Do Somali's take marriage too lightly?

[Ferrari]

You won't with your four wives.


Life is harsh here. Very individualistic as opposed to collectivist Somalia.

oh i won't inshallah.
i'll divorce one every four years to capture a newer, younger and fresher one.

 

[Gambar]

oh i won't inshallah.
i'll divorce one every four years to capture a newer, younger and fresher one.

Afka ku go'

 

[FarahAbdi]

Somalis take everything lightly, marriage, their kids future, career, health, their country's future. In fact, our logo is we half ass everything.

We are always looking for short cuts to everything, we love to copy others. Xaalimo next door had a 50k wedding, I shall make mine 60. Abdi found a virgin wife in Africa, I shall too. The sheep mentality in the Somali community is real.

This.


We need to stop the 'Keeping with the Abdis/Xalimos' mentality. I see so many Somali married ladies telling their husbands to buy them a new car because the Xalimo next door got a new Lexus.

We spend so much money on stuff that lose value quick rather then investing or buying a home. The concept of investing or putting money in our retirement funds is so foreign.

 

[Ferrari]

Afka ku go'

 

[Lostbox]

I've always felt this and I can see it looking at the marriages of both the older and younger generation.
People go into marriage naive and unprepared. A lot of times, they have major mental or health issues that they have not addressed and kept hidden form their potential spouse and there is also the lack of financial planning.

I know our forefathers got married in a certain way and that worked for that time, but we have a whole list of issues (mental/health and financial issues) that stem from the civil war and us being refugess that people refuse to acknowledge.

Lets spend less on the wedding and more on ourselves and our futures. Lets take our time making better choices in marriage partners, so that we can have less divorces and broken homes.

What do you all think?

There were repercussions for divorce but thankfully there isn't and now a day some people don't want kids. Marriage in not a important or necessary as it used to be and it expensive as hell. Some are opting out if it. people now a days will get married for there own fulfillment or for the selfish reasons.

 

[HuunoHunter]

I've always felt this and I can see it looking at the marriages of both the older and younger generation.
People go into marriage naive and unprepared. A lot of times, they have major mental or health issues that they have not addressed and kept hidden form their potential spouse and there is also the lack of financial planning.

I know our forefathers got married in a certain way and that worked for that time, but we have a whole list of issues (mental/health and financial issues) that stem from the civil war and us being refugess that people refuse to acknowledge.

Lets spend less on the wedding and more on ourselves and our futures. Lets take our time making better choices in marriage partners, so that we can have less divorces and broken homes.

What do you all think?

You might as well say let's commit zina and ride the carousel before we settle down.

 

[Lalune]

There were repercussions for divorce but thankfully there isn't and now a day some people don't want kids. Marriage in not a important or necessary as it used to be and it expensive as hell. Some are opting out if it. people now a days will get married for there own fulfillment or for the selfish reasons.

I feel like many Somali men even in the past were selfish and just wanted as many wives and kids as possible. Hence, so many of us having 20+ aunts and uncles.

You might as well say let's commit zina and ride the carousel before we settle down.

War waad waalantahay! I never even remotely implied that

 

[HuunoHunter]

I feel like many Somali men even in the past were selfish and just wanted as many wives and kids as possible. Hence, so many of us having 20+ aunts and uncles.


War waad waalantahay! I never even remotely implied that

Isn't that the better option tho?
Practice makes perfect, no?

 

[Lalune]

Isn't that the better option tho?
Practice makes perfect, no?

Warya, piss off! Dibiyahow xunn.

 

[The Cushitic One]

Who needs marriage now, when we
Have a halal sperm bank.

 

[Mercury]

i agree with you
@Lalune
Just like to add my Two cents
One problem is Somalis shouldnt only think marriage is for procreation alone It becomes successful when both husband and wife support one another and contribute to the realization of their long-term goals

Also people should finish whatever goals they have wether its education or career anything and than get married
Like for instance I plan to build a house in Hargeisa then settle Down with a beautiful wife

Now the one thing that suprises me is the mentality I see with many Young Somalis is that they all think marriage life is easy and than Divorce shortly After

I always seen marriage like a BIG responsibility cause youre gonna take care of your house, wife , provide for her and the kids, Cook, clean, help raise kids, put em to bed, and on top of that you still gotta spend on the wifey have date nights and buy her gifts all of that to live a happy prosperous marriage

 

[HuunoHunter]

Warya, piss off! Dibiyahow xunn.

Chill out huuno, free love is better for your diikir.

 

[Mercury]

Come to think of it do Somalis even talk about their expactations and wants From the marriage

If not

 

[John Michael]

i agree with you
@Lalune
Just like to add my Two cents
One problem is Somalis shouldnt only think marriage is for procreation alone It becomes successful when both husband and wife support one another and contribute to the realization of their long-term goals

Also people should finish whatever goals they have wether its education or career anything and than get married
Like for instance I plan to build a house in Hargeisa then settle Down with a beautiful wife

Now the one thing that suprises me is the mentality I see with many Young Somalis is that they all think marriage life is easy and than Divorce shortly After

I always seen marriage like a BIG responsibility cause youre gonna take care of your house, wife , provide for her and the kids, Cook, clean, help raise kids, put em to bed, and on top of that you still gotta spend on the wifey have date nights and buy her gifts all of that to live a happy prosperous marriage

Definitely! Your kids we'll only be around for so long but your spouse is forever.

Plus if you treat your husband/wife well your children will feel like they have a safe and stable environment to come home to and will have an ideal childhood. What they do after 15 is really not your fault then. Lol