NordicSomali
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To your kids or parents?
Do you say I love you…?
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Never willNow that I've thought about it, I don't think that has ever come out of my mouth
Sa_Male
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Somalis, I've noticed, I quite touchy with this lmao idk I've never seen a somali family engage in such activities.
The only time you hear I love you coming from a somali is when they're
Sa_Male
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Upper class coonYeah, I say it to my parents/siblings if they’re nearby whenever I’m leaving the house“wan idin jeclahay, fi amaan allah”. I’ve noticed it’s ceeb for some people though.
Lemme guess, you have a dishwasher and live in a "modest" 9 bedroom property as well
that is sweet but I think actions are much better than words.
having known people who use "love bombing" and are the meanest people, I now have zero care for things like I love you, sweet words, compliments etc. and they actually make me feel suspicious and uneasy
Yes; only to family.
As for romantically, that is a different story. I have never said it to a suitor. I cannot say that to someone who is not a sure thing - spouse. It would be an interesting exercise to see what a prospect thinks about this notion.
However, considering the level of guardedness among many Somalis and their distrust of such words or flat affect regarding affection. I find that notion quite troubling. I do not think one is capable of love with a closed heart. I also think to have a heart that is not discerning is also problematic. Some people are incapable of love. While others exclaim love falsely with an end in mind. And some fall in love with such frequency that you cannot even determine their sincerity. You assume they are merely caught up in hormonally excitement. Or perhaps more into the idea of love than the actual person. Substitute the person and nothing would change.
Also, how can one love someone who has falsely portrayed who they or changed themselves for the object of their affection. Rather then staying true to who they really are.
Compliments are fine provided they are authentic. I do not think one has to be stingy in this regard nor deluge/flood you with them making it seem forced and unreal
. Balance is key.
As for romantically, that is a different story. I have never said it to a suitor. I cannot say that to someone who is not a sure thing - spouse. It would be an interesting exercise to see what a prospect thinks about this notion.
However, considering the level of guardedness among many Somalis and their distrust of such words or flat affect regarding affection. I find that notion quite troubling. I do not think one is capable of love with a closed heart. I also think to have a heart that is not discerning is also problematic. Some people are incapable of love. While others exclaim love falsely with an end in mind. And some fall in love with such frequency that you cannot even determine their sincerity. You assume they are merely caught up in hormonally excitement. Or perhaps more into the idea of love than the actual person. Substitute the person and nothing would change.
Also, how can one love someone who has falsely portrayed who they or changed themselves for the object of their affection. Rather then staying true to who they really are.
Compliments are fine provided they are authentic. I do not think one has to be stingy in this regard nor deluge/flood you with them making it seem forced and unreal
. Balance is key.
Yes I’ve said it to my hooyo, as for my father it’s handshakes and jokes
I say it to my younger siblings, Somalis tend to be emotionally absent, so it's up to us to spread the love.
Bille
Sidii roon Raba og
Only the female members of our family get the word macaan attached to. Like I call my Hooyo: " Hooyo Macaan"
Eedo Macaan
Ayeeyo Macaan
But the male side of our family don't get any affection we just call Aabo, Adeer or Awoowe.
Yup, I'm a family-oriented guy even to my detriment.
