Ladies...

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Why do some of you get really weird/annoyed/insecure/cunty when a guy you're seeing has friends he's incredibly close to?

I've known my two of bestbro for nearly 15, we're practically brothers at this point wallahi.
Some of their girlfriends, and mine, always get all insecure about how close we all were.
A few even said "I was really worried about you and X not liking me" verbatim. It's so fucking jarring.

Are they uncomfortable by how much weigh their friend's opinions carries or is it something else?

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

What kind of women do you surround yourself with? Just know what ever your gal pals do and think arent a reflection of how women think as a whole. Uuf I'm tired of you boys of sspot acting like women are one singular organic organ that think, and act the same.

 

[Angelina]

Well this is a first..

Never knew such a thing existed.



For the life of me, I don't think i've ever cared about what the guy i'm talking to friends think about me. I'm hardly around them, so if they think badly of me, its because of what the guy i'm talking to is saying.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

What kind of women do you surround yourself with? Just know what ever your gal pals do and think arent a reflection of how women think as a whole. Uuf I'm tired of you boys of sspot acting like women are one singular organic organ that think, and act the same.

I literally have the word some in italic and underlined

Well this is a first..

Never knew such a thing existed.



For the life of me, I don't think i've ever cared about what the guy i'm talking to friends think about me. I'm hardly around them, so if they think badly of me, its because of what the guy i'm talking to is saying.

It's a lot more common than you'd think wallahi. You might be secure and have a healthy self-esteem, but that isn't always the case.

 

[Molotoff]

Yes, I totally agree and I can relate. It is a sad state of affairs that many guys give up on their friends once they settle down with a woman.

 

[greyhound stone]

Why do some of you get really weird/annoyed/insecure/cunty when a guy you're seeing has friends he's incredibly close to?

I've known my two of bestbro for nearly 15, we're practically brothers at this point wallahi.
Some of their girlfriends, and mine, always get all insecure about how close we all were.
A few even said "I was really worried about you and X not liking me" verbatim. It's so fucking jarring.

Are they uncomfortable by how much weigh their friend's opinions carries or is it something else?

I'd advise you to set boundaries and do your best to explain to her you have different roles in your life. She's your woman and he's your bro two completely different roles. If she fails to understand leave stop waisting your valuable time

 

[Angelina]

I literally have the word some in italic and underlined

It's a lot more common than you'd think wallahi. You might be secure and have a healthy self-esteem, but that isn't always the case.

Do you, your friends and the girlfriends all chill together?

If the answer is yes, then there lies your problem. A quick introduction when things get serious is all you need, not this kumbaya shit and now you have weird issues like this.

 

[Waaqmasho]

This is a classic case. This is probably the beginning, later on the girl will try to discourage the guy from hanging out with his friends. It's even more common in married couples. It's hypocritical, but to girls male friends really aren't that important. While her female friends are important. Imagine if a guy tried discouraging a girl from talking to/hanging out with her friends. Everyone would scream emotional abuse. But if she does it to you, you're just "resolving your issues and working on the relationship".

The right answer ofc is to not let your girl get rid of your friends.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Yes, I totally agree and I can relate. It is a sad state of affairs that many guys give up on their friends once they settle down with a woman.

I feel like male camaraderie is dying in the west wallahi.
Your bros will give you a better perceptive when you get into it when her, which is why I think some of them get so butt-hurt when you don't ditch them.

I'd advise you to set boundaries and do your best to explain to her you have different roles in your life. She's your woman and he's your bro two completely different roles. If she fails to understand leave stop waisting your valuable time

My boundaries are always clear when it comes to how important my friends/family are, but some of them insist on being fucking weird about the subject, hoping it'll whittle down your resolve.

Do you, your friends and the girlfriends all chill together?

If the answer is yes, then there lies your problem. A quick introduction when things get serious is all you need, not this kumbaya shit and now you have weird issues like this.

We'd all chill as a group once in a blue moon, it's wasn't that common, but they'd still get all weird about it how close we were. I think partly because me and my friends would talk on a near daily basis. We're each other's confidants and think that's why it bothered them so much.
This all in the past btw.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

This is a classic case. This is probably the beginning, later on the girl will try to discourage the guy from hanging out with his friends. It's even more common in married couples. It's hypocritical, but to girls male friends really aren't that important. While her female friends are important. Imagine if a guy tried discouraging a girl from talking to/hanging out with her friends. Everyone would scream emotional abuse. But if she does it to you, you're just "resolving your issues and working on the relationship".

