It is not to say that one should get married to someone who is not attractive to them.
But when men and women constantly scroll and gaze at beautiful faces, they magnify and exaggerate the importance of beauty. They possess ‘blameworthy’ habits that create unrealistic expectations of attractiveness in a spouse. Both men and women can be blamed for placing undue importance by giving it attention.
Frequently, beauty is associated with all virtue. This is when beauty does not equate character. It can be used to oppress, cause envy and bring out the worst. Look at the narration of the Prophet (saw).
Prophet (saw) asked Ali (rad): “Who is the most wretched of the earlier times?”
Ali (rad) replied, “The one who hamstrung the she-camel.” He (saw) said to Ali (rad), “Who is the most wretched of the last ones?”
Ali (rad) replied, “I do not know, Messenger of Allah.” He (saw) said, “The one who strikes you on this.” Prophet (saw) pointed to Ali (rad)’s head.
(Tabarani)
In both instances, beauty was used to bring out the worst.
(1) Killer of the she-camel:
Prophet Saleh (as) had asked that no harm be done to the camel.
“…do not touch her with harm, or else you will be overcome by painful punishment” (7:73)
Umm Ghanm, a noblewoman of considerable wealth and beauty, offered her beautiful daughters to the man who would slay the camel. Saduf, likewise a noblewoman of great wealth and beauty, offered herself to the man who would kill the camel.
Encouraged, Qudar and others killed the camel. (Ibn Kathir)
(2) Killer of Ali (rad):
Ibn Muljim was captivated by the beauty of Qutam. She demanded as part of her dowry (mahr) the killing of Ali (rad). (Ali Vol 2 by Dr. Ali M. Sallabi )
But when men and women constantly scroll and gaze at beautiful faces, they magnify and exaggerate the importance of beauty. They possess ‘blameworthy’ habits that create unrealistic expectations of attractiveness in a spouse. Both men and women can be blamed for placing undue importance by giving it attention.
Frequently, beauty is associated with all virtue. This is when beauty does not equate character. It can be used to oppress, cause envy and bring out the worst. Look at the narration of the Prophet (saw).
Prophet (saw) asked Ali (rad): “Who is the most wretched of the earlier times?”
Ali (rad) replied, “The one who hamstrung the she-camel.” He (saw) said to Ali (rad), “Who is the most wretched of the last ones?”
Ali (rad) replied, “I do not know, Messenger of Allah.” He (saw) said, “The one who strikes you on this.” Prophet (saw) pointed to Ali (rad)’s head.
(Tabarani)
In both instances, beauty was used to bring out the worst.
(1) Killer of the she-camel:
Prophet Saleh (as) had asked that no harm be done to the camel.
“…do not touch her with harm, or else you will be overcome by painful punishment” (7:73)
Umm Ghanm, a noblewoman of considerable wealth and beauty, offered her beautiful daughters to the man who would slay the camel. Saduf, likewise a noblewoman of great wealth and beauty, offered herself to the man who would kill the camel.
Encouraged, Qudar and others killed the camel. (Ibn Kathir)
(2) Killer of Ali (rad):
Ibn Muljim was captivated by the beauty of Qutam. She demanded as part of her dowry (mahr) the killing of Ali (rad). (Ali Vol 2 by Dr. Ali M. Sallabi )
