Do y’all feel the same way?
Is The Idea Of Marriage Terrifying To You?
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SociallyAwkwardFarax
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I like spending my time how I please and having a degree of privacy in my life, marriage would take both of those things away from me and just seems like a huge responsibility, especially with children being involved.
How old are you? you must bee reer hoyo mataalo.
Just remember without marriage, you wouldn't be born.
grow a pair and get married.
Just remember without marriage, you wouldn't be born.
grow a pair and get married.
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Marriage is a great responsibility in the sight of Allah but that’s not all it is. It brings companionship, love, affection and mercy. It’s an opportunity to perform many good deeds for the sake of Allah. It doesn’t have to be a prison. As long as it’s with someone who has the same goals and views on marriage as you.
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Lmao I’m not tryna get married just for a couple minutes of pleasure ya fob. some of us want to have a long lasting marriage full of stability and happiness. Not just to pop kids.
Marriage is the closest thing to happiness in this world.
Somali maryoleeys went to the west like 20 years ago and all the sudden their brain became cadaan.
cadaan baa ka dhex hadlaya wuxu.
kulahaa marriage is scary. if ur daddy was shitless scared, u wouldn't be born.
couple of minutes? I changed my mind, don't get married and torture a poor girl with 2 minutes of performance, if we can even call it that.
Lmao marriage is something serious not something you jump into. You gotta take account a lot of factors not just jump In and “grow a pair”
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@Keep it a boqol 💯 wants something that lasts and doesn’t want to take a risk with just anyone. That makes logical sense. That’s why you communicate with the other person and ask any questions which you deem important when talking.
@JigjigaKismaayo I hope we all get to experience that happiness for ourselves but it’s hard to believe it’s true when single as a Pringle.
Haa but you gotta be more empathetic to the younger people, walaal. They have it rough. The internet only shows the worst of it most of the time. And some honestly start to believe false stereotypes about entire groups of people.
@Keep it a boqol 💯 wants something that lasts and doesn’t want to take a risk with just anyone. That makes logical sense. That’s why you communicate with the other person and ask any questions which you deem important when talking.
@JigjigaKismaayo I hope we all get to experience that happiness for ourselves but it’s hard to believe it’s true when single as a Pringle.
Yes.
Divorce is no joke. You want to make the most informed decision and select wisely.
Not be blinded by the fog of infatuation but use a combination of your higher faculties, faith and intuition. A spouse can help or harm you so this is not to be taken lightly.
You are not wrong to proceed with caution.
Divorce is no joke. You want to make the most informed decision and select wisely.
Not be blinded by the fog of infatuation but use a combination of your higher faculties, faith and intuition. A spouse can help or harm you so this is not to be taken lightly.
You are not wrong to proceed with caution.
It sounds calm if you don’t invest too much and have a backup plan. Putting your all into a marriage only for it to crash is truly terrifying tho
Having a one-foot-in-one-foot-out perspective on marriage means you will forever be fearful, half-hearted and self-protective. Once you are in one why not give it your best and resign the rest to God. At least, you knew you had capacity to love, were brave enough to and diligent enough to work systematically on your marriage. Despite what happens. There is nothing wrong with preparation. What is sort of sad is the perspective that it is doomed to failure. So don't put in too much effort.
The only thing I would advise is doing your due diligence prior to marriage. Some rush into the unknown without asking critical questions. I have seen people delude themselves into thinking someone would change and they never did. Or had major incompatibility. On things such as geography (with zero desire to relocate), whether to have children, child rearing or divergent future goals/plans.
If Somali maryoleeys back home and the fobs in the West had a least a semblance of fear, maybe we wouldn’t be having astronomical divorce rates and people not fulfilling each other’s rights and the rights of children which is a sin.
But no the Somali fob doesn’t want to exercise aqli and wants to just jump and then jump out later. I mean we don’t have a Maahmah that tells us that a father upon divorce becomes a beloved uncle for nothing. Wa Sheeko xariir, nacaasnimo baa miskaaxda dadka ka cunay. Maryoleeys Illahi ha daafo.
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Yaraye
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Marriage phobia is real and i got that shit. I have too many fears cuz of f*cked up stories i hear. I fear that my husband become abusive, i fear that he cheats, i fear that he gives me STDs, i fear that he manages to take full custody of the kids, i fear that he doesn't pay child support and i have to raise the children by myself, i fear that he records our bed activities and blackmails me with it.......In conclusion, lots of fears my friend 
SociallyAwkwardFarax
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You don’t got to worry about any of that since you’re a femcelMarriage phobia is real and i got that shit. I have too many fears cuz of f*cked up stories i hear. I fear that my husband become abusive, i fear that he cheats, i fear that he gives me STDs, i fear that he manages to take full custody of the kids, i fear that he doesn't pay child support and i have to raise the children by myself, i fear that he records our bed activities and blackmails me with it.......In conclusion, lots of fears my friend
I met my wife when I was 21. I was your typical ciyaalka xaafada but when I got married, that all changed. Anything worth doing in life is scary and your brain knows this. Anytime you want to make a big move like marriage, starting a business, having children, trying to get a better job/promotions etc..., your brain will come in with excuses and self doubts and it will give you a gazillion reasons as to why you can't do it. If you let this in, you'll forever be stuck.
Those things you hear don’t have to be your story though. Find a truthful man who has taqwa. One who knows what it means to be accountable for a family and desires a stable home life like you do.Marriage phobia is real and i got that shit. I have too many fears cuz of f*cked up stories i hear. I fear that my husband become abusive, i fear that he cheats, i fear that he gives me STDs, i fear that he manages to take full custody of the kids, i fear that he doesn't pay child support and i have to raise the children by myself, i fear that he records our bed activities and blackmails me with it.......In conclusion, lots of fears my friend
Bundasliga
VIP
Get a prenupMarriage phobia is real and i got that shit. I have too many fears cuz of f*cked up stories i hear. I fear that my husband become abusive, i fear that he cheats, i fear that he gives me STDs, i fear that he manages to take full custody of the kids, i fear that he doesn't pay child support and i have to raise the children by myself, i fear that he records our bed activities and blackmails me with it.......In conclusion, lots of fears my friend
JohnCena
PROFESSIONAL SHITPOSTER
Just marry a girl insteadMarriage phobia is real and i got that shit. I have too many fears cuz of f*cked up stories i hear. I fear that my husband become abusive, i fear that he cheats, i fear that he gives me STDs, i fear that he manages to take full custody of the kids, i fear that he doesn't pay child support and i have to raise the children by myself, i fear that he records our bed activities and blackmails me with it.......In conclusion, lots of fears my friend