The right answer ofc is to not let your girl get rid of your friends.

That's what gets on my t*ts, it's so insidious wallahi. But because they do it in a more subtle way it's perceived as being harmless or "just making your girl feel more comfortable".

The ironic thing is, ditching your friends for her will only damages your relationships in the long run away.

 

[Xaruun]

That's what gets on my t*ts, it's so insidious wallahi. But because they do it in a more subtle way it's perceived as harmless or "just make your girl feel comfortable".

The ironic thing is, ditching your friends for her will only damages your relationships in the long run away.

“Why are you neglecting your wife and kids to hang out with your friends?” Is that how it goes?

 

[Angelina]

I feel like male camaraderie is dying in the west wallahi.
Your bros will give you a better perceptive when you get into it when her, which is why I think some of them get so butt-hurt when you don't ditch them.


My boundaries are always clear when it comes to how important my friends/family are, but some still insist on nagging or being fucking weird about the subject.

We'd all chill as a group once in a blue moon, it's wasn't that common, but they'd still get all weird about it. I think partly because me and my friends would talk on a near daily basis. We're each other's confidants and think that's why it bothered them so much.
This all in the past btw.

Bad move. If you didn't all chill together and she was never around your friends, they wouldn't be on her mind rent free.

Does she go through your phone? How does she know who you're messaging everyday? Lol, you people need to stop acting like married couples. What can I say!

Also, would you say she has an issue with your friendship, or she is simply anxious about the opinion your boys have her? If it is the latter, its probably because she doesn't feel secure with you and believes that 1 or 2 comments from your boys can end it.

 

[Alluring]

A: They don't like the amount of time you spend with one another and are worried that their influence can push you away from her.

B: Maybe she just doesn't like your friends?

 

[Waaqmasho]

That's what gets on my t*ts, it's so insidious wallahi. But because they do it in a more subtle way it's perceived as harmless or "just make your girl feel comfortable".

The ironic thing is, ditching your friends for her will only damages your relationships in the long run away.

Exactly.

It really does damage the relationship, and so does imo accommodating her every whim and desire.

 

[Molotoff]

A brother has to have some own time, some space. A time to kick back with his friends. Reminisce, talk about and do men stuff.

Preferably once a week or twice a month. For his mental wellbeing.

 

[Angelina]

A brother has to have some own time, some space. A time to kick back with his friends. Reminisce, talk about and do men stuff.

Preferably once a week or twice a month. For his mental wellbeing.

Every human needs that. Being around your partner 24/7 is a recipe for disaster.

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

Bad move. If you didn't all chill together and she was never around your friends, they wouldn't be on her mind rent free.

Does she go through your phone? How does she know who you're messaging everyday? Lol, you people need to stop acting like married couples. What can I say!

Also, would you say she has an issue with your friendship, or she is simply anxious about the opinion your boys have her? If it is the latter, its probably because she doesn't feel secure with you and believes that 1 or 2 comments from your boys can end it.

I'm talking about my exs in the past, this isn't a current situation I'm dealing with lol
They know because they've asked if me and my bros called each other everyday and I said "Yes". I was never so pussy-whipped that I'd lie about such inconsequential shit.

Why should they need to worry about my friend's opinions unless they were acting like cunts though? The thought "Oh f*ck, her friends might not like me" has never crossed my mind, nor should it.

 

[Alluring]

This is quite common in relationships. Lots of men hate their wives friends, and vice versa. In general, people get nervous that their spouse's friend will change their opinion.

 

[inflorescence]

maybe the insecurity comes from how friends can influence you? so if a friend dislikes the partner for a valid or arbitrary reason that friend will tell you about it and you can potentially see your partner in a different way.

Especially considering if you are all close friends. That can provoke anxiety within the partner so they’ll have to try hard to be on their best behavior

 

[Nak-Muay-Kru]

A: They don't like the amount of time you spend with one another and are worried that their influence can push you away from her.

B: Maybe she just doesn't like your friends?

That'd only be the case if she was being unreasonable/doing fuckery, otherwise my their influence would only make me a better boyfriend/husband. You want the best for your friends, not to nuke their relationships. That fear/insecurity is completely unfounded wallahi.