Advice on a Somali woman

[Gaspar Yanga]

seriously? from the description alone I can already see the two of you fighting. these days ratchet people treat marriage like mutah or haram bf/gf relationships that last no more than two years, its always based on lust and other frivolous matters...

I don't know what mutah is but this comment made me laugh I admit.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Were those two children from the same marriage?

Yes from what I understand. She was married once.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Based off your description of her, you're more than welcome to go for it.
Just don't touch them kids

Bruh what is that? I don't abuse kids wtf? And it seems like you are shading her...that wasn't called for fam.

 

[Sophisticate]

Many Latinos have African ancestry like me. I am more of a mulatto than a mestizo so I acknowledge the Afro side of my ancestry. You guys are technically Africans so I don't see the issue honestly.

That African ancestry isn't from the same part of Africa. You have blood ties with West and Central African peoples. Also African heritage is not a unifying factor for Somalis. Somalis even consider ethnolingustic groups that are genetically and culturally closer like Oromo 'foreigners'. Hence, you are pretty much in the same league of foreign as a person of Asian or European descent. They won't make an exception for you because of African links that are probably separated by 40,000 years or more. However, you are free to marry who you like. Judging by the description it would be a challenge. Good luck. Even though I feel this is a troll account.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Bollocks, you're not "afro-latino" you're a farah with an axe to grind
If you're being legit though, I'd move on whilst your sanity's still intact. The retroactive jealousy will doom your marriage, if a girl's past bothers you then don't marry her Gustavo. It's that simple.

 

[jabsveg276]

I've been lurking this forum off and on for a while, but now I've decided to post for the first time. There's a Somali woman who is interested in me, and I'm also interested in her. I would like to marry her, but there are some things that I see as potential red flags. I'm Afro-Latino so I don't know too much about Somali culture. Anyway, here is her breakdown.

The good:

-She has pretty good deen
-She is very pretty
-She has served me food the times that she cooked for me
-She wants to get married and life a good life
-She encourages me in all my ambitions
-She dresses traditionally for the most part with hijab and arbayo (spelling?); when she wears pants she wears a half-arbayo
-She is a generous person and overall nice and kind
-She is thoroughly in love with me

Mashallah to the good. However, here are the potential red flags.

-She is divorced and has 2 kids
-She seems to have an attitude problem at times and often says she doesn't like to be told what to do; she often starts ish for no reason when things are going well
-She was pretty wild as a teenager but seems to have calmed down as an adult
-She is overweight but not quite obese. The biggest problem is her stomach but she has a nice shape.
-She had almost all male friends on Facebook but deactivated her account when I told her to. She still has Snapchat but I made her delete most of the dudes on there. She still has it since she talks to her family on there a lot, which I think is fine.
-She tries to get tough, but backs off once I flex on her
-She likes ratchet ****s like Cardi B, that housewives crap, bad girls club, etc.
-She is extremely jealous, gets triggered about anything dealing with other women, and says she will not agree to me having more than 1 wife

I really like her and want to marry her. The thing is I have a feeling she may have been a bit of a ******** when she was in high school and after her divorce. I can't prove anything and this was before I knew her, but I don't want to wife up a former **** since she may go **** again in the future. Again, I can't prove it, but when I said I would ask around about her, she first said not to, then said no Somali would tell me anything about her even if I did. That seemed funny style to me but again I don't know that much about Somali culture. She's pretty lazy and used to work out when I encouraged her, but now just claims she's monitoring her diet cuz she doesn't have time to work out.

I know a lot of you dudes don't even deal with xalimos, but can the ones who do give me insight? Is this typical? Should I take her seriously? Habeshas are fine af but I know even less about them than xalimos. I think Somali women are a great wife choice, and she is open to marrying a non-Somali so that is a plus. But the stuff I see you dudes say about them makes me wonder. Ayudame por favor (help me please in English).

Don't marry her, no matter what you do.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

That African ancestry isn't from the same part of Africa nor does it serve as a unifying factor. Somalis even consider ethnolingustic groups that are genetically and culturally closer like Oromo 'foreigners. Hence you are pretty much in the same league of foreign as a person of Asian and European descent. They won't make an exception for you. However you are free to marry who you like. Judging by the description it would be a challenge. Good luck. Even though I feel this is a troll account.

