Love proportion between couples: Advice to the young Faraxs

[HalimaJ]

She believes in a fake Ying and Yang jinni bullshit. It's clear her husband likes her more than she likes him. She doesn't allow her mother in law to sit on the passenger seat, not does she pay any bills. As I said, if the guy likes more, it's not healthy relationship.

Why does she have to pay bills?

Is that not his role as a man?

 

[Factz]

That's all irrelevant because these fleeting emotions are never stable nor long lasting

What it ultimately boils down to is power, whoever has it in their grasp dictates the course of the marriage.

Power has many facets not just finances, but more importantly your strong robust mindset and your physical prowess to send her to places she has never been.

When she knows from the depths of her heart she is never capable of getting anyone even close to you, she will entrench herself deeply and wipe your ass like naag nool.

That is true. Everything boil down to power then she will respect you and become obedient. Sophisticated men honestly don't care about your feelings. We only care about your respect.

Make sure she is in your territory and let her know you own the house. Let her know you're the leader in this marriage and that she must comply with you. Let her know you're the provider and protector. She will then view you as her guardian because she will depend on you financially and your security. She will know you would take good care of her.

Of course, it doesn't mean you have to abuse your power. Treat her right and maintain her needs and she will be very submissive.

Some men are broke and dumb and don't know how to control women then they complain about them.

 

[HalimaJ]

That is true. Everything comes down to power then she will respect you and become obedient. Sophisticated men honestly don't care about feelings. We only care about respect.

Make sure she is in your territory and let her know you own the house. Let her know you're the leader in this marriage and that she must comply with you. Let her know you're the provider and protector. She will then view you as her guardian because she will depend on you financially and your security. She will know you would take good care of her.

Of course, it doesn't mean you have to abuse your power. Treat her right and maintain her needs and she will be very submissive.

Some men are broke and dumb and don't know how to control women then they complain about them.

I've noticed, unless a man is very fair minded. Most cannot treat a woman very well unless he is in love/attached to her.

Maintaining a woman's needs without any love involved long term is an extreme sport for a lot of men.

 

[Factz]

I've noticed, unless a man is very fair minded. Most cannot treat a woman very well unless he is in love/attached to her.

Maintaining a woman's needs without any love involved long term is an extreme sport for a lot of men.

I agree with you. There must be a connection between both couples but my response was a man doesn't care about your feelings if you can't prove it by action hence why I said they care about your respect more because respect proves actions.

 

[ZakWantsToPlay]

nin adiga ku jecel raadso istubidhadyahey.

But Abdallah is a guy. It stings bad when you question a man's manhood status waryaa. Unless you guys know each other and can joke like this.

 

[ZakWantsToPlay]

Anyone willing to share their experince of love? I like to hear what addictive heads say and people who were turned into zombies by playas. Playa involved love saga delivers good stories. There is always a heartbreak involved. Otherwise, it would be boring if story has a happy ending.

Tell us some please. Will be reading with interest. Haye, who goes first? Will hand out tissues to dry the tears up.

 

[ZakWantsToPlay]

That's all irrelevant because these fleeting emotions are never stable nor long lasting

What it ultimately boils down to is power, whoever has it in their grasp dictates the course of the marriage.

Power has many facets not just finances, but more importantly your strong robust mindset and your physical prowess to send her to places she has never been.

When she knows from the depths of her heart she is never capable of getting anyone even close to you, she will entrench herself deeply and wipe your ass like naag nool.

I don't know. Some of us don't like clingy women. They are suffocating. She can keep some of her dignity and just give what is necessary whilst nurturing that love she has already in her heart which earned me a spot in her life right?

I really don't like women who go extra for a male. In some ways, the man who enjoys such arrangement is not realistic about life. May be my mindset is one who doesn't think the world is that too important to make a fuss about anything and will do fine with something little.

I need power for some other purposes. Like real power over somalis so I can fix their political problems and turn them into people who achieve their potential as a nation. Beyond that, women being submissive isn't important, just them meeting their expected duties is more than enough.

