Arranged marriages
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The alchemist
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If it works, then why complain? If you guys hit it off then set it off, my brethren.
But what about if she give mentally disabled kids
first find out if she wants to marry you. It’s all great and that finding her attractive, but it will be a disaster in the making if she doesn’t feel the same.
Also, if I was you, I’d be very cautious. Why? Because I’ve literally seen brothers and sisters not speak to each other because they’ve decided to marry their kids to each other and then a divorce took place. So tread carefully. This woman isn’t just a wife to be, she’s your cousin. Family essentially and shitting on your doorstep can cause many issues.
My advise, if you really like the idea of marrying her. Call her, speak to her and gauge how she feels and then try and get to know her. I’m assuming this is a cousin you don’t know that well right? Then weigh the pros and cons.
Follow my advise, Habayaro Angelina knows best. I’ve seen a lot of cousin marriages. Some were great and some were a walking talking disaster that was cinema worthy drama.
Also, if I was you, I’d be very cautious. Why? Because I’ve literally seen brothers and sisters not speak to each other because they’ve decided to marry their kids to each other and then a divorce took place. So tread carefully. This woman isn’t just a wife to be, she’s your cousin. Family essentially and shitting on your doorstep can cause many issues.
My advise, if you really like the idea of marrying her. Call her, speak to her and gauge how she feels and then try and get to know her. I’m assuming this is a cousin you don’t know that well right? Then weigh the pros and cons.
Follow my advise, Habayaro Angelina knows best. I’ve seen a lot of cousin marriages. Some were great and some were a walking talking disaster that was cinema worthy drama.
The alchemist
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Hold up.. that's a good question. What you need to do is to check if your family has a lot of cousin marriages leading down to your parents, generation-wise. And you can inquire the same with the woman's family to see. If there are many cousin marriages on both sides, then yes, that might be a bit of an issue. If not, then I don't think it is that problematic from a genealogical point of view. @Shimbiris might know more about this.
Is she your first cousin?
My only problem is her age she is 16 but she told the Canadian government she is 21 years old. Am not marrying underage girl
No, there is a lot of exaggeration when it comes to cousin marriages. It can cause genetic disorders if there is generational cousin marriages in your family, or if certain illnesses are common in your family. In that situation I would avoid anyone I was genetically close to. Within certain groups, they sometimes come from a long line of cousin marriages and the effects are clear to see. I’ve seen it first hand. They have higher disability rates and other genetic illnesses and it’s clear to see that the main issue is generations of marrying within the family.
However, whilst Somalis do marry their cousins here and there, it isn’t common for us to come from a long line of cousins. Therefore, I highly doubt it will be issue provided you don’t have family illnesses that are common.
Well then leave her alone. Why are her parents trying to marry her off. So weird. Surely they should be focusing on her getting good grades? You never know, she could be the one that is pushing this, but even then she should be focusing on passing her high school exams. She’s a kid.
Also, I get the feeling you’re trolling. I don’t know why I even bothered with that reply lol.
The alchemist
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That's another element indeed...
How old are you? I think you should either wait till she comes of age or go for another woman. Are you trolling us, man? Don't waste people's time like this.
Am 23 years old and I wish I was trolling butThat's another element indeed...
How old are you? I think you should either wait till she comes of age or go for another woman. Are you trolling us, man? Don't waste people's time like this.
Thinking about it, I think he’s deffo trolling lol. I kinda feel embarrassed writing that long paragraph, advising him like he is being serious lol.That's another element indeed...
How old are you? I think you should either wait till she comes of age or go for another woman. Are you trolling us, man? Don't waste people's time like this.
He wants a platinum thread, he knows nothing gets posters on sspot irritated and divided more than teen brides and cousin marriages.
@Ali20333
Khaleejis, being no strangers to cousin marriages, have long been accustomed to conducting genetic screening tests before fully okaying marriages. Just ask about them at any major local hospital and I bet they'll know where to point you. Get the tests done and you should be made aware of the risks going forward with any given spouse.
TekNiKo
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Its great idea, your parents know best go for it, true love is after marriage and living with each other anyways. First try to shukaansi her a bit prior to consummation to see if you click.
PS: First 6 months will be the toughest as you and your wife need time to acclimate so be very kind and patient and dont rush things especially on your first 7 days"
Really? Terrible idea! no wonder our divorce rates are off the chart!
You are making it sound like marriage is just like going to the groceries and choosing between two items.
Give it a serious thought! Looks are usually only a plus after she's checked all your expectations, not that you have any given how unserious you sound. She should also vet you. If you two are compatible, go from there.
You are making it sound like marriage is just like going to the groceries and choosing between two items.
Give it a serious thought! Looks are usually only a plus after she's checked all your expectations, not that you have any given how unserious you sound. She should also vet you. If you two are compatible, go from there.
Am not trolling my Abti is like that because he married in young age he believes in early marriage
The alchemist
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That makes sense. I know those orthodox Jews in the US do genetic screenings before they marry. It's a widely practiced procedure. When you have such a tight group (I think their founder-effect ancestors passed on some diseases, but this might have been a bullshit excuse or something to make it palatable), they make sure to do some level of eugenics.
I have many issues with eugenics. Still, I understand the need to check for potential significant deleterious recessive genes getting passed down if one potentially got married to a cousin.
Highly likely we got trolled, though.
But the problem is she is 16 years old.
Is kinda morally wrong to marry her she still kid.
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