Have your parents invested in you academically/actively amasa sida digaag/doorada ayeey nii dhaleen?

[Grigori Rasputin]

Be honest, no need to make up stories of how great and visionary your parents were.

Did you parents do the following for you and your siblings:

At the age of 18 months did they took you to the library for book reading ?

Were you enrolled at a head start ?

Were you in a soccer league ?

Were you in the science club or math club or reading club or poetry club or any club at middle or high school?

Did your parents encourage you to be in these activities ? Would they give you rides to these ?

Were they even aware of what was happening at school and did they even had any foresight of how to set you up for success?

Or

You were just one of 8 kids who the parents were more worried about putting food on the table and roof over your head?

 

[Friko_Prizm]

I'm being honest...
They didn't take me to a library at 18 months old but when I was 5 years old back in nursery.
Not soccer/football but martial arts(Taekwondo/Aikido) from the age of 11 to 16 till I started hanging around with the wrong crowd then I quit.
Dunno bout Math/poetry/reading clubs but I do know I was going to Tuition 3 days a week for 5 yrs which was really pricey at the time I rarely saw Somali kids at Tuition only Asian's.
My mum was whippin since when I was about 2 yrs old she'd collect me from school to Malcamad to tuition whilst my pops took me to school in the morning's.
Both my parents where aware of everything that was happening at school even more so my pops they even had his mobile number on speedial. I honestly do not think I missed 1 school trip in a span of 11 yrs my parents encouraged all those schoole activities whilst my Somali friends didn't do any of those things.
Alhamdulilah for my parents.
Btw my pops is well into his mid 50s and he's still clocking in 12 hr shifts 6 days a week as Transport for London bus driver.

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

@Friko_Prizm what about taking you guys on a road trip, National landmarks, museums or even the science place?

Most importantly, have you ended up gaal? Like many of these lost souls ?

 

[Abdalla]

Somalis are Iskoris which isn't a bad trait tbh.

 

[Inactive]

They enrolled me in martial arts.

I'm a black belt




They also made me go to a homework club and skate on the weekends.

 

[waraabe]

Alhamudilah my parents focused on education more then anything else. I remember my mother took me to all sorts of after school tutoring, paid for home tutoring and used to make me revise for 2 hours when I was a kid every night (except for the weekends).

 

[Lord Flacko]

As a kid I was enrolled in first gymnastics then teakwondo and soccer.

From a baby till I was 11-ish years old my dad would pretty much every weekend take me to the library where I would play games, read and rent books. Startes by reading Donald Duck, then switched to literature and read everything there was before switching to Manga and back to literature again. Read the whole Dragonball series even. Read also every Goosebumps I could find lol
I also got to rent games from the library as my parents bought me a Gamecube (several times since I kept breaking them, but my parents had insurance so we got free replacements)

My dad would also take me to a dedicated science museum of sorts (it's a refurbished museum, not completely "official") after we were done at the library, where you could check out cool experiments, activies and displays while learning alot.

Twice a month as a child he would take me swimming or/and to the movies. They also bought me a trampoline as a kid making me the hottest young nigga on the block Got me bikes and everything I could need too.

I got advanced stuff in alot of classes like English, reading and maths because my parents would help me and encourage me at home alot until I got into much teens were I basically got to do whatever I want as long as I performed well in school. Yet to break that confidence.
My father was also on the school board and spoke often with the teachers

Before I quit soccer my dad also bought me a home weight lifting kit and after I quit soccer signed me up for a local gym cuz "the halimos love (strong) boys with a sixpack"

Now my parents keep in good touch with my teachers but still give me basically no pressure at home about school. Still just last week my aabo told me my teacher said I was the smartest in class #humblebrag



My parents gave me a great childhood. Love them



note : Might have put more emphasis on my dad but hooyo was as big if not a bigger part of my childhood. And by "me" I mean me and my siblings/mostly older brother

 

[Mohamud]

shoutout to the somalid dads and moms one more time

 

[Odeg]

They put me in quran school and I was a hafiz at very young age. I believe it devoloped my mental faculties. May they allways be blessed my parents.

 

[Friko_Prizm]

@Friko_Prizm what about taking you guys on a road trip, National landmarks, museums or even the science place?

Most importantly, have you ended up gaal? Like many of these lost souls ?

Road trips No not really only when we'd visit extended family's in other cities. But alot of Wax Museums , The national Zoo , historical landmarks ( Stonehedge , Windsor castle , Buckingham palace etc...)

Why become a Gaal? I just don't get it.
Bedsides being born into Islam is great gift , compared to non Muslims who were born into other religion's who will never know the beauty of Islam.

Regarding the members here who have left Islam it's really sad but with some guidance they can again find Islam unless Allah does not want them back.
Normally, when I meet an atheist, the first thing I like to do is to congratulate him and say, " My special congratulations to you" etc..... because most of the people who believe in God are doing blind belief - he is a Christian, because his father is a Christian; he is a Hindu, because his father is a Hindu; the majority of the people in the world are blindly following the religion of their fathers. An atheist, on the other hand, even though he may belong to a religious family, uses his intellect to deny the existence of God; what ever concept or qualities of God he may have learnt in his religion may not seem to be logical to him.

You guys might question me on why would I congratulate an atheist? The reason I do so is because he/she agrees with the first part of the Shahada i.e. the Islamic Creed, ‘La ilaaha’ - meaning ‘there is no God’. So half my job is already done; now the only part left is ‘il lallah’ i.e. ‘BUT ALLAH’ which I then try to explain.

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

@Friko_Prizm now answer this adeer!

What would you different as a parent then your parents approach?

