You expressed that perfectly, sister. Young boys are often influenced negatively by their peers or older men, and unfortunately, this new generation faces an even tougher challenge with easy access to the internet, corrupting and moulding their young minds, it's not too late to rehabilitate these boys, for they are not men yet.
The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth
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Gallantly Gadabursi indeed.
Arigato Gozimasu
To start, individuals must keep their tongues on the roof of their mouths, breathe from their noses and keep their mouths closed unless they are eating or speaking. They should also practice slow, low diaphragmatic breathing and speak more intentionally and slowly. These simple changes can significantly ease anxiety and agitation.
Once the basics are in place, self-discipline can improve. Adopting a healthier diet and practicing bodily awareness and embodiment can be transformative. Men especially need periods of solitude and friendships that promote personal growth—relationships with those committed to bettering their circumstances. Additionally, having clarity about life direction and working progressively toward it is essential. A more relaxed man who is content in his skin will naturally express similar feelings in his partner.
Women prefer emotional safety and are less likely to fully surrender in a relationship unless they trust their partner, even if that person is their husband. I’ve observed women acting challenging, cumbersome, or undermining in a perpetual fight-or-flight mode. If a man consistently acts authentically, it can help build her confidence and make her feel more open.
Conversely, some men remain closed off because they struggle to trust others with their vulnerability, viewing it as a weakness. They may have never felt safe themselves and fear being emasculated or torn down by a woman. This perception is misguided. Vulnerability can be a strength when shared with the right person. Someone who focuses on your assets, sets high standards, doesn't parent you, empathizes with your difficulties and focuses on growth rather than single-mindedly focusing on your limitations. That’s my perspective on this dynamic.