told her not to share it with anyone she promised to not share with anyone. It was comforting and i belived her. Then couple days later i confided in her again but this time it was about something else. About future plans that i wanted to do. After that few month later i was not able to accomplish those plans however she went did exactly that . I was happy for her but at the same time i was dumbfounded. I couldnt not figure out if she was secretly competing with me or if she actually wanted it and if she did why didnt she share it worh me not that she had to but i was just confused. Now
I am worried that she will share my secret to others. Am i being paranoid?
I honestly do not hate on anyone at the same time i dont like being close with someone who's secretly competing with me . i dont want this to come off like that i guess i have trust issues. Next time I'll keep my secrets to myself lol.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?

My dear Hibo


Your personality is best suited being alone. U r paranoid, untrusting, and have a natural jealous streak.

 

[YourBroMoe]

So i am very picky with who i allow into my life including family...not to say that i completely block people i mean dont share a lot my personal stuff with them i try to keep minimum. So i recently broke down confided to one my relatives i told her not to share it with anyone she promised to not share with anyone. It was comforting and i belived her. Then couple days later i confided in her again but this time it was about something else. About future plans that i wanted to do. After that few month later i was not able to accomplish those plans however she went did exactly that . I was happy for her but at the same time i was dumbfounded. I couldnt not figure out if she was secretly competing with me or if she actually wanted it and if she did why didnt she share it worh me not that she had to but i was just confused. Now
I am worried that she will share my secret to others. Am i being paranoid?
I honestly do not hate on anyone at the same time i dont like being close with someone who's secretly competing with me . i dont want this to come off like that i guess i have trust issues. Next time I'll keep my secrets to myself lol.
Has anything like this ever happened to you?

You're overthinking things. She probably thought your future plans were a good idea, and went with it herself, without really thinking about it the day you confided on her. So long as she doesn't do evil things to you, you shouldn't be overthinking it.

 

[Halimo-2018]

My dear Hibo


Your personality is best suited being alone. U r paranoid, untrusting, and have a natural jealous streak.

Have you wond, there is a reason for the way i am? You can't decide what my future holds especially when i didn't ask you to. Just because i like Being in control of who i allow into my private space doesn't mean i ahould be alone.
Stay on topic or bounce.
Peace!

 

[Basra]

Have you wond, there is a reason for the way i am? You can't decide what my future holds especially when i didn't ask you to. Just because i like Being in control of who i allow into my private space doesn't mean i ahould be alone.
Stay on topic or bounce.
Peace!

Hayee Huuno...let me back up while curtsying, walking backwards until I exit the door.

 

[NAAFO]

I am not even the type to brag or worry about ayn. I honestly dislike people that are obsess about evil eye and ayn. Thats just not me. This wasn't about that at all which is why am caught off guard.

@Halimo-2018 sister it sounds like to me even though I'm not trying to project anything,

is that the relative you confided in is someone who is insecure and is trying to be compete with you I'm assuming their an elder female relative perhaps like an aunt, however in this case a narcissist.

As I really do think their is a lot of elder female relatives who feel threatened at times by their younger counterparts such as nieces, daughters, etc sadly their is a lot of narcissisms that is at times present in these certain female elder relatives.

Even sadly including mothers, but this is also a male phenomenon too I guess these insecure elder relatives find it hard to accept that they'll have to make way for the young, strong, and virile,

of which I only have two of those things except strength lol but anyway that's why sometimes you find elders whether male/female who like to compensate due to these insecurity's