Can I ask for divorce if the partner refuses to work after a couple of years after marriage?

[قوة الشرطة الصومالية]

Many potential ethnic partners I spoke to demanded they will quit work after a couple of years. Some even straight out told me they will quit work the second I marry them. They believe Islam grants them the right to refuse work even when they are highly educated. What do you think of the whole situation?

We all know how difficult it is to sustain a family on one income in the West. Why do ethnic women blind themselves of the realities in the West? It would take 100 plus hours a week to support a family on a single income with a good wage. I don’t think any sane man would sacrifice all those hours for his family these days. Many of us won’t accept to be slaves for their families.

Why would people get higher education if they don’t want to work ?

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Hoorta why do you always come up with hypothetical divorce situations? Is it a fetish? You're not even married

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Many potential ethnic partners I spoke to demanded they will quit work after a couple of years. Some even straight out told me they will quit work the second I marry them. They believe Islam grants them the right to refuse work even when they are highly educated. What do you think of the whole situation?

We all know how difficult it is to sustain a family on one income in the West. Why do ethnic women blind themselves of the realities in the West? It would take 100 plus hours a week to support a family on a single income with a good wage. I don’t think any sane man would sacrifice all those hours for his family these days. Many of us won’t accept to be slaves for their families.

Why would people get higher education if they don’t want to work ?

that’s your obligation islamically, we are not gaalo. A mothers job is to raise her children,especially in the early years, children need that bond and attachement with their mothers to help with their brain development. Once children reach six (School ready) , mother could work part time.

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

It’s funny you say that, being a mother is a full time job . Which comes with no pay. While you are sleeping , she is changing nappies, breast feeding, trying to put the child back to bed, cleaning their vomit, and you want her to go and WORK when she has had a sleepless night.

if you want your wife to work, than you must also do the household chores such as cleaning and cooking, feeding the children , putting them to sleep , not just expecting her to have done everything and you come to a clean home and food is served.

Abaha cuun !

We are not white women who have one child either, we expect 10 kids

 

[Kurobecky]

Depends on what type of relationship you want. If you want a traditional Somali wife that submits to you, then yes you’re obligated to support her financially. If you want a modern progressive relationship, then your wife would be obligated to contribute equally to finances

 

[Onyxbrainster]

It’s funny you say that, being a mother is a full time job . Which comes with no pay. While you are sleeping , she is changing nappies, breast feeding, trying to put the child back to bed, cleaning their vomit, and you want her to go and WORK when she has had a sleepless night.

if you want your wife to work, than you must also do the household chores such as cleaning and cooking, feeding the children , putting them to sleep , not just expecting her to have done everything and you come to a clean home and food is served.

Abaha cuun !

We are not white women who have one child either, we expect 10 kids

I'm convinced a lot of Muslim men nowadays don't want to be providers cause what is goin on here. Most of our parents had husbands that provided for them. It's not even apart of our deen or culture to force the wife to work and pay half the bills. It's some foolish western concept.

 

[Kurobecky]

Many potential ethnic partners I spoke to demanded they will quit work after a couple of years. Some even straight out told me they will quit work the second I marry them. They believe Islam grants them the right to refuse work even when they are highly educated. What do you think of the whole situation?

We all know how difficult it is to sustain a family on one income in the West. Why do ethnic women blind themselves of the realities in the West? It would take 100 plus hours a week to support a family on a single income with a good wage. I don’t think any sane man would sacrifice all those hours for his family these days. Many of us won’t accept to be slaves for their families.

Why would people get higher education if they don’t want to work ?

You sound exactly like my dad. It’s creepy. This was my parents’ main arguments.

 

[قوة الشرطة الصومالية]

that’s your obligation islamically, we are not gaalo. A mothers job is to raise her children,especially in the early years, children need that bond and attachement with their mothers to help with their brain development. Once children reach six (School ready) , mother could work part time.

Daycare exists you know. Very capable people are present in the childcare industry

It’s funny you say that, being a mother is a full time job . Which comes with no pay. While you are sleeping , she is changing nappies, breast feeding, trying to put the child back to bed, cleaning their vomit, and you want her to go and WORK when she has had a sleepless night.

if you want your wife to work, than you must also do the household chores such as cleaning and cooking, feeding the children , putting them to sleep , not just expecting her to have done everything and you come to a clean home and food is served.

Abaha cuun !

