Will your daughter wear the hijab?

[seoulmates]

Mine will not be wearing the hijab at all until she reaches puberty. I won’t have her dress modestly either. I’ll ask her when she reaches puberty if she wants to wear it, but it won’t be an expectation.

My own experience with the hijab formed this opinion tbh

What about you?

 

[wonyluvr]

No my daughter will make those decisions for herself

 

[Sigmundd]

She has to wear it when she reaches puberty I will encourage her to sometimes wear it outside her our house before puberty so she can get used to it when she does wear it full time.

 

[roses4me]

I would totally understand if she wouldn't wanna wear one since I've been in the same situation as I am a non hijabi. She can wear her hijab when she wants, I won't enforce it upon her since that will end up making her hate it instead. I would want her to wear it for Allah when she's ready and not for me <3

I wore the hijab from ages 8-15 and it wasn't the most pleasant experience

 

[Northern Swordsman]

Wtf are men doing here in the women's den

My bad didn't check the section

 

[Journey.]

Mine will not be wearing the hijab at all until she reaches puberty. I won’t have her dress modestly either. I’ll ask her when she reaches puberty if she wants to wear it, but it won’t be an expectation.

My own experience with the hijab formed this opinion tbh

What about you?

Do you wear the hijab?

I would buy baby hijabs that she can wear to dugsi and from the age of 7 she'd wear it to school also. Most importantly, I'll explain the importance of hijab so she ends up loving it and feeling proud to wear it. The thing with our parents is that they didn't explain the importance of hijab and why we should wear it, they just put it on us and sent us off. Seeing most people around you not wear it and you having to keep it on without understanding why is hard. I used to keep it on in school 99% of the time but still never took it seriously until I reached my teens and learnt more about the deen.

 

[Moon-]

i would get her hijabs but i wouldn't make her wear it only when she wants

i wore hijab on and off until i was 12 i didn't have any problems with it the only thing is my mum tried to force me to never wear trousers i would wear them behind her back tho that rlly bothered me bc i was really into sports and it just kinda pushed me away from that i couldn't run/play in any of the skirts she bought.

Also whats your standard for modest clothing?

 

[Backardee123]

Yes^^ What is modest clothing? are baggy pants considered modest? or is modest abaya only

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Just follow what Islam said about it, and the age of hijab is puberty. Before that, is overkill. Allah SWT has given us a life manual for a reason. A few years before puberty as practise is a good idea, and this is backed by scholars. So, maybe by age 9 if the average menses age is 12.

 

[Journey.]

@𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒 Puberty can start as early as 9. So it's a good idea as you say to get her used to it before then, like age 7 or even 8. I think what's important here is not being strict with it before her actual age of puberty. Some Somali parents were too strict/scary with it, my own cousin used to take it off in school and lost it one day. I saw her in the playground crying and panicking because she couldn't find it. This is primary school and there's no need to be causing your child this type of anxiety over it! (For the record, she doesn't wear hijab now. So this strictness is not even effective).

 

[seoulmates]

Yes^^ What is modest clothing? are baggy pants considered modest? or is modest abaya only

No I just mean like she won’t have to wear a goono or abaya because I was never allowed to wear pants. Doesn’t mean I’ll have my 5 year old in booty shorts or something.