what is one thing you would want to do differently than your parents?

[angrycat]

inshallah if i have kids I hope that I wouldn't be too strict with them on day to day matters. I mean, I would still make sure they are living in accordance with islam of course, but I wouldn't but I wouldn't expect them to have a particular career choice or do everything in a certain way (which is how it was at my house loool) like if one my kids wants to get dreadlocks or dye their hair a different color, I wouldn't care as long (as they aren't up to anything haram), I'd give them leeway to have their own personality and whatnot.

maybe it's just me, but It seems like *most* somali household discourage individuality?

on a sidenote my parents were actually and are great parents alhamdulilah

 

[Hawkish]

inshallah if i have kids I hope that I wouldn't be too strict with them on day to day matters. I mean, I would still make sure they are living in accordance with islam of course, but I wouldn't but I wouldn't expect them to have a particular career choice or do everything in a certain way (which is how it was at my house loool) like if one my kids wants to get dreadlocks or dye their hair a different color, I wouldn't care as long (as they aren't up to anything haram), I'd give them leeway to have their own personality and whatnot.

maybe it's just me, but It seems like *most* somali household discourage individuality?

on a sidenote my parents were actually and are great parents alhamdulilah

Would take them to museums, zoos & aquariums every other month. Would enrol them into hiking, karate & go karting. Would take them travelling to make sure they are cultured. Would let them enjoy being a kid to the fullest.

 

[JohnDoe]

Would take them to museums, zoos & aquariums every other month. Would enrol them into hiking, karate & go karting. Would take them travelling to make sure they are cultured. Would let them enjoy being a kid to the fullest.

I wouldn't impose my beliefs on them and I'd encourage them to take everything they hear with a pinch of salt.

 

[Apollo]

I wouldn't send the kids to a dugsi and waste time memorizing Arabic sounds without understanding what the heck you are memorizing.

 

[Sixth]

Destroy them on their own video game consoles.

 

[kernel]

I'm not gonna beat my kids. I believe psychological discipline is more effective anyway. Can't lie tho, that sleep after your parents karbaashed yo ass was nice af

 

[Zuleikha]

My childhood was amazing and I wouldn't trade it with anything. I wouldn't do anything differently than the way my parents raised me. My parents are my role models.

 

[angrycat]

I'm not gonna beat my kids. I believe psychological discipline is more effective anyway. Can't lie tho, that sleep after your parents karbaashed yo ass was nice af

lol *hick* *hick**gasp* *sniffle* *hick*

 

[angrycat]

I wouldn't send the kids to a dugsi and waste time memorizing Arabic sounds without understanding what the heck you are memorizing.

it doesn't hurt to memorize it when you are young, and learn as you go along. that's how I did it

 

[Hawkish]

it doesn't hurt to memorize it when you are young, and learn as you go along. that's how I did it

Oh but it does. The kids have no choice but to have foreign poetry rammed down their throats or risk physical harm.

 

[Mercury]

Well If I had kids Id be chill for The most part If they do good in school and avoid haram things id spoil em With alot of love and gifts

One thing id do different than my parents is I wouldnt force my daughters to Cook and clean instead Everybody would pitch in If you aint helping you aint eating

Another thing is Id always keep my word no matter what this One time me and my friend were waiting for my dad since he was our ride home my dad arrived 2 hours later while we stood there under The tree covering from the Rain my dad comes running and we get happy

Cause we thought he feels bad that hes late than he tells us we gotta run since its only a 5 min parking..

 

[kernel]

it doesn't hurt to memorize it when you are young, and learn as you go along. that's how I did it

Agreed. @Amun just send them to dugsi to learn alif baa taa etc.. and the Tajweed while their youngings. Give them a solid foundation. The Quran is very complex and deals with a lot of adult topics like adultery, divorce, apostasy, etc.. They won't even understand at such a young age. Once they have a good foundation and they mature enough send them to Tafsir classes. That's what I'd do at least.

 

[angrycat]

Well If I had kids Id be chill for The most part If they do good in school and avoid haram things id spoil em With alot of love and gifts

One thing id do different than my parents is I wouldnt force my daughters to Cook and clean instead Everybody would pitch in If you aint helping you aint eating

Another thing is Id always keep my word no matter what this One time me and my friend were waiting for my dad since he was our ride home my dad arrived 2 hours later while we stood there under The tree covering from the Rain my dad comes running and we get happy

Cause we thought he feels bad that hes late than he tells us we gotta run since its only a 5 min parking..

oh yeah! I can't believe I forgot the cooking and cleaning,
smh velli xataa gaal miyaa

 

[Figo]

Nothing really I'd karbaash my kids more.

Ni99as gonna come home later for qado playing soccer
karbaash
Talks bad to elders
Karbaash
Uses inappropriate words
Karbaash

Forgets to say Asalamu Alaykum to guests when they come home
Karbaash

All in all they'll be a lot of karbaash in my home.

As @kernel Mentioned they'll get good naps after the karbaash I give them and thank me 20 years down the road.

 

[Hawkish]

Anyone who decides to think with reason and logic has to be Gaal I guess

 

[BebsiBolice]

Nothing Allhamdulilah my parents were and still are amazing.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

I wouldn't change anything. My childhood was beyond amazing.
My parents were and still are the most amazing parents a child could have.
I know for sure I can't be even a quarter good as my parents.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Nothing really I'd karbaash my kids more.

Ni99as gonna come home later for qado playing soccer
karbaash
Talks bad to elders
Karbaash
Uses inappropriate words
Karbaash

Forgets to say Asalamu Alaykum to guests when they come home
Karbaash

All in all they'll be a lot of karbaash in my home.

As @kernel Mentioned they'll get good naps after the karbaash I give them and thank me 20 years down the road.

Then they would hate your abusive ass and wouldnt read dua for you when you die smh.

 

[angrycat]

Anyone who decides to think with reason and logic has to be Gaal I guess

calling the quran poetry does for sure

 

[Figo]

Then they would hate your abusive ass and wouldnt read dua for you when you die smh.

Actually they'll love me and make dua for me.if you want qaali, You can be my third wife and you'll get bit of the karbaash too. Garaacis caadi ma aha dee a little spankings here and there.