I need power for other objectives ideally.

 

[halwa]

You know nothing about my marriage stop assuming things also stop lying, never did I say my mother in law can’t sit in the front seat, don’t make me go dig that thread up you xaar face.

You’re going to die a lone in your mom’s basement with the way you view women.

 

[Desert Flower]

But Abdallah is a guy. It stings bad when you question a man's manhood status waryaa. Unless you guys know each other and can joke like this.

I'm sure he's more than capable of speaking up for himself. Adiga ya tahay? Are you his foot solider? #Fallback

Edit: Besides, if it wasn't already clear, I was talking to the women in the forum. Caadi iska dhig.

 

[Abdalla]

I'm sure he's more than capable of speaking up for himself. Adiga ya tahay? Are you his foot solider? #Fallback
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[IBRAHIM.]

Idealistically, 50/50 would be perfect, but life isn't perfect.

There is a reason why in every culture there is a saying that a woman should marry a man, that loves her a little bit more than she loves him.

Men as a whole generally are not as compassionate as women. Women tend to do more in relationships, even if the man loves them more, as they are nurturing and giving.

Many of the guys will say the opposite on this thread, but deep down the one that they will treat better, and be happier with is the one he loves more than she loves him.

Ladies, if you are getting to know a guy and you realise that you like him more, and are more attached, leave him alone. Throw the whole man away.


Step aside so he can marry the real love of his life, as it's clearly not you.

No such thing as 50/50 in a relationship, the one that cares the least about the relationship is the one that yields the most power, is it u or your husband?

That's a rhetorical question.

 

[Abdalla]

Why does she have to pay bills?

Is that not his role as a man?

Yes, and her role is to time tend to his needs, and do the chores. The roles blurr the moment she proceeds a career.

 

[Farjano-Walad]

Interesting, But u cant say it is the "love" as we understand it. Women are coupled with children and gold, So that is more of possession love than the "romantic love ' we understand love to mean


so we r back to square one my friend

i think it means love for woman, wealth, pleasure, power, gold, money etc, i.e worldly things,

our deen also says a rich man is one with a house and a woman,

 

[Inquisitive_]

Make sure she is in your territory and let her know you own the house. Let her know you're the leader in this marriage and that she must comply with you. Let her know you're the provider and protector. She will then view you as her guardian because she will depend on you financially and your security. She will know you would take good care of her.

This is wishful thinking my friend, everything is stacked against you in the west both the laws and the culture.

For the most part the females here don't really need you for any of those things you mentioned, her boss at work is her provider, societal trends and celebrities are their leaders and the law enforcement are their protectors.

The only thing she needs from you is sexual sanctification, emotional gratification, and for you to financially add to her already cushioned entitled life and a baby on her time-line not yours, that's the reality here in the diaspora.

Your only able to exercise what she allows you and as she sees fit, yes you can easily exceed the trash she is used to and as a result get afforded a type of respect not reserved for them, but again that's fool's gold as your not the driver nor the real power broker in this.

To make matters worse naagaha Europe ku dashey sóddon bey ku qaan gaaran, as result those younger then that in general don't even have the mental capacity to distinguish between good quality or bad quality.

I have seen many great male's fall prey to this who I consider to be the top 5% in our community and they had the same wishful thoughts and we used to have the same fierce debates dating back a decade because the pattern/culture/shackles are easy to spot.

Unless you plan to marry a 35 year old Xaalimo who has gone through a lot of turmoil that will appreciate you for what you bring to the table, there is no point in pinning your hopes in the younger inferior clueless generation in the diaspora, go back home sxb, superior quality in every conceivable metric.

 

[Samaalic Era]

This is wishful thinking my friend, everything is stacked against you in the west both the laws and the culture.

For the most part the females here don't really need you for any of those things you mentioned, her boss at work is her provider, societal trends and celebrities are their leaders and the law enforcement are their protectors.

The only thing she needs from you is sexual sanctification, emotional gratification, and for you to financially add to her already cushioned entitled life and a baby on her time-line not yours, that's the reality here in the diaspora.

