Deadbeat father wants to reconnect - I don't.

Leila

Wanaag iyo Dhiig kar
I understand your frustration. You don’t have the responsibility to provide for your father but try to give him enough so that at least he will have the basics (shelter , food). Your father wronged you but try to be kind to him for Allah’s sake.
 
As a practising Muslim man, in this case I’d say screw Islam, tell your “dad” to kick rocks. Even faking nice is too much kindness. Loser bastard.

you Murtads are funny walaahi, "As a Muslim man, I’d say screw Islam".

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Funny enough - the way I see many young Somali Americans I actually see a future where many deadbeats or abusive parents are put into nursing homes by their children. I don't think many children today are as forgiving as previous generations regardless of deen.

It's a sad reality.
I think those dead beat fathers deserve to be in care homes, but youngesters are playing checkers not chess. I think it sets a dangerous precedent and can change our culture. Alhamdulliah my father raised us and provided for us, but God forbid if hypothetically I was the daughter of a dead beat I’d look after him if it meant that he’d be left in a care home and it’s only because I would not want my children to normalize that nonsense. Kids do not understand the reason behind why he might be left in a care home, all they can see is the action of it and the last think you’d want to is to normalize that for the younger generation. Plus, it will give you extra deeds for Akhira and you’re modeling good behavior for your children. I think as a mother/father you need to think about stuff like that.
 
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