Does your family pressure you to marry?

[Wervelwind]

I'm male, 33 years old and it's understandably becoming a concern for my family. I've talked to my mom, dad and an uncle about it about how I don't want to marry. I'm positive my mom isn't ok with my decision and has decided for herself that I will marry but she hasn't talked to me about marriage at all lately.

Next week it's gonna be Christmas holidays and another uncle will stay with us for a couple of days. I'm pretty sure he's gonna talk to me about it as well. I don't have difficulties with standing behind my decisions and I'll tell him the same as what I've told every one but it's tiring to do so because my mom may jump in as well and then it's gonna be a 2 vs 1

My mom and dad have already done a 2 vs 1 against me in the past so I'm experienced

 

[EyiPunter]

I'm male, 33 years old and it's understandably becoming a concern for my family. I've talked to my mom, dad and an uncle about it about how I don't want to marry. I'm positive my mom isn't ok with my decision and has decided for herself that I will marry but she hasn't talked to me about marriage at all lately.

Next week it's gonna be Christmas holidays and another uncle will stay with us for a couple of days. I'm pretty sure he's gonna talk to me about it as well. I don't have difficulties with standing behind my decisions and I'll tell him the same as what I've told every one but it's tiring to do so because my mom may jump in as well and then it's gonna be a 2 vs 1

My mom and dad have already done a 2 vs 1 against me in the past so I'm experienced

Sxb are you the only child?

 

[Wervelwind]

Sxb are you the only child?

My mom has 4 sons and my dad has 4 sons and 1 daughter

 

[Lostbox]

I'm more surprised your mom didn't take an active role. Somali mom for there son's usually try setup a halal dating and looking for suitors. My mom went through this after i was 24, so did my male cousins, family friends and other local guys. It just show us which guys more popular with the local girls. One thing will never lack in are community is ladies looking to settle down

They never do it for their daughters

 

[TekNiKo]

When you grow old and lonely with no children and end up in a nursing home you’d wish to listen to your hooyo.

 

[gasara]

No. As long as we are happy and healthy that’s all they care about. Also it’s fine if you don’t want to get married. I have older relatives who’ve never gotten married or had kids. I’ve had relatives who’ve gotten a divorce and never remarried. What I’m trying to say is that everyone has their own path and story in this world. And your path includes not getting married and that’s alright. We will all die one day so do what makes you happy.

 

[EyiPunter]

My mom has 4 sons and my dad has 4 sons and 1 daughter

Ok. Sxb get married soon. I'm currently looking for a wife also. I still have time but you have to find one fast sxb. Have you thought about heading to Morocco for one. ?

 

[olore]

My mom has 4 sons and my dad has 4 sons and 1 daughter

Have any of them gotten married

 

[Aseer]

So your voluntarily celibate? Why is that?

 

[Wervelwind]

Have any of them gotten married

No. I'm the oldest but the rest is close to me in age so I'm hoping one of them will marry to get the heat off me

 

[Wervelwind]

I'm more surprised your mom didn't take an active role. Somali mom for there son's usually try setup a halal dating and looking for suitors. My mom went through this after i was 24, so did my male cousins, family friends and other local guys. It just show us which guys more popular with the local girls. One thing will never lack in are community is ladies looking to settle down

They never do it for their daughters

She's been active. She wants to introduce me to girls etc but I've refused.

 

[Wervelwind]

When you grow old and lonely with no children and end up in a nursing home you’d wish to listen to your hooyo.

Of course that's true but I think marrying just because you're afraid of being alone isn't the right reason. I think you should marry if that makes you happy now and it's something you want

 

[Wervelwind]

So your voluntarily celibate? Why is that?

I like being by myself. I think being married and having to spend all of that time with a woman would annoy and irritate me. Plus with children I would have no free time as well

If any of you faraxs are married, can you please share how your life was before and after

 

[rayxn3]

I like being by myself. I think being married and having to spend all of that time with a woman would annoy and irritate me. Plus with children I would have no free time as well

If any of you faraxs are married, can you please share how your life was before and after

That’s interesting lol.

 

[olore]

Of course that's true but I think marrying just because you're afraid of being alone isn't the right reason. I think you should marry if that makes you happy now and it's something you want

Facts don’t be pressured

 

[The truth seeker]

Marriage when done right is a blessing sxb can’t be living the rest of your life alone regardless of gender

 

[LilBang]

I'm male, 33 years old and it's understandably becoming a concern for my family. I've talked to my mom, dad and an uncle about it about how I don't want to marry. I'm positive my mom isn't ok with my decision and has decided for herself that I will marry but she hasn't talked to me about marriage at all lately.

Next week it's gonna be Christmas holidays and another uncle will stay with us for a couple of days. I'm pretty sure he's gonna talk to me about it as well. I don't have difficulties with standing behind my decisions and I'll tell him the same as what I've told every one but it's tiring to do so because my mom may jump in as well and then it's gonna be a 2 vs 1

My mom and dad have already done a 2 vs 1 against me in the past so I'm experienced

Nothing wrong with staying single not everyone in this life will get married tbh

 

[The truth seeker]

Nothing wrong with staying single not everyone in this life will get married tbh

Being a lone wolf gets lonely

 

[LilBang]

Being a lone wolf gets lonely

So what we was born alone and we gon die alone no need to beat yourself up over it bro

 

[Avalanche]

I think they're more bothered by you living at home. If you move out, they won't ask you