Faraaxs, should your wife obey you?

[Waaqmasho]

Yeah she should. I mean that's what islam says to begin with. Xalimos will rant about their rights in islam when it comes to marriage but are against the husband's rights. They want all the benefits but none of the responsibilities. You can't be selective picking and choosing what you want from the deen.

 

[Shimbiris]

Theres completely, entirely and absolutely no compromising on this aspect. I dictate the major things in her life. Of course you shouldnt be an insensitive moron. But I decide where we live, whether or not she should work full-time, what SHE CAN'T WEAR, how often she can meet her friends or even family for that matter. She is allowed to work but that couldn't jeopardise her main responsibilities which are house chores and cooking, raising the kids. If I see she's neglecting her responsibilities in favourite of her job, she must work parttime of even quit. I don't care about her job, it's not like I ask her to help pay the bills.

If you want to be in control, you should pay for the bills on your own. Never ask her to contribute, that's when hell breaks loose.

Oh, man... you too hardcore for Angelina and Nagaamos. They shook after reading what you just wrote.

 

[zuu]

Listen its respect correct all those obey words to respect

no women with a decent self esteem would put her self on the ground for a nigga and play house doing master and slave ya dig?

"no women would put her self on a ground for a nigga" kinky bdsm es would beg to differ

 

[shortynextdoor]

"no women would put her self on a ground for a nigga" kinky bdsm *****es would beg to differ

and they're what I was describing
why would a woman with self esteem allow her self to be treated like that

 

[zuu]

and they're what I was describing
why would a woman with self esteem allow her self to be treated like that

idk man its just the trend nowadays

 

[Desert Flower]

Do you obey Allah? Follow His commands?

The vast majority of you don’t follow the basic tenets of Islam, yet want to turn around and demand that your wife “obey” you. Get a grip.

 

[Waaqmasho]

Do you obey Allah? Follow His commands?

The vast majority of you don’t follow the basic tenets of Islam, yet want to turn around and demand that your wife “obey” you. Get a grip.

Wait wait. That's not related. Whether he obeys Allah or not is between him and allah. you can only advice him. However, that doesn't give you free pass to not obey him. What we are talking about is whether YOU follow the command of allah. If you do islam tells you to obey your husband unless he asks you to do things against islam. That's it. It's simple.

 

[Desert Flower]

Wait wait. That's not related. Whether he obeys Allah or not is between him and allah. you can only advice him. However, that doesn't give you free pass to not obey him. What we are talking about is whether YOU follow the command of allah. If you do islam tells you to obey your husband unless he asks you to do things against islam. That's it. It's simple.

Actually, it does. I don't want to turn this into a convoluted debate, but there seems to be a fixation on having a woman obey her husband, yet that husband himself has a weak, even non-existent relationship with Allah. And no, a man does not have the luxury to say that him and his relationship with Allah is only between the two as a married man, since it becomes haram for a woman to be married to a man who becomes deficient in his deen (some scholars say that a man who misses prayers has left the fold of the deen).

All I am saying is, if men want a woman to listen and to do what he wants, cultivate a strong relationship with Allah first. Everything else comes after.

 

[trucel]

Im not her god , she does not have to obey me tf.

 

[Mr Sufi]

Nah and yeah depending on my mood

 

[King Khufu]

Women should obey their husbands to marital obligations.
(obey in this case is used to mean following responsibilities with instruction to keep the home balanced and reasonably happy.)
Other than that - everyone has free-will. Nothing is ever dominant nor in absolute control.
((no guarantees in life buddies, just smart results to outcome if when things go right.))

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[Waaqmasho]

Actually, it does. I don't want to turn this into a convoluted debate, but there seems to be a fixation on having a woman obey her husband, yet that husband himself has a weak, even non-existent relationship with Allah. And no, a man does not have the luxury to say that him and his relationship with Allah is only between the two as a married man, since it becomes haram for a woman to be married to a man who becomes deficient in his deen (some scholars say that a man who misses prayers has left the fold of the deen).

