Can boys & girls be friends...?

[Febbie]

I think you can be friends with people of the opposite sex but maybe not best friends..?

Do you have a mix of male & female friends?

 

[hayran]

no, unless you want to risk catching feelings.
if you go out of your way to make sure your female friends are unattractive, then that doesn't count as a real friend

 

[Garaad Awal]

No.

 

[Keep it a boqol]

They cant. At one point one person will like the other.

 

[Unicorn]

Yes they can. Ive seen friends like tht who have never had crushes on each other. Theyve stayed friends for years and now their married to other people. It happens a lot.

 

[Yaraye]

I think they can be friends in the workplace / school. Talk strategy and scratch each other's back.
Also anonymously on a forum like this

Otherwise, don't recommend having personal friendship with men tho. Heard they are draining

 

[Keep it a boqol]

Yes they can. Ive seen friends like tht who have never had crushes on each other. Theyve stayed friends for years and now their married to other people. It happens a lot.

It seems like that from the outside but one person is always willing to risk the whole friendship for a chance of a relationship.

They’re just to cowardly to shoot their shot

 

[Dooyo]

Yes, just don’t befriend someone you find attractive.

 

[Sophisticate]

You won't develop feelings for or be attracted to everyone of the opposite sex, and finding someone attractive doesn't mean the relationship should extend beyond friendship. However, men and women often navigate these dynamics differently: men tend to overestimate romantic or sexual interest, while women tend to underestimate it. This makes men slightly more prone to misinterpretation. Making them potentially overplay their hand which could result in the loss of a friendship.

Also, there has to be more than mutual attraction. There has to be alignment on various dimensions (shared life goals, cultural and spiritual compability) and shared understanding to push past being just friends. And in that case, that person is a suitor/real marriage prospect.

This is a lot more nuanced.