We are not white women who have one child either, we expect 10 kids

Most diaspora won’t have more than 3 kids. What makes you so special if the white woman can do it? Childcare will handle the kids when you are out earning money for the mortgage. The mortgage won’t pay itself.

I'm convinced a lot of Muslim men nowadays don't want to be providers cause what is goin on here. Most of our parents had husbands that provided for them. It's not even apart of our deen or culture to force the wife to work and pay half the bills. It's some foolish western concept.

What did they benefit from all that? Most of them are thrown out and get disrespected.

You sound exactly like my dad. It’s creepy. This was my parents’ main arguments.

The sad truth is most of you all will be working past 65 if you plan on being like your mums.

 

[Calaf]

Imagine making your wife work, top tier daayuth. Next up, Househusband and the wife brings in the money

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

I believe you are gay where is you masculinity ?

 

[قوة الشرطة الصومالية]

I believe you are gay where is you masculinity ?

Many are thinking like me. They are just afraid to state their opinions. I don’t want to be 65 with nothing to show for but a wife and a couple kids. I’m a rational male who is against being exploited under the cover of religion.

 

[Xaruun]

You should live below your means. Just hunt budgets and bargains. That way you can retire.

 

[pirater]

Many potential ethnic partners I spoke to demanded they will quit work after a couple of years. Some even straight out told me they will quit work the second I marry them. They believe Islam grants them the right to refuse work even when they are highly educated. What do you think of the whole situation?

We all know how difficult it is to sustain a family on one income in the West. Why do ethnic women blind themselves of the realities in the West? It would take 100 plus hours a week to support a family on a single income with a good wage. I don’t think any sane man would sacrifice all those hours for his family these days. Many of us won’t accept to be slaves for their families.

Why would people get higher education if they don’t want to work ?

when were you gonna marry an ethnic women. Your bootyclapping for them pasty whites

 

[قوة الشرطة الصومالية]

when were you gonna marry an ethnic women. Your bootyclapping for them pasty whites

I’m still very conflicted. I believe marrying from another Somali clan will boost my chances in Somalia and also marrying white in the west would guarantee my success in the West even more. An educated higher middle class white woman can do wonders for any coloured man.

 

[so_wavey]

Are we talking deen? or are we talking chicken? if deen listen to this and fear allah your creator

If a woman ask for divorce without a VALID reason she will not smell the fragrance of jannah

It is reported in the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), "If a women asks her husband for a divorce, for no reason, then the smell of paradise is forbidden for her". (At-Tirmidhi narrated it. He said this is a hasan hadith. Sunnah At-Tirmidhi #1187.)


The wife has to obey husband in everything as long as he does not tell her to do haram

If he says he does not want her to work she should obey him if she does not she is disobeying allah and his messsenger

so much so if the wife wants to do sunnah fast she has to take permisson from husband as the prophet said

“It is not permitted for a woman to fast when her husband is present without his permission, or to admit anyone into his house without his permission. And whatever she spends (in charity) of his wealth without his consent, ….” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4899; Muslim, 1026)

You talking about working which is husband duty and here the prophet said you cant fast without husbands permisson subhanallah

we are muslims we hear and obey

 

[bluebird]

Depends on what type of relationship you want. If you want a traditional Somali wife that submits to you, then yes you’re obligated to support her financially. If you want a modern progressive relationship, then your wife would be obligated to contribute equally to finances

they want both lol

 

[AbdiS]

What's with this man and divorce?

 

[KingSomali999]

It’s a mans job to provide for the family. this isn’t any different than girls complaining about household chores and wanting her husband to do it.
If you live in the west it will be pretty easy to marry a somali who will split bills 50/50 but also household chores 50-50. but in my opinion that is not a good strategy for long term.

 

[Amirah]

It’s funny you say that, being a mother is a full time job . Which comes with no pay. While you are sleeping , she is changing nappies, breast feeding, trying to put the child back to bed, cleaning their vomit, and you want her to go and WORK when she has had a sleepless night.

if you want your wife to work, than you must also do the household chores such as cleaning and cooking, feeding the children , putting them to sleep , not just expecting her to have done everything and you come to a clean home and food is served.

Abaha cuun !

We are not white women who have one child either, we expect 10 kids

Basically this is what he’s saying...she does 150%(100% of household work + 50% of household income) and he contributes exactly 50%! Fathia absie called guys like that “calool weyne” for a reason. He wants to chill and eat and sleep on her dime, hard work and time

 

[Netflix]

What’s this laziness pure qashin wallahi what’s the point of education if your going to drop your job when you marry.