24 and not married

24+ and married

  • Yes

    Votes: 9 28.1%

  • No

    Votes: 23 71.9%
  • Total voters
    32
Mahacagalla

Mahacagalla

Guys that marry a 20-24 year old but are 30-37 are just weird to me if I was single and 30+ never in a million years would I look at girls that age. That’s like 2 generations removed at this point. Marriage is about more than sex and raising kids.

I was talking to my older 30+ year old friend the other day about how many great halimos there are in Henny land in his age group that can relate to the stuff his generation experienced with great deen, degrees and jobs, but he wanna get with someone even younger than me lmao. There is nothing wrong with girls 20-24 I just think niggas in that bracket need to stay in their own lane.

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Ahmed321

Ahmed321

tima said:
Do you get harassed? My older siblings got married young. Brother 20 and sister 18 and my parents got married young too so I get harassed by everyone. If you're 24, 25 and older and not married what does hooyo, abo, and habaryars say to you?
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We all get that not a big deal, It's just that your parents tired of seeing your big forehead.
 
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tima

Mahacagalla said:
Lol you laugh abaayo but it’s only our culture that sees that as old. You can get married have kids and see them in college but you barely past 50.

Inshallah kheir you’ll settle down when it’s right.
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I know it isn’t lol. I don’t see it as old either. Majority of my friends are late 20s and I don’t see them as that different from me. But for my own sake I’m not getting married at 30. My parents will not allow that wll. :chrisfreshhah:
 
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tima

Mahacagalla said:
Guys that marry a 20-24 year old but are 30-37 are just weird to me if I was single and 30+ never in a million years would I look at girls that age. That’s like 2 generations removed at this point. Marriage is about more than sex and raising kids.

I was talking to my older 30+ year old friend the other day about how many great halimos there are in Henny land in his age group that can relate to the stuff his generation experienced with great deen, degrees and jobs, but he wanna get with someone even younger than me lmao. There is nothing wrong with girls 20-24 I just think niggas in that bracket need to stay in their own lane.

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Don’t encourage that please! :lolbron: I prefer older.
 
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416

Lmao
tima said:
Warya they’re not tired they just know all the good faraxs get snatched up and they don’t want me to be left with your kind.
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tima said:
I know it isn’t lol. I don’t see it as old either. Majority of my friends are late 20s and I don’t see them as that different from me. But for my own sake I’m not getting married at 30. My parents will not allow that wll. :chrisfreshhah:
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saying you give your parents madax xanuun:mjlol:
 
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Desert Flower

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I can't understand how someone can get "snatched" up. Is he a piece of clothing? A cake at a store? No. Two people meet and vibe, and if they like each other, they get married. Both choose to be with each other (assuming this is a normal, healthy relationship)

You just need to find that one person.
 
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Desert Flower

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Mahacagalla said:
Guys that marry a 20-24 year old but are 30-37 are just weird to me if I was single and 30+ never in a million years would I look at girls that age. That’s like 2 generations removed at this point. Marriage is about more than sex and raising kids.

I was talking to my older 30+ year old friend the other day about how many great halimos there are in Henny land in his age group that can relate to the stuff his generation experienced with great deen, degrees and jobs, but he wanna get with someone even younger than me lmao. There is nothing wrong with girls 20-24 I just think niggas in that bracket need to stay in their own lane.

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Everything you said here is facts.

Sorry, I don't want a jaded, 30+ year old guy with a belly and a bidaar (because lets be honest, Somali guys rarely take care of themselves as they age.)
 
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tima

Desert Flower said:
I can't understand how someone can get "snatched" up. Is he a piece of clothing? A cake at a store? No. Two people meet and vibe, and if they like each other, they get married. Both choose to be with each other (assuming this is a normal, healthy relationship)

You just need to find that one person.
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If you're referring to my comment it's not that serious. I just meant becomes married.
 
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Desert Flower

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tima said:
If you're referring to my comment it's not that serious. I just meant becomes married.
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I was stating my opinion, nothing more. Its fear mongering in a way because it implies that there are virtually no eligible Somali men (which isn't true, there are good guys out there). I don't want girls who aren't ready for marriage to agree to settle and marry the first nacaas they meet all because they were told that there aren't good men, since they have all been "snatched up." Its ridiculous and evokes a feeling of fear in women that isn't necessary.

I believe in tawakuul. Doing your part and leaving the rest to Allah.
 
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tima

Desert Flower said:
I was stating my opinion, nothing more. Its fear mongering in a way because it implies that there are virtually no eligible Somali men (which isn't true, there are good guys out there). I don't want girls who aren't ready for marriage to agree to settle and marry the first nacaas they meet all because they were told that there aren't good men, since they have all been "snatched up." Its ridiculous and evokes a feeling of fear in women that isn't necessary.
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It was a jokeeee and it's obvious it was a joke from the tone and the comment I was responding to. :drakelaugh: If you read his comment he made a joke and I made a joke back. I hope I didn't evoke fear in anyone from that joke lol :noneck:
 
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Bile

Marriage is a great responsibility to accept, to marry early with lack of experience and self-knowledge is not something I recommend. I have not married yet and do not think I will marry for the next 4 years. I'm 24 now but focus on working on myself in studies and jobs. even though I feel partial pressure from family and friends, the pressure is not great.

Although I sometimes feel the need for someone to cuddle with, I have control of my desires and know that it is best to wait until you are financially stable and ready to take on the responsibility of raising children. Some of my friends are married and some are at the same time unemployed, and I do not understand how a person can imagine becoming dependent on "ceerta" or well-being despite being young and can get an attractive education that leads to a well-paid job.
It is unfortunate that many of the young people and young adults of our countrymen do not take the fantastic opportunity it means to live in a country with free education that leads to a well-paid job, I mean here and those who live in other western world. I see many guys and girls who are capable of plugging and getting a career that just sits at home, wasting their time and even utilizing young girls.

I plan to study civil engineering in computer engineering or in industrial economics in the fall and I know that I am lagging but I have clear goals in life and am a driven person therefore I would have been happy to see other Somali youth who really take their time and possibly to educate yourself to be useful in the future to our society instead of getting married early when you don't have the energy and livelihood.
I think it is ok to marry when you are 28-31 then you may have had an evolving career and know more how to take care of your family and life. Some young people who get married early are divorced before they have even lived together for a few years. so boring it is.
 
waryabdi

waryabdi

It’s nice that people are telling you to take your time but reality is Somali guys prefer women 24 and under wether we like it or not it’s harder for late 20’s individuals so I would recommend if you can find someone that fits your criteria, to listen to your parents and marry early. Why wait and risk regretting it later?
 
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tima

@Bile You’re right they usually don’t tell you about how hard it will be especially when you’re young and not ready. In sha Allah it will be worth the wait and I hope everything goes well with your studies.
 
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