All I am saying is, if men want a woman to listen and to do what he wants, cultivate a strong relationship with Allah first. Everything else comes after.

Not praying? Thats an extreme case. You shouldnt be married to someone who doesnt pray as it practically means he left the deen. You said it yourself its haram to be married to him. Leaving out salah, a husband might not have the best connection with Allah. Like i said, thats not a reason to not obey him. The command of Allah doesnt come with only obey him if he does so and so. Its uncoditional obeying as as long as he doesnt order you to do haram things and ofc he is still a muslim. If he isnt muslim you shouldnt be married to begin with.

 

[Abdalla]

Ma nigga do you want a slave or a wife lool.

I am attracted to women that boss around other women but are submissive towards her husband. Most of you are submissive towards other women but want to boss around your men. Likewise men should be harsh towards other men but lenient and understanding towards their spouses.

There’s nothing worse I despise servile women with no backbone that get bossed around by their girlfriends but pretends to be a lioness when it comes towards her husband.

 

[Malikfiqi]

If she’s actually attracted to you and likes you, and is not just tolerating you for your money or other reasons. you won’t even have to bother about if she’s obedient or not she’ll do it herself.

 

[Zahra]

Theres completely, entirely and absolutely no compromising on this aspect. I dictate the major things in her life. Of course you shouldnt be an insensitive moron. But I decide where we live, whether or not she should work full-time, what SHE CAN'T WEAR, how often she can meet her friends or even family for that matter. She is allowed to work but that couldn't jeopardise her main responsibilities which are house chores and cooking, raising the kids. If I see she's neglecting her responsibilities in favourite of her job, she must work parttime of even quit. I don't care about her job, it's not like I ask her to help pay the bills.

If you want to be in control, you should pay for the bills on your own. Never ask her to contribute, that's when hell breaks loose.

Interesting mindset Abdalla

 

[Abdalla]

Interesting mindset Abdalla

Do you agree?

 

[Sophisticate]

I am attracted to women that boss around other women but are submissive towards her husband. Most of you are submissive towards other women but want to boss around your men. Likewise men should be harsh towards other men but lenient and understanding towards their spouses.

There’s nothing worse I despise servile women with no backbone that get bossed around by their girlfriends but pretends to be a lioness when it comes towards her husband.

It sounds dichotomous. Life isn't that black and white (dominance v. submission) be it in friendships or relationships.
Unless you're lowkey into alternative subcultures. The acronym starts with B ends with M.

Anyway, I would not want to lord over others or allow them to encroach upon me. I don't think that neatly conforms to your framework. To get someone to agree requires convincing them through mutualistic consensus building and having a group-orientation.

 

[IstarZ]

Actually, it does. I don't want to turn this into a convoluted debate, but there seems to be a fixation on having a woman obey her husband, yet that husband himself has a weak, even non-existent relationship with Allah. And no, a man does not have the luxury to say that him and his relationship with Allah is only between the two as a married man, since it becomes haram for a woman to be married to a man who becomes deficient in his deen (some scholars say that a man who misses prayers has left the fold of the deen).

All I am saying is, if men want a woman to listen and to do what he wants, cultivate a strong relationship with Allah first. Everything else comes after.

They honestly don’t understand this part or they’re just completely oblivious to what’s expected of them. They think the role they’ve been given is a privilege instead of a huge responsibility that they will be held accountable for.

Respect goes both ways and Somali women are not the doormat type. We don’t tolerate abuse and gardarro.

 

[Zahra]

Do you agree?

Absolutely NOT

 

[Zahra]

I am attracted to women that boss around other women but are submissive towards her husband. Most of you are submissive towards other women but want to boss around your men. Likewise men should be harsh towards other men but lenient and understanding towards their spouses.

There’s nothing worse I despise servile women with no backbone that get bossed around by their girlfriends but pretends to be a lioness when it comes towards her husband.

This post is all over the place. Treat each other with respect and everything else will fall into place. No control or dominance needed.