How do parents expect you not to interact with the opposite gender yet also get married?

[Basra]

If my flat ass is fatter than yours, you need to Dhaqan Celis Xalimo and check into Brazil and take some shots up the dabo, nobody is interesting in caressing a Giraffe.

 

[Hali]

They want you to surprise them.

My dad keeps mentioning indirectly this one guy, he’s always praising him a lot.

(guys from Darood tribe too)

Darood guys are jinni stay away from them

 

[Basra]

They want you to surprise them.

Darood guys are jinni stay away from them

 

[trucel]

Dating in the western sense is haram for one reason , you can kid yourself and say we just chatting but sooner or later a lil abdi gonna appear.

 

[Angelina]

Dating in the western sense is haram for one reason , you can kid yourself and say we just chatting but sooner or later a lil abdi gonna appear.

Somalis tend to chat before getting married and the vast majority are able to keep their hands to themselves. I'm not saying its acceptable Islamically, but unfortunately this is how our culture is set up. You're expected to get to know the person for at least couple of months before getting the parents involved. Even the vast majority of the older generation got married this way, although their talking stage was probably a bit shorter.

 

[trucel]

Somalis tend to chat before getting married and the vast majority are able to keep their hands to themselves. I'm not saying its acceptable Islamically, but unfortunately this is how our culture is set up. You're expected to get to know the person for at least couple of months before getting the parents involved. Even the vast majority of the older generation got married this way, although their talking stage was probably a bit shorter.

Tbh you're right , id say vast majority date without anyone to intercede and it can be perfectly fine. I guess its down to the two people if they're willing to transgress the limits or not.

 

[Hali]

Tbh you're right , id say vast majority date without anyone to intercede and it can be perfectly fine. I guess its down to the two people if they're willing to transgress the limits or not.

Shaydaan is the third person not really down to them tbh.

 

[Basra]

Shaydaan is the third person not really down to them tbh.

Ménage à trois
with the Devil Looooooooooooooooooooooool

 

[Hali]

Ménage à trois
with the Devil Looooooooooooooooooooooool

You’re actually funny Basra

 

[elite1337]

I agree, its unrealistic

 

[Hali]

somalis that discourage dating are hypocrites there's a saying "dumarka kuun aye la sheekestan hal na wa guursadan" which clearly tells us somali girls and boys where dating up a storm back in the day and not sitting around idle unlike what they are trying to convince others

That sounds like a promiscuous attitude
The vast majority of women were not doing that.

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

Just sneak around, that's what most of us do

Who says I don’t

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

They will arrange you one. Preferably your inaa adeer-- the clan of your father, or your mother if it is different. The basic thought of this psychology is-- you only talk to your engaged fiancée.

Don’t wish ill on me!

 

[Baarisiyomoos]

My dad keeps mentioning indirectly this one guy, he’s always praising him a lot.

(guys from Darood tribe too)

is he cute though

 

[strawberrii]

I think... everyone has been sneaky and then innocently gone to their parents and said "Hooyo/Abo, I found someone I want to marry." even though you've been talking to this person for a year and was *this* close to losing your virginity with them.

 

[Yukon_Niner]

Is everyday gender wars with you lot?

Grown folks insulting opposite gender like some ciyaal

No wonder this section has turned to shit

You're being generous with the word "grown" here