dr.leorio
death\emitter
True....but they dont try this on girls who never been married. Its more on divorced women they try on. You already had one big wedding. Lets just save money and gave quick cheap on and it usually works because once divorced women settle for less
But then again if you're a divorcee and have already experienced a big wedding then accepting a small nikah sounds more realistic. I don't see this as settling for less since she already has a failed marriage under her belt and would be generally more desperate compared to a never married Xalimo.
The groom still needs to be vetted properly by her Wali to make sure he has correct intentions.
Some will do all that and still be f boy.
To be honest, you'll never know who you're dealing with until you've lived with or traveled with that person. Your job is to do everything right by Allahs swt standards and leave the rest to him by making duah and istikhara.