How come Xalimos panic if they are not married by their mid 20s?

[Bonjour]

And by their late 20s they are called "gumays" meaning left overs that anyone doesn't want

 

[Jubba_Man]

They age very badly. Even worse than white women. Sometime around the mid-to-late 20s they transform into an islaan with a suugo-stained jilbaab and gain like 30-40 lbs. Call them by 'habaryar' or 'eedo' is the way to set them off, especially when you're the same age.

 

[Mudug-Madman]

Ummmm, I think you just answered your own question.

 

[dhegdheer]

Probably because of all the shitty expectations

we should just give up on trying to please ppl, imo

 

[Mohamud]

Somalis truly enjoy the enslaving themselves

Why else would they champion early marriages in a world set to have its life expectancy in the low 80s?

Who would get married just a quarter into their life in this day and age?

Actually nah getting married at that age is fine as long as you're using the extra time to bond, travel and save money. Be young.

 

[Bonjour]

Somalis truly enjoy the enslaving themselves

Why else would they champion early marriages in a world set to have its life expectancy in the low 80s?

Who would get married just a quarter into their life in this day and age?

Actually nah getting married at that age is fine as long as you're using the extra time to bond, travel and save money. Be young.

In England every Xalimo in my city gets married in their early 20s. Some get divorced after a while, and some become single mothers at age 23!

 

[dhegdheer]

having children in your early 20s is just tragic

 

[Mercury]

And by their late 20s they are called "gumays" meaning left overs that anyone doesn't want

Basically pressure from others and Somalis like to get married early because than shes more likely to create a football team

 

[Bonjour]

having children in your early 20s is just tragic

Imagine being a single divorced mother in your early 20s damn

 

[dhegdheer]

Imagine being a single divorced mother in your early 20s damn

Honestly sounds like my worst nightmare

 

[Bonjour]

Basically pressure from others and Somalis like to get married early because than shes more likely to create a football team

That's sad. Because your 20's especially early 20s is the time when you finish school, develop your career and generally learn stuff about life.

 

[Bonjour]

Honestly sounds like my worst nightmare

I see these people on my way out. Single young mothers pushing prams with a Long Jilbab on from bus to bus struggling and looking miserable

 

[Inactive]

They are free to do as they wish. Marriage is good.

But do the Somali community a favor and stick with your marriage til you die if your husband isn't abusive and if you have kids so you don't ruin Somali children's lives. It's not only about you.

Somalis have extremely high divorce rates. I've never seen a community with our kind of numbers.

 

[dhegdheer]

I see these people on my way out. Single young mothers pushing prams with a Long Jilbab on from bus to bus struggling and looking miserable

Always rushing to get the woman pregnant as well, I don't understand why they can't spend a couple of years together without kids to see if they're compatible AND then divorce. Why do u need to get pregnant in the first year

 

[Mercury]

That's sad. Because your 20's especially early 20s is the time when you finish school, develop your career and generally learn stuff about life.

People are free to do as they Wish IMO its better to get your degree establish your career than get married and maybe even wait a year or Two to have kids just to get a feel of marriage life

 

[Bonjour]

Always rushing to get the woman pregnant as well, I don't understand why they can't spend a couple of years together without kids to see if they're compatible AND then divorce. Why do u need to get pregnant in the first year

I know imo if they can't afford kids then they shouldn't have any. They expect the welfare state to look after them. I think this is irresponsible on their part, as second generation they should know better. It's like Abdi who is 21 marrying his childhood sweetheart, Abdi doesn't have a good job and therefore can't afford to pay for the child so they then expect to be given a free house from the government, free money and healthcare that they haven't paid a penny towards what kind of example would that show their future kids?

 

[Vision]

in a world set to have its life expectancy in the low 80s?

Aint no guarantee you'll live till 80

 

[Mohamud]

Aint no guarantee you'll live till 80

In Canada that's already my expectancy

It's not a guarantee but it's an aggregate. We're living longer and fuller lives so the convention of popping kids out in our 20s doesn't apply anymore.

 

[Mohamud]

having children in your early 20s is just tragic

27 ish is a good time for women 29 for dudes. 2-4 kids keep it simple live a good life.

Personally I wouldn't mind my wife conceiving a little late. We both just need to be set on having at kids at some point.

 

[Bonjour]

In Canada that's already my expectancy

It's not a guarantee but it's an aggregate. We're living longer and fuller lives so the convention of popping kids out in our 20s doesn't apply anymore.

And this is what Somali elders don't get, life expectancy is higher in the west. So this rush where girls should be having kids in their early 20s shouldn't apply here.