A woman’s love is always conditional

[Distant1]

Unfortunately its a taboo for a somali woman to seek divorce in our culture and maybe that’s why they stick around with looser men longer because they have 6 kids together to support.

But this is a problem in religious conservative communities. I have aunts that have married 3-4 times with kids already.

 

[Halimo-2018]

Unfortunately its a taboo for a somali woman to seek divorce in our culture and maybe that’s why they stick around with looser men longer because they have 6 kids together to support.

But this is a problem in religious conservative communities. I have aunts that have married 3-4 times with kids already.

Kudos to your aunties

 

[Leeban]

That’s not true. Why did Ilhan Omar cheat on her man ?

pure evil

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

All love, except parental love, is conditional. Don't fall for the "soulmate" meme sxb, there's an expiration date on non-parental love. It's a bitter pill to swallow but that's just the harsh reality.

 

[Angelina]

All love, except paternal love, is conditional. Don't fall for the "soulmate" meme sxb, there's an expiration date on non-paternal love. It's a bitter pill to swallow but that's just the harsh reality.

Do you mean parental love? I'm sure the love our hooyos have for us is also unconditional.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Do you mean parental love? I'm sure the love our hooyos have for us is also unconditional.

Yeah, my bad. Only your parents will come scoop you off of the gutter if you fall on hard times. Everyone else will scatter like roaches, your wife/husband included lol.

 

[Sophisticate]

All love, except for paternal love, is conditional. Don't fall for the "soulmate" meme sxb, there's an expiration date on non-paternal love. It's a bitter pill to swallow but that's just the harsh reality.

Unconditional love in romance would be horrible. Imagine never parting with a psychopath, narc, or sociopath. No thanks. One must always use their critical faculties.

 

[Desert Flower]

Somali women (on average) are dumber and more naive than other women. They have a child-like belief system which is why you see them marry bums regardless of ethnicity. Only a Somali woman is happy to keep a loser in her household because she wrongly believes he’ll change for her.

Outside of the Somali bubble, ‘love’ is conditional. Men want sex with an attractive woman and women want provision/security etc. His point is that most men think like the other user and that a woman will love him like his mother when it’s not true at all. Women of other ethnicities know this is true and understand how to work their way around it.

A broken clock is right twice a day, and I’ll admit that what you’re saying here is true with regards to Somali women. A lot accept such low standards that I’m left scratching my head. But, unconditional love is only reserved for your children and Allah. To love another adult means to have conditions.

 

[Desert Flower]

Unfortunately its a taboo for a somali woman to seek divorce in our culture and maybe that’s why they stick around with looser men longer because they have 6 kids together to support.

But this is a problem in religious conservative communities. I have aunts that have married 3-4 times with kids already.

Is it taboo when we have a high divorce rate and lots of single mothers? The kids thing is sad because a lot have children just to keep the husband, who ends up leaving her for her younger version anyways. Better to limit them to a number that you can handle alone.

 

[Angelina]

Is it taboo when we have a high divorce rate and lots of single mothers? The kids thing is sad because a lot have children just to keep the husband, who ends up leaving her for her younger version anyways. Better to limit them to a number that you can handle alone.

Kinda is tbh. Especially in situations when the wife can't get a divorce. Islamically, talaq is reserved for the husband. So if you want a divorce, you have to ask your husband and if he refuses you need to go for khula or fasaqk, but in the West we don't have any proper Islamic courts. So usually, Somali women would have to appeal to their family and toll (clan) and 9/10 times they will pressure her to be patient even if he is the world's worst husband.

@Timo Madow and proud

That is what I meant.

 

[Desert Flower]

Kinda is tbh. Especially in situations when the wife can't get a divorce. Islamically, talaq is reserved for the husband. So if you want a divorce, you have to ask your husband and if he refuses you need to go for khula or fasaqk, but in the West we don't have any proper Islamic courts. So usually, Somali women would have to appeal to their family and toll (clan) and 9/10 times they will pressure her to be patient even if he is the worlds worst husband.

@Timo Madow and proud

That is what I meant.

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[Molotoff]

Loool so many triggered halimos on here that hate on the brother for speaking the truth.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Unconditional love in romance would be horrible. Imagine never parting with a psychopath, narc, or sociopath. No thanks. One must always use their critical faculties.

100%. The person who's less invested in a relationship normally has more leverage, unconditional love would make that x10 worse. Abuse would be rampant.

"I know she keeps fucking all my friends/co-workers/neighbors/relatives behind my back, but I just can't seem walk away from her bro". That's a fate worse than death wallahi looool

 

[Angelina]

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[Sophisticate]

100%. The person who's less invested in a relationship normally has more leverage, unconditional love would make that x10 worse. Abuse would be rampant.

"I know she keeps fucking all my friends/co-workers/neighbors/relatives behind my back, but I just can't seem walk away from her bro". That's a fate worse than death wallahi looool
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No. The one who loves more is braver. The other one is overcome with cowardice or simply isn't capable.

But they say love and be wise for a reason.

Also can you really love someone who treats you unjustly? I think not. You can love the idea you had about this person (when masks were on) and be invested in who you thought they were but not in the unbecoming behavior they exhibited. In the above scenario you must choose you. Run, @Nak-Muay-Kru, run into the arms of your dignity and never look back.

 

[Xaruun]

100%. The person who's less invested in a relationship normally has more leverage, unconditional love would make that x10 worse. Abuse would be rampant.

"I know she keeps fucking all my friends/co-workers/neighbors/relatives behind my back, but I just can't seem walk away from her bro". That's a fate worse than death wallahi looool
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Terrifying.

 

[Macalin dheerow]

Somali people and marriage, close to each other like a shadow to a person. Men need to realise that women want looks and security. You pay the bills etc. Same way a man want wants a hot young wife. While this is not true for all, large amount of people think like this.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

No. The one who loves more is braver. The other one is overcome with cowardice or simply isn't capable.

But they say love and be wise for a reason.

Also can you really love someone who treats you unjustly? I think not. You can love the idea you had about this person (when masks were on) and be invested in who you thought they were but not in the unbecoming behavior they exhibited. In the above scenario you must choose you. Run, @Nak-Muay-Kru, run into the arms of your dignity and never look back.

It's not cowardice walaalo macaan, some of us have been burnt in the past

There's definitely an element of them still loving the idealized version of the person they created in the own heads and an overall lack of self-esteem/dignity, but more often than not I think they fall victim to the sunk cost fallacy.

I'd sooner drink a litre of brake fluid than stick around in that cheating scenario looooool

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

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Subhanallah, dangerously based.

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[Xaruun]

Subhanallah, dangerously based.
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Jaded people like you get their heart broken so we know not to make the same mistakes