I am saying this because I'm grateful to my parents but I intend to do so much to prepare that child for success. I think I've put a lot of study and thought to it.

I even know the antidote for that child of becoming a gaal.

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

As a kid I was enrolled in first gymnastics then teakwondo and soccer.

From a baby till I was 11-ish years old my dad would pretty much every weekend take me to the library where I would play games, read and rent books. Startes by reading Donald Duck, then switched to literature and read everything there was before switching to Manga and back to literature again. Read the whole Dragonball series even. Read also every Goosebumps I could find lol
I also got to rent games from the library as my parents bought me a Gamecube (several times since I kept breaking them, but my parents had insurance so we got free replacements)

My dad would also take me to a dedicated science museum of sorts (it's a refurbished museum, not completely "official") after we were done at the library, where you could check out cool experiments, activies and displays while learning alot.

Twice a month as a child he would take me swimming or/and to the movies. They also bought me a trampoline as a kid making me the hottest young nigga on the block Got me bikes and everything I could need too.

I got advanced stuff in alot of classes like English, reading and maths because my parents would help me and encourage me at home alot until I got into much teens were I basically got to do whatever I want as long as I performed well in school. Yet to break that confidence.
My father was also on the school board and spoke often with the teachers

Before I quit soccer my dad also bought me a home weight lifting kit and after I quit soccer signed me up for a local gym cuz "the halimos love (strong) boys with a sixpack"

Now my parents keep in good touch with my teachers but still give me basically no pressure at home about school. Still just last week my aabo told me my teacher said I was the smartest in class #humblebrag



My parents gave me a great childhood. Love them



note : Might have put more emphasis on my dad but hooyo was as big if not a bigger part of my childhood. And by "me" I mean me and my siblings/mostly older brother

After all that ma gaal bad noqotey?

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

They enrolled me in martial arts.

I'm a black belt




They also made me go to a homework club and skate on the weekends.

What should I do as a parent to avoid having such a qasaaro child as you?

 

[Lord Flacko]

After all that ma gaal bad noqotey?

I still believe in Allah sxb

 

[Zuleikha]

Ruunti between school, malcaamad, tution and private tutors I never had the time to participate after school activities.

 

[MARAQ DIGAAG]

Be honest, no need to make up stories of how great and visionary your parents were.

Did you parents do the following for you and your siblings:

At the age of 18 months did they took you to the library for book reading ?

Were you enrolled at a head start ?

Were you in a soccer league ?

Were you in the science club or math club or reading club or poetry club or any club at middle or high school?

Did your parents encourage you to be in these activities ? Would they give you rides to these ?

Were they even aware of what was happening at school and did they even had any foresight of how to set you up for success?

Or

You were just one of 8 kids who the parents were more worried about putting food on the table and roof over your head?

I was enrolled at the lacrosse club,took part in my dads triathlon and had a private tutor. War dadkani waa " I got told to get on with it ,waa bila investment " imtixaan .a Somali mans biggest investment premature ejaculation and food on the table .without those two things you would not be here .

 

[MARAQ DIGAAG]

On a serious note some malis are taking it to the other extreme these days .some families send their kids to tuition and or dugsi 5-7 times a week .the intentions are good ,but kids like menace need time to play and do homework .

 

[Friko_Prizm]

@Friko_Prizm now answer this adeer!

What would you different as a parent then your parents approach?

I am saying this because I'm grateful to my parents but I intend to do so much to prepare that child for success. I think I've put a lot of study and thought to it.

I even know the antidote for that child of becoming a gaal.

I guess talk & listen better & raise them the same as how your parents raised you.
But no matter how you think about it you will always make mistakes as a parent. You shouldn't always base your parenting on what your parents did or didn't do for you.
Let them he/she have a little more freedom to make their own decisions whether it's academic , career etc... & for he/she to make his or hers own mistakes.
Be tolerant & easy going but no too easy going.

 

[Grigori Rasputin]

I guess talk & listen better & raise them the same as how your parents raised you.
But no matter how you think about it you will always make mistakes as a parent. You shouldn't always base your parenting on what your parents did or didn't do for you.
Let them he/she have a little more freedom to make their own decisions whether it's academic , career etc... & for he/she to make his or hers own mistakes.
Be tolerant & easy going but no too easy going.

We are not discrediting the Somali parents, one of the great parents any nation can produce. Somali parents are wonderful in the majority.

The odds were stack against them and a lot of them have produced valuable adults.

However, our parents had no time to plan and plot as they had us on the go due to civil war and refugees in alien land.

Our generation (I'm gonna lump myself with you guys for a second ) have been afforded a good education and tremendous information. We are filled with information as never before. Our parents generation had to go to a library in order to learn something. As opposed to us who just google or YouTube it now.

We also see the mental mistke some parents have made (AJ's for comparison..they buried him in dugsi Quran and controlled what he could watch and stuff and we can see the result).

So I think what we can differently is to explain things to the child and to expose him to the fun side of knowledge. Take a trip to the science place. Take him to the space shuttle museum. Take him to an NBA game. Introduce him to a surgeon. Make a black scientist or Doctor his aspiration and always remind him that the real hero is not a man dunking a ball into a basket but someone like George Washingnton Carver. Even ancient Islamic scientist should be introduced to him, like the ones from Andalusia. Teach him about the great Sayyid Abdalla Xasan and Ahmed Gurey. Every 2 years fly him to Somalia and let him see poverty and let him see his relatives and let him know he has roots and belonging.

Always make him aware that we are against qoomu-luudh and how disgusting it is and how unnatural it is.

 

[merka]

Always make him aware that we are against qoomu-luudh and how disgusting it is and how unnatural it is.