People need that spark immediately though, imagine being with someone who’s a good and attractive person but doesn’t make your heart flutter when you see themThe infatuation disappears very early on in the relationship because it’s just hormones driving you to reproduce. But once the baby is produced the lust and the hormones dry up and you find yourself in a situation where you have promised to live forever with someone. At this point it becomes about both of you struggling to get your needs met. Hence why I encourage everyone to ignore the heart flutters and go with someone you can live with and slowly fall in love with.