A 7-year wait

[AdoonkaAlle]

@sophisticate


I thought it was a given that there shouldn't be any form of touching pre -nikkah, also since nikkah is a prerequisite to consummation wouldn't this not render any amount of time spent in the courtship period irrelevant ?

A more challenging request would be to stipulate a period of time post- nikkah in the lead up to consummation. I've known people that have waited similar period of time as in your request above but this was due to personal circumstances that were out of their control.

What's your take? Is a long courtship 'done cleanly' worth it? What is a sufficient amount of time in getting to know a suitor?

I don't think there's a standard answer that would work for everyone as people don't share similar lived experiences. For the most i would say that it depends on circumstances of the people and also their expectations, whether they are reasonably well thought of or not etc.

If you are to able to assess the suitability of a potential in a short amount of time why the need to extend it ? what do you think that you will find out in 5, 6 or even 7 yrs time that you wouldn't be able to in let's say a couple of months or within a year, most importantly what leads you to believe that ?

Best policy is to be straight forward and ask the right questions during the courtship period in a respectable well timed manner.

 

[Sophisticate]

If only staying power could be calculated, right? Whether through avoiding tragedy or optimizing for temperament. I want those same powers, but I’m not nearly as patient. Waiting and watching has its limits.

You're giving me ideas Vix.

I just realized. Commitment and exclusivity aren't one and the same. Rats, I should have added that to the disclaimer - no halaal swingers allowed.

But you raise an interesting point, how do we figure out if one is capable of fidelity and exclusivity within a long-term relationship?

 

[Gambar]

I would pair you up with @Mckenzie

 

[AliUK]

Correction Abdi, you lack staying power. No need to generalize.

A strong man can last 7-years without ever seeing or thinking about the inside of a bedchamber.

Don't be naive even you aint that strong, never mind a man. Our main weakness is women.

 

[IstarZ]

Can you even handle one woman? Try to learn to crawl before you can run, son.





They don't understand that science is liberating. I say, have your hatchlings chilled and make a determination of his aabo potential.

A deadbeat should never get the sheets. His spawn should remain plucking from any cabbage patch.

Science is on our side. Cryogenic storage over low quality emissions.

 

[Sophisticate]

Lool basically your looking for a Unsullied.

I hope Unsullied isn't coded language for incel.

Chasity should not be forced. One must consent to engage in preserving it of their own volition. And hotness is a requisite in this 7-year deal.

Be warned an 8-pack will not act as a time hack.

@sophisticate


I thought it was a given that there shouldn't be any form of touching pre -nikkah, also since nikkah is a prerequisite to consummation wouldn't this not render any amount of time spent in the courtship period irrelevant ?

A more challenging request would be to stipulate a period of time post- nikkah in the lead up to consummation. I've known people that have waited similar period of time as in your request above but this was due to personal circumstances that were out of their control.



I don't think there's a standard answer that would work for everyone as people don't share similar lived experiences. For the most i would say that it depends on circumstances of the people and also their expectations, whether they are reasonably well thought of or not etc.

If you are to able to assess the suitability of a potential in a short amount of time why the need to extend it ? what do you think that you will find out in 5, 6 or even 7 yrs time that you wouldn't be able to in let's say a couple of months or within a year, most importantly what leads you to believe that ?

Best policy is to be straight forward and ask the right questions during the courtship period in a respectable well timed manner.

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[Inquisitive_]

@Inquisitive_. He will write a thesis about the materialistic ladies from that part of the country. kkk

No thesis are needed, those females of the old days used to wait on the finish line of a long race and fight each other to pick the winners but today it's the opposite.

They fight over ex con's, gang-bangers and the lowest of the low, then turn around and blame them for there misfortune and dysfunctions.

 

[VixR]

You're giving me ideas Vix.

I just realized. Commitment and exclusivity aren't one and the same. Rats, I should have added that to the disclaimer - no halaal swingers allowed.

But you raise an interesting point, how do we figure out if one is capable of fidelity and exclusivity within a long-term relationship?

A good eye for temperament, character, intelligence. And luck of the draw. That’s the best anyone can do.

 

[Sophisticate]

I would pair you up with @Mckenzie

Too exotic. I haven't crossed the barrier of the North West in terms of eligibles, yet.

Don't be naive even you aint that strong, never mind a man. Our main weakness is women.

Well, my track record tells me about my capacity for delayed gratification.

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I don't need a free male escort, my heart is my only consort.

