I’m tired of being nice
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balanbalis
Soomaaliweyn ha noolato
Being too kind makes people think you're a pushover. I think it's important to find a balance between being polite/friendly and standing up for yourself
I think you need to establish boundaries. there's no such thing as being nice but there is a such thing of not having boundaries. If you don't know them yet just say no to everyone and you'll slowly figure it out
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you are so sweet
This is a very sophisticated take especially coming from you!!!!! I trust you fr!!!
I tend to dumb it down here, but once in a while if a care for someone I'll drop some gems on them
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Is your illiteracy just jokes then? Because it’s actually concerning.
Nothing I hate more than when people abuse your kindness, it's the only times I tweak the f*ck out
Yes, for my knowledge to reach the unreachable I have to unilliteracy
myself. In addition it build yourself esteem for you to come out yourshell. So thank me before getting uppity because no one like a uppity nigga
Internet Nomad
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Have you tried shoplifting?
I’m not no tuug are you trying to get me arrested
Internet Nomad
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The problem is your spiritually biracial you need to balance by watch less kpop and more drill soon enough you have your old mojo back.
Always put yourself first. The most important person in your life is YOU (and allah).
Never give to people espcially if you don’t have enough to give. save your energy for yourself
Never give to people espcially if you don’t have enough to give. save your energy for yourself
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Don't become an asshole. I've seen too many ex-nice people turn to disgusting human beings. Thinkng now that they got a lifetime of behavioral liscence to walk with a constant eff you attitude just because they could not regulate and keep a healthy and respectful relationship with people where one manage the relationships and encunters in reasonable but healthy ways. When people try to take advantage of you, you deal with them right then and there and demand better conduct, otherwise, they will be peripheral to your life. Always expect people to do better. When you happen to see no behavioral change, you firmly assert that there is a consequence to that.
That means you have to be attentive and adjust your behavior ad-hoc, as the situation calls for, and not be "nice" when it is not ideal to be so. A lot of "nice" people are not kind or good people deep down, they just think that by keeping that constant smiley cheery facade, they can be lazy and stop adjusting their behavior. It's somewhat narcissistic. Be more realistic and peep when people are doing you wrong, and maybe you can potentially get way better relationship with you setting boundaries and asserting that you're a person that deserve respect and that you lack tolerance for bullshit. If you smile like a fool at a sociopath, then you will get used and abused, and that is on you. However, it is shitty for you to become thorny person later than refuses to share a smile with the people who deserve it because now you feel like you have to in another extremel, close that gate. This is when those people got to you where they altered your life.
You also have to distinguish being kind, caring from being a people pleaser. A lot of people pleasers are deep down scumbags who switch up once they feel they can afford to not be in peoples good sides. You can demand respect from people and be a decent human being.
So, be kind, caring, cheery, and everything you are, nevertheless learn to deal with people in a mature way where you pay attention, adjust and control your relationship with them when you see them acting in ways that tows the line of normal conduct. Don't become overly sensitive but just deal with people that try to mess with you.
I can tell you're not a confrontational person. Sometimes you've got to put on those pants and tell people when they are doing you wrong in ways that preserve your dignity and just keep it pushing if they don't even want to acknowledge it. You want to stay away from those people who are manipulative.
Sometimes you also have to evaluate your personality and figure out why a person might disrespect you (a lot of people have their own motives which can be very different for th next, don't change deeply for people that care little about you; not every person is good and you will not be compatible with many). Could it be not your niceness, perhaps because you are in a way they don't deem worthy of respect? If a person sees you as silly or weak, and they take your kindness for weakness, then frankly, just shut down their disrespect and live your life where you don't have to deal with them that much. Trust me, everyone goes through this, the most popular to the unpopular. You can be the most likelable person, that person too encounters pieces of shits, heck, maybe that likebale person is a part time piece of shit to someone else passive agressivly.
This is life. Adjust accordingly, but don't become a POS. You might think you are becoming better by that just turns you rotten, and it affects your quality of life, where now the good people avoid you, and you miss out on actually experiencing life the right way. This is very common and when people turn rotten, they don't change for a long time for the better, if ever.
That means you have to be attentive and adjust your behavior ad-hoc, as the situation calls for, and not be "nice" when it is not ideal to be so. A lot of "nice" people are not kind or good people deep down, they just think that by keeping that constant smiley cheery facade, they can be lazy and stop adjusting their behavior. It's somewhat narcissistic. Be more realistic and peep when people are doing you wrong, and maybe you can potentially get way better relationship with you setting boundaries and asserting that you're a person that deserve respect and that you lack tolerance for bullshit. If you smile like a fool at a sociopath, then you will get used and abused, and that is on you. However, it is shitty for you to become thorny person later than refuses to share a smile with the people who deserve it because now you feel like you have to in another extremel, close that gate. This is when those people got to you where they altered your life.
You also have to distinguish being kind, caring from being a people pleaser. A lot of people pleasers are deep down scumbags who switch up once they feel they can afford to not be in peoples good sides. You can demand respect from people and be a decent human being.
So, be kind, caring, cheery, and everything you are, nevertheless learn to deal with people in a mature way where you pay attention, adjust and control your relationship with them when you see them acting in ways that tows the line of normal conduct. Don't become overly sensitive but just deal with people that try to mess with you.
I can tell you're not a confrontational person. Sometimes you've got to put on those pants and tell people when they are doing you wrong in ways that preserve your dignity and just keep it pushing if they don't even want to acknowledge it. You want to stay away from those people who are manipulative.
Sometimes you also have to evaluate your personality and figure out why a person might disrespect you (a lot of people have their own motives which can be very different for th next, don't change deeply for people that care little about you; not every person is good and you will not be compatible with many). Could it be not your niceness, perhaps because you are in a way they don't deem worthy of respect? If a person sees you as silly or weak, and they take your kindness for weakness, then frankly, just shut down their disrespect and live your life where you don't have to deal with them that much. Trust me, everyone goes through this, the most popular to the unpopular. You can be the most likelable person, that person too encounters pieces of shits, heck, maybe that likebale person is a part time piece of shit to someone else passive agressivly.
This is life. Adjust accordingly, but don't become a POS. You might think you are becoming better by that just turns you rotten, and it affects your quality of life, where now the good people avoid you, and you miss out on actually experiencing life the right way. This is very common and when people turn rotten, they don't change for a long time for the better, if ever.
The truth seeker
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You have to be the smartest person on this forum few peoelel I want to have a real life convo with and your one of them
Taintedlove
Shaqo la'an ba kuu heysaata
You can be nice and not a doormat. Those too aren't mutually exclusive walaal. Although it's hard saying no
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