Fighting with Bae

[GodKnowsBest]

What about his past is making you mad?

Well him dating other girls and talking about wanting to marry another girl and him KISSING other girls.

 

[GodKnowsBest]

Waiting until "time is right" to marry is something cadaan and reer curry do.

I never knew anyone who waited that long. Either of you will eventually break.

Naw,


I would have a baby within the first year of marriage due to my drive.

Then I wouldn't be able to finish school.

 

[GlitzyCue_]

Well him dating other girls and talking about wanting to marry another girl and him KISSING other girls.

What's wrong with that if it occurred before you guys dated?

 

[The Cushitic One]

Girl why did we even

I can't imagine what I'd do if he did that.

He even ignored you??

Yes for a few mins

I was actually offended. Big time. I was waiting for a reply
And saw she got one instead of me.

 

[GodKnowsBest]

we're the same age how about you focus on studying and forget about men they aren't all that

Girl I wish.

I need to have a certain man in my mind before I sleep to sleep peacefully ever since I was like 8 years old.

 

[merka]

I was fine with him and we were getting along well but I have to admit digging up his past made me more and more mad the more I looked.

The past is the past. You should forgive him

 

[Genie]

Girl I wish.

I need to have a certain man in my mind before I sleep to sleep peacefully ever since I was like 8 years old.

thats worrying , you need therapy because subhan'allah i wish that was me but with my lord instead of some next guy.

 

[merka]

Yes for a few mins

I was actually offended. Big time. I was waiting for a reply
And saw she got one instead of me.

 

[Xooshdheere]

Naw,


I would have a baby within the first year of marriage due to my drive.

Then I wouldn't be able to finish school.

use condom

 

[GodKnowsBest]

use condom

If it's happening twice a day everyday it's bound to break once.

 

[Malcolm X]

Naw,


I would have a baby within the first year of marriage due to my drive.

Then I wouldn't be able to finish school.

Whoah, your drive is off the charts.


Is birth control not enough for you?

 

[GodKnowsBest]

Whoah, your drive is off the charts.


Is birth control not enough for you?

Yes.

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[The Cushitic One]

 

[Malcolm X]

Yes.

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Good luck. I can't help you anymore

 

[Xooshdheere]

If it's happening twice a day everyday it's bound to break once.

take ppills or oral

 

[The Cushitic One]

If it's happening twice a day everyday it's bound to break once.

Excellent numbers

 

[fox]

Cut him off, invest in a dildo and focus on your studies.

 

[Mohamedali]

So a mutual friend who's also a friend of mine and a friend of bae told me about bae's past and it made me livid.

The man is a virgin alhamdullilah, that's one of the few criteria I cannot compromise on.

Whenever we'd reach a baggage topic in the past, I'd tell him to stop and he'd respectfully stop speaking about it.

Recently however the mutual friend alerted me of his past, and the further I digged it up the more livid I became and the more I learned that all our mutual friends knew about this occurrence.

Anyways, I fought with him this morning about it and I'm really not sure what to do.

Currently I'm 19 and I only stayed in this relationship because I developed feelings for him and I entered it because I was bored and I like flirting with men.

I just don't want to get married until I'm 24ish and I'd be waiting for him for a long time and it's long distance so I don't want to reject all the men In front of me for a man I may or may not ever marry (He refuses to come to me for an unknown amount of time but he might marry a girl in that meantime even though he says he won't).

What do you guys think?

Don't delay marriage if you love him get a nikah even though its still not a big wedding stay committed and inshAllah youse will both succeed in your marriage

 

[Mohamedali]

"i like flirting men" how can you want him when u want every man to get in ur dirac?

and why is virgin man a big deal to u? like he wud tell u if hes not virgin.

My only advice wud be: STOP trying to control men. you are a kid ffs stop bothering yoself with "marriage".


other than that. you could try sleepin around, it might give u experience on dating and relationship cuz honestly you sound u have no clue

Very bad advice you baqti

 

[Someone]

Well him dating other girls and talking about wanting to marry another girl

That's normal abaayo you've probably had a crush before haven't you? Leave the past behind and move on is all I can say.