I'm not a troll. And we call you guys Africanos cuz you look black. I get that you don't see yourselves the same as other Africans but in the west we call dark-skinned people from Africa Africans. The Arabs I know from Egypt and Tunisia call themselves Africans too, so perdoname (excuse me) for the confusion. I've seen some of you say you are black and others say you are Caucasian so I really don't know to be honest.

 

[i ✨]

I've been lurking this forum off and on for a while, but now I've decided to post for the first time. There's a Somali woman who is interested in me, and I'm also interested in her. I would like to marry her, but there are some things that I see as potential red flags. I'm Afro-Latino so I don't know too much about Somali culture. Anyway, here is her breakdown.

The good:

-She has pretty good deen
-She is very pretty
-She has served me food the times that she cooked for me
-She wants to get married and life a good life
-She encourages me in all my ambitions
-She dresses traditionally for the most part with hijab and arbayo (spelling?); when she wears pants she wears a half-arbayo
-She is a generous person and overall nice and kind
-She is thoroughly in love with me

Mashallah to the good. However, here are the potential red flags.

-She is divorced and has 2 kids
-She seems to have an attitude problem at times and often says she doesn't like to be told what to do; she often starts ish for no reason when things are going well
-She was pretty wild as a teenager but seems to have calmed down as an adult
-She is overweight but not quite obese. The biggest problem is her stomach but she has a nice shape.
-She had almost all male friends on Facebook but deactivated her account when I told her to. She still has Snapchat but I made her delete most of the dudes on there. She still has it since she talks to her family on there a lot, which I think is fine.
-She tries to get tough, but backs off once I flex on her
-She likes ratchet ****s like Cardi B, that housewives crap, bad girls club, etc.
-She is extremely jealous, gets triggered about anything dealing with other women, and says she will not agree to me having more than 1 wife

I really like her and want to marry her. The thing is I have a feeling she may have been a bit of a ******** when she was in high school and after her divorce. I can't prove anything and this was before I knew her, but I don't want to wife up a former **** since she may go **** again in the future. Again, I can't prove it, but when I said I would ask around about her, she first said not to, then said no Somali would tell me anything about her even if I did. That seemed funny style to me but again I don't know that much about Somali culture. She's pretty lazy and used to work out when I encouraged her, but now just claims she's monitoring her diet cuz she doesn't have time to work out.

I know a lot of you dudes don't even deal with xalimos, but can the ones who do give me insight? Is this typical? Should I take her seriously? Habeshas are fine af but I know even less about them than xalimos. I think Somali women are a great wife choice, and she is open to marrying a non-Somali so that is a plus. But the stuff I see you dudes say about them makes me wonder. Ayudame por favor (help me please in English).

I don't have to read the rest of the paragraph to know this is an incel farax.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Bollocks, you're not "afro-latino" you're a farah with an axe to grind
If you're being legit though, I'd move on whilst your sanity's still intact. The retroactive jealousy will doom your marriage, if a girl's past bothers you then don't marry her Gustavo. It's that simple.

I'm not a farah. And the only reason I asked about the past is that I saw other dudes on here say you should.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

I don't have to read the rest of the paragraph to know this is an incel farax.

I'm not Somali or an incel but this was funny. How do I put those faces in my comments tho?

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

I'm not a Somali...I only know a few Somali words. English is my main language and I speak some Spanish from my abuela (grandmother in English).

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Don't marry her, no matter what you do.

Why not? I think she would make a good wife if she is who I think she is.

 

[Sophisticate]

I'm not a troll. And we call you guys Africanos cuz you look black. I get that you don't see yourselves the same as other Africans but in the west we call dark-skinned people from Africa Africans. The Arabs I know from Egypt and Tunisia call themselves Africans too, so perdoname (excuse me) for the confusion. I've seen some of you say you are black and others say you are Caucasian so I really don't know to be honest.

Most Somalis just consider themselves Somali. This isn't a discussion on identity politics we're just filling you in on what we know. I just think it's naive to believe that being African alone will be enough of a bridge. Not all of them are related for starters. They have different heritages and cultures. Not a Pan-African identity that traverses national or ethnic boundaries. That is more of a North and South American construct. Also, Somali parents consider all non-Somalis as different and foreign. Nothing personal.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

I'm not a farah. And the only reason I asked about the past is that I saw other dudes on here say you should.

