Sometimes, life doesn’t go the way we expect, and it feels like everything is falling apart. We’ve all been there – a job that doesn’t work out, a relationship that ends, or personal struggles that seem never-ending. In those moments, it’s easy to get frustrated, upset, or even lose hope. But as Muslims, we’re reminded that everything that happens to us – good or bad – is part of Allah’s qadr (divine decree). And this is something we have to accept, even when it's hard.
One thing I’ve learned is that accepting Allah's qadr means trusting that whatever happens is part of a bigger plan. It’s not always easy, but Allah knows what’s best for us. In Surah Al-Baqarah, Allah says:
“Perhaps you hate something and it is good for you, or you love something and it is bad for you. And Allah knows while you know not.” (Qur'an, 2:216).
This verse has helped me a lot because it’s a reminder that even when something feels like the worst thing that could happen, it might actually be the best thing for me in the long run. I just can’t see it right now.
We have to remember that our perspective is limited. We don’t always know the bigger picture. That job you didn’t get, or that relationship that fell apart – it could be that Allah saved you from something worse. Or maybe that struggle will eventually help you grow in ways you never imagined. The fact is, we have to trust Allah’s plan, even when it’s hard to understand.
The Salaf (the early generations of Muslims) really understood this. They knew that hardships were part of life, but they also knew that accepting those hardships would bring them closer to Allah. Imam Ibn Qayyim (رحمه الله) said:
“Whatever Allah decrees, it is better than what you desire, and whatever Allah has chosen is better than what you have chosen.”
This is something I try to remind myself whenever I feel frustrated or confused about something not going my way. It’s a reminder that Allah’s wisdom is far greater than my own.
When we face difficulties, we might not see the benefits immediately. But later on, we might look back and realize that those struggles were a blessing in disguise. For example, a difficult situation might push you to become stronger, or it might lead you to make decisions that are better for your future. Maybe a hardship will help you rely more on Allah or lead you to become more patient and grateful. The point is, what seems bad now might turn out to be something good.
One of the best ways to cope with life’s struggles is to remind ourselves to be grateful, no matter how small the blessings are. Sometimes, it's just about looking for the good in the situation, even if it feels like everything is going wrong. Allah tells us in the Qur’an that even during difficult times, we should always find something to be thankful for. It could be our health, the fact that we can pray, or the people around us who support us.
Another thing I’ve learned is to make du’a (supplication). When you’re struggling or feeling down, ask Allah for patience and understanding. He’s the best listener, and He’s always there for you, even when it feels like no one else is. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim—even if it be the prick of a thorn—but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it.” (Sahih Bukhari)
This hadith reminds me that even though hardship is hard, it can actually be a means of purification for us.
It’s also important to trust Allah’s timing. Sometimes we think we know what’s best for us, but Allah knows what we really need. I’ve realized that when something doesn’t go according to my plan, I have to trust that Allah’s plan is always better. What seems like a setback might actually be a setup for something better later on.
So yeah, life can be tough sometimes, and it’s easy to get discouraged when things aren’t going the way you hoped. But trust me, accepting Allah’s qadr and knowing that He’s in control makes all the difference. Even the toughest moments might lead to blessings that you’ll only recognize later. So, even when things are hard, take a deep breath, trust in Allah’s wisdom, and remember that what you think is bad might actually be the best thing that could happen to you.
One thing I’ve learned is that accepting Allah's qadr means trusting that whatever happens is part of a bigger plan. It’s not always easy, but Allah knows what’s best for us. In Surah Al-Baqarah, Allah says:
“Perhaps you hate something and it is good for you, or you love something and it is bad for you. And Allah knows while you know not.” (Qur'an, 2:216).
This verse has helped me a lot because it’s a reminder that even when something feels like the worst thing that could happen, it might actually be the best thing for me in the long run. I just can’t see it right now.
We have to remember that our perspective is limited. We don’t always know the bigger picture. That job you didn’t get, or that relationship that fell apart – it could be that Allah saved you from something worse. Or maybe that struggle will eventually help you grow in ways you never imagined. The fact is, we have to trust Allah’s plan, even when it’s hard to understand.
The Salaf (the early generations of Muslims) really understood this. They knew that hardships were part of life, but they also knew that accepting those hardships would bring them closer to Allah. Imam Ibn Qayyim (رحمه الله) said:
“Whatever Allah decrees, it is better than what you desire, and whatever Allah has chosen is better than what you have chosen.”
This is something I try to remind myself whenever I feel frustrated or confused about something not going my way. It’s a reminder that Allah’s wisdom is far greater than my own.
When we face difficulties, we might not see the benefits immediately. But later on, we might look back and realize that those struggles were a blessing in disguise. For example, a difficult situation might push you to become stronger, or it might lead you to make decisions that are better for your future. Maybe a hardship will help you rely more on Allah or lead you to become more patient and grateful. The point is, what seems bad now might turn out to be something good.
One of the best ways to cope with life’s struggles is to remind ourselves to be grateful, no matter how small the blessings are. Sometimes, it's just about looking for the good in the situation, even if it feels like everything is going wrong. Allah tells us in the Qur’an that even during difficult times, we should always find something to be thankful for. It could be our health, the fact that we can pray, or the people around us who support us.
Another thing I’ve learned is to make du’a (supplication). When you’re struggling or feeling down, ask Allah for patience and understanding. He’s the best listener, and He’s always there for you, even when it feels like no one else is. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:
“No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim—even if it be the prick of a thorn—but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it.” (Sahih Bukhari)
This hadith reminds me that even though hardship is hard, it can actually be a means of purification for us.
It’s also important to trust Allah’s timing. Sometimes we think we know what’s best for us, but Allah knows what we really need. I’ve realized that when something doesn’t go according to my plan, I have to trust that Allah’s plan is always better. What seems like a setback might actually be a setup for something better later on.
So yeah, life can be tough sometimes, and it’s easy to get discouraged when things aren’t going the way you hoped. But trust me, accepting Allah’s qadr and knowing that He’s in control makes all the difference. Even the toughest moments might lead to blessings that you’ll only recognize later. So, even when things are hard, take a deep breath, trust in Allah’s wisdom, and remember that what you think is bad might actually be the best thing that could happen to you.