Your only able to exercise what she allows you and as she sees fit, yes you can easily exceed the trash she is used to and as a result get afforded a type of respect not reserved for them, but again that's fool's gold as your not the driver nor the real power broker in this.

To make matters worse naagaha Europe ku dashey sóddon bey ku qaan gaaran, as result those younger then that in general don't even have the mental capacity to distinguish between good quality or bad quality.

I have seen many great male's fall prey to this who I consider to be the top 5% in our community and they had the same wishful thoughts and we used to have the same fierce debates dating back a decade because the pattern/culture/shackles are easy to spot.

Unless you plan to marry a 35 year old Xaalimo who has gone through a lot of turmoil that will appreciate you for what you bring to the table, there is no point in pinning your hopes in the younger inferior clueless generation in the diaspora, go back home sxb, superior quality in every conceivable metric.

The west is designed in such a way that you can not have a traditional household.

The key is to marry back home and to keep them there until you are able to move either back home or to a non western muslim country.

 

[Mckenzie]

Lmao no. Men like emotionally unavailable women too. I’ve seen men chase after girls that treated them like dirt. If she’s hot and just out of reach, men will come crawling to her.

On the other hand, treat a man good and he starts thinking he can do better, or that he looks better than he actually does. It’s human nature to want what you can’t have.

Emotionally unavailable women? Do they even exist

Unfortunately there are cucks who will chase crumbs but neither party will ever be happy in a relationship. A woman who does everything to please a man can grow on him, but not the other way around.

I don't disagree with your second paragraph, you just need to learn to keep him on his toes a bit more.

Women might be a little more patient in their decisions than men not because they are inherently the better gender but because of numbers. There are more of you in this World, you don't have the priviledge of choosing because if you did, you would all go for the same man.

 

[HalimaJ]

Emotionally unavailable women? Do they even exist

Unfortunately there are cucks who will chase crumbs but neither party will ever be happy in a relationship. A woman who does everything to please a man can grow on him, but not the other way around.

I don't disagree with your second paragraph, you just need to learn to keep him on his toes a bit more.

Women might be a little more patient in their decisions than men not because they are inherently the better gender but because of numbers. There are more of you in this World, you don't have the priviledge of choosing because if you did, you would all go for the same man.

In some parts of the world there is more men than woman. China being on such example. There isn't a huge difference when it comes to the amount of men and women in this world currently.

Men like a good chase, that is why men seem to fall in love with women who aren't as eager as they are. Men are natural hunters. They like the challenge of conquering a woman's feelings, provided she is half way there.

Yes, there are emotionally unavailable women. But because of the fact that women are inherently more compassionate and nurturing than men, it manifests itself in different ways.

 

[Mckenzie]

In some parts of the world there is more men than woman. China being on such example. There isn't a huge difference when it comes to the amount of men and women in this world currently.

Men like a good chase, that is why men seem to fall in love with women who aren't as eager as they are. Men are natural hunters. They like the challenge of conquering a woman's feelings, provided she is half way there.

Yes, there are emotionally unavailable women. But because of the fact that women are inherently more compassionate and nurturing than men, it manifests itself in different ways.

We aren't living in the 1950s. Men may break the ice for tradition sake but that's about as much chasing as you'll get. This is 2019. If you are taking days to respond we already know you have other niggas on your line. And unlike women, we won't compete for your attention.

 

[HalimaJ]

We aren't living in the 1950s. Men may break the ice for tradition sake but that's about as much chasing as you'll get. This is 2019. If you are taking days to respond we already know you have other niggas on your line. And unlike women, we won't compete for your attention.

Any woman who is taking days to respond isn't half way there. She is probably repulsed by you and doesn't want you bothering her

That is why I said half way there. She needs to be a bit interested, if not it isn't going to work whatsoever.

Time has passed, but somethings are innate.

High quality women/women with sense, don't compete for a man's attention. Most men with sense aren't really interested with women who compete for them, and usually dog them after awhile. Its a lesson every young woman needs to learn.