Is interracial marriage worth it in the West for us ethnics?

[KingSomali999]

Honestly I feel like religion has more of an impact than ethnicity. If i can’t find a suitable muslim somali wife than I’ll just marry an arab baddie with a family who practices islam, that way i won’t be dealing with too many racist family members besides uncles/aunts

 

[pirater]

ethnic this. ethnic that. say somali next time

 

[greyhound stone]

We have some issaqs here and dhulbahante

i can tell who is issaq cause they wear the SL braclet and the dhulbahante wear the Somalis one

There's basically no issaqs in North America most of them are southern. U may see one or 2 here and there but there isn't any big community's. Most qaxootis are from xamar and that's facts

 

[Eedaaf]

There's basically no issaqs in North America most of them are southern. U may see one or 2 here and there but there isn't any big community's. Most qaxootis are from xamar and that's facts

Like the fellow issaqs in London

im joking most Somalis fake the tuulo they are from to the government

 

[greyhound stone]

Like the fellow issaqs in London

im joking most Somalis fake the tuulo they are from to the government

Nah issaq been in the uk since late 1800s. I have relatives that came here during colonization thats probably the only reason my family chose the uk as I already had a lot of family here. Most of us issaqs aren't qaaxoti. Somalis been coming to the uk for work for a long time.

 

[Hassan11]

There's basically no issaqs in North America most of them are southern. U may see one or 2 here and there but there isn't any big community's. Most qaxootis are from xamar and that's facts

There’s actually a lot of reer Somaliland in Toronto bro like half my xafaad are Habar Awal or Habar Jeclo I have a lot of HJ relatives on my mom side I’m Dhulos

 

[Sophisticate]

In all seriousness, this is silly. The fault has little to do with the kids' background and everything to do with their aabo's shortcomings as a father. I've seen full-blood Somali kids raised in the west display the same identity crisis nonsense these kids do. "I'm British" while denying their Somalinimo. Whether you marry a Somali woman or an ajanabi, it is your responsibility to impress a sense of self and identity in your kids. If you fail at that don't turn around and blame your ajanabi wife. It's a copout.

Its not solely the Somali parent's fault.
Sometimes the ajnabi parent is messed up too and brings their personal hang ups and cultural baggage projecting it on to the child.

 

[jabsveg276]

In the west most Somalis don’t care about qabil

it’s rare for a Somali family to reject a Somali for his qabil in the west

true tbh, nobody cares about qabiil in the west, only old faraaxs at starbucks do

 

[jabsveg276]

Honestly I feel like religion has more of an impact than ethnicity. If i can’t find a suitable muslim somali wife than I’ll just marry an arab baddie with a family who practices islam, that way i won’t be dealing with too many racist family members besides uncles/aunts

Why Arab

 

[KingSomali999]

Why Arab

they are mostly muslim, also the women usually are really pretty

 

[pirater]

In the west most Somalis don’t care about qabil

it’s rare for a Somali family to reject a Somali for his qabil in the west

I do cause I don't want to get with my cousin

 

[Xaawotaako]

Whoever you marry, forget what they may be, you better know the person real well. I mean, this is a person you are going to make some serious life decisions with for both yourself and for others (potential children). I believe, any one who asks questions on superficial level as in, looks, race, money etc, is not looking at the bigger picture. When you can’t make decisions for yourself, say you got into a serious accident and you can’t talk, walk or you may be in a coma, who would you want to be the sole person to make decisions on your behalf, the person you can trust to honour your wishes- that is the person to be with, because marriage is not just about being with someone but sharing life and decisions with someone.

I know coupes that when they have kids fight on wether to vaccinate their kid or not, whether to send them to religious school or not, among other issues.
Of course these situation become more prominent if you don’t share culture and worldview with the person. As some of us are born and raised in the West and are growing up with ppl of other races, its more likely that we will marry ppl we went to school with or met through work or neighbourhood and have the similar values with than someone from Somalia. So ultimately, it’s all about what you value and who can show you they honour those values.

 

[Macalin dheerow]

Saying ”ethnic” instead of somali from now on

 

[Macalin dheerow]

On a sidenote I have realised that mixed children whose aabo has left them end up looking very somali. I remember this guy I met that looked like a lightskin somali. If he would go for 5 months to somalia he would have been dark enough to blend in.

 

[CDG89]

Wallahi, are you sure you're not white? Who the f*ck refers to their own people as "ethnic"?

I want to rant.

On this forum, I read some blatantly racist stuff even against somalis and I legit don't know whether a poster is actually somali or an cadaan kid from 4chan/reddit just trolling us. I am absolutely convinced that those weirdos have accounts on here and just post randomly. That could also explain the recent trump supporters on here as well. The right wing rhetoric on this forum is absolutely connected to users pretending to be somali on this forum and you cannot tell me otherwise.

 

[__08]

I have been told many times to avoid marrying non ethnic folk due to the many problems that arise from such relationships. I have a cousin that is a byproduct of such a relationship and they don’t get along with their dad. The moms full white while the dad is an ethnic guy from my sub clan. The kids are grown but don’t adhere to our ethnic culture and religion. The old man was shocked when his kids refused to identify with his sub clan. They think they are Canadians but the average white person will never see them as such even though they won’t say it out loud.
So is interracial marriage worth it for ethnic folk?

Yes, mix it up. Maybe the clan bs will stop

 

[AbdiS]

Waar garaactaan eega!

Who the hell refers to their own as 'ethnics'?