Science is on our side. Cryogenic storage over low quality emissions.

@VixR reminded me to save them up just in time for artificial wombs. We can finally have biologically related 8-month olds harvested out-of-body at age 80, now we'll know what those crypt creeper looking odeyaal feel like. We'll just be hotter at that age. kkkk


We are winning ladies. Sound the alarm. I might even hire a robot nanny to do those child-rearing tasks.

 

[AdoonkaAlle]

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[Sophisticate]

No thesis are needed, those females of the old days used to wait on the finish line of a long race and fight each other to pick the winners but today it's the opposite.

They fight over ex con's, gang-bangers and the lowest of the low, then turn around and blame them for there misfortune and dysfunctions.

I haven't come across anyone fighting over felons. There is a small niche of prison wives among various groups.

And the Somalis of old might have liked the most cut-throat and marauding men, or at least those with the most livestock. Are these females not re-enacting an old drama in the present (albeit with a less suitable stock). And can it be said that there is something aberrant about choosing an ex-con convert more generally? I have not met a Somali girl who ever married one in real life.

A good eye for temperament, character, intelligence. And luck of the draw. That’s the best anyone can do.

That seems fair.

 

[Lostbox]

I would rather marry a hoe lol. Why would anyone put themselves in such a position?

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

7 years?

 

[Basra]

I got to thinking maybe I should make a disclaimer for all who wish to court me that you must wait for 7-years of no touching in the lead up to consummation.

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As a caveat, he cannot date/marry any woman during this period and must remain 100% celibate. No cheating even with himself. I was thinking of going a step further and having his mind read for promiscuous thoughts but the technology is in its infancy so I'll have to settle for trusting his imagination.


What's your take? Is a long courtship 'done cleanly' worth it? What is a sufficient amount of time in getting to know a suitor?

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Talk among yourselves.

Sophi


DO u suffer from mental illness?

 

[Muji]

Looooool

Sis 7 years unless he is ugly or an abdi you will be tearing his clothes off.

Soph I hate to sound like basra but why do you put so much value on sex when even animals can do it

You will be giving your heart for 7 years but keeping your legs closed. Protect your heart first sis

 

[Basra]

Looooool

Sis 7 years unless he is ugly or an abdi you will be tearing his clothes off.

Soph I hate to sound like basra but why do you put so much value on sex when even animals can do it

You will be giving your heart for 7 years but keeping your legs closed. Protect your heart first sis

@Knowles do I really put value in sex? looooooooooooooool



But Sex is in everything huuno. your humanity, your identity, your personality, your essence really. How can u deny putting value on sex?

 

[Emily]

7 years of no touching

 

[Doctor farxaan]

Correction Abdi, you lack staying power. No need to generalize.

A strong man can last 7-years without ever seeing or thinking about the inside of a bedchamber.

Are u joking or are u for real

 

[Doctor farxaan]

I got to thinking maybe I should make a disclaimer for all who wish to court me that you must wait for 7-years of no touching in the lead up to consummation.

​

As a caveat, he cannot date/marry any woman during this period and must remain 100% celibate. No cheating even with himself. I was thinking of going a step further and having his mind read for promiscuous thoughts but the technology is in its infancy so I'll have to settle for trusting his imagination.


What's your take? Is a long courtship 'done cleanly' worth it? What is a sufficient amount of time in getting to know a suitor?

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Talk among yourselves.

U are talking about 10 years, i wont event wait a Day

 

[VixR]

I haven't come across anyone fighting over felons. There is a small niche of prison wives among various groups.

And the Somalis of old might have liked the most cut-throat and marauding men, or at least those with the most livestock. Are these females not re-enacting an old drama in the present (albeit with a less suitable stock). And can it be said that there is something aberrant about choosing an ex-con convert more generally? I have not met a Somali girl who ever married one in real life.




That seems fair.

I get what you’re getting at. It’s the romantic story of the long-enduring man who finally suffers just enough to get the girl. But it’s from a era when time moved more slowly. Nowadays, people count in terms of dates to the point you have to make it clear sex is off limits indefinitely so they understand what they’re getting into, and they either want you enough to respect it, or it’s too much to ask, or they think you’re joking and get upset when they find it isn’t going to be easy.

Soph, men are hounds. Even if they’ve just suffered a heart attack or otherwise barely escaped death, they’re all fired up and ready to go. Most times they’re hiding the worst of their inclinations from you lol. It’s really a matter of finding a set you can deal/work with.