Pro tip: they're never 100% about their past, you'll get the tip of the ice-berg at best. Seeing as you're a revert, you probably did dirt as well. But if her past bothers you, it'll only get worse after marriage.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Most Somalis just consider themselves Somali. This isn't a discussion on identity politics we're just filling you in on what we know. I just think it's naive to believe that being African alone will be enough of a bridge. Not all of them are related for starters. They have different heritages and cultures. Not a Pan-African identity that traverses national or ethnic boundaries. That is more of a North and South American construct. Also, Somali parents consider all non-Somalis as different and foreign. Nothing personal.

I can understand that. There's similar things in Latin America. We don't have tribes in Latin America outside of the natives so I get it. I think you guys call tribes qabil or something like that. I don't see the importance of that but I'm only African by ancestry. We look more at countries in Latin America but even then we don't make a HUGE deal about that.

 

[elite1337]

Bad troll attempt!

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Pro tip: they're never 100% about their past, you'll get the tip of the ice-berg at best. Seeing as you're a revert you probably did dirt as well, but if her past bothers you it'll only get worse after marriage.

Yeah I was a ladies' man back in the gap, true. It didn't really bother me until I saw comments in here about being thorough and asking about her past. In Latin America we assume most of the broads were putas before we met them. It's like that red pill stuff where they say all women are slots. I figured it's different for people who follow the deen so I read up on it in here. Some of the xalimos surprised me with how similar they are to the kaffireen, so I decided to ask you guys the deal. None of us are even close to the Prophet so I don't expect someone to be perfect.

 

[digaagjecel]

Finding a wife should not be this complicated, alx at my university we have a somali club full of beautiful hijabi somalis. All I gotta do is just pick one out of the hundreds.

 

[Gaspar Yanga]

Bad troll attempt!

Orale I'm not trolling. I already said that.

 

[mr steal your naag]

I've been lurking this forum off and on for a while, but now I've decided to post for the first time. There's a Somali woman who is interested in me, and I'm also interested in her. I would like to marry her, but there are some things that I see as potential red flags. I'm Afro-Latino so I don't know too much about Somali culture. Anyway, here is her breakdown.

The good:

-She has pretty good deen
-She is very pretty
-She has served me food the times that she cooked for me
-She wants to get married and life a good life
-She encourages me in all my ambitions
-She dresses traditionally for the most part with hijab and arbayo (spelling?); when she wears pants she wears a half-arbayo
-She is a generous person and overall nice and kind
-She is thoroughly in love with me

Mashallah to the good. However, here are the potential red flags.

-She is divorced and has 2 kids
-She seems to have an attitude problem at times and often says she doesn't like to be told what to do; she often starts ish for no reason when things are going well
-She was pretty wild as a teenager but seems to have calmed down as an adult
-She is overweight but not quite obese. The biggest problem is her stomach but she has a nice shape.
-She had almost all male friends on Facebook but deactivated her account when I told her to. She still has Snapchat but I made her delete most of the dudes on there. She still has it since she talks to her family on there a lot, which I think is fine.
-She tries to get tough, but backs off once I flex on her
-She likes ratchet ****s like Cardi B, that housewives crap, bad girls club, etc.
-She is extremely jealous, gets triggered about anything dealing with other women, and says she will not agree to me having more than 1 wife

I really like her and want to marry her. The thing is I have a feeling she may have been a bit of a ******** when she was in high school and after her divorce. I can't prove anything and this was before I knew her, but I don't want to wife up a former **** since she may go **** again in the future. Again, I can't prove it, but when I said I would ask around about her, she first said not to, then said no Somali would tell me anything about her even if I did. That seemed funny style to me but again I don't know that much about Somali culture. She's pretty lazy and used to work out when I encouraged her, but now just claims she's monitoring her diet cuz she doesn't have time to work out.

I know a lot of you dudes don't even deal with xalimos, but can the ones who do give me insight? Is this typical? Should I take her seriously? Habeshas are fine af but I know even less about them than xalimos. I think Somali women are a great wife choice, and she is open to marrying a non-Somali so that is a plus. But the stuff I see you dudes say about them makes me wonder. Ayudame por favor (help me please in English).

Nigga the way you decribed her. Fat with 2 kids and she is ratched. You should deff marry her. Thats queen shit right there