Marital rape, a hidden problem

[Finesse]

I have met Arab women who speak about being mistreated by their husbands but when I ask, why they don't go back to their father/mother, they say that their father would beat them or treat them worse.

We have an example here, his name is @Samaalic Era

If his daughter tried to escape a brutish husband, he'd drag her back and tell her her husband owns her body.

 

[Samaalic Era]

Final note.

I have met Arab women who speak about being mistreated by their husbands but when I ask, why they don't go back to their father/mother, they say that they father would beat them or treat them worse.

We have an example here, his name is @Samaalic Era

If his daughter tried to escape a brutish husband, he'd drag her back.

First of all, I would find a good husband who's deen and character I'm happy with and who's parents are known and I can deal with so all cases that the couple can not with both families.

Xalimos have an obsession with breaking marriages and running amok in regards to their children which you clearly support

 

[Finesse]

First of all, I would find a good husband who's deen and character I'm happy with and who's parents are known and I can deal with so all cases that the couple can not with both families.

Xalimos have an obsession with breaking marriages and running amok in regards to their children which you clearly support

What do I clearly support and show me when/where I said it.

 

[Samaalic Era]

What do I clearly support and show me when/where I said it.

A woman should stay with her husband and try resolve any differences. If that fails then to bring both families to help mediate.

After that should then divorce become an option and when he announces talaq, she still has to remain and the divorce will not be valid if they are intimate or he declared it while she is on her period. If she finds him unbearable then she can seek khula and pay back the mehr although you don't pay mehr in dhaqan except at regular divorce. In this case, she forfeits the mehr and the sheikh will nullify the nikah.

There are laws and regulations in regards to marriage walal

 

[Gambar]

And once their bodies are ruined from so many children, replace them with another one!

It's horrifying to think they ruined the holy parternship bond between man (Adam) and woman (Hawa) into this cold, factory line relationship.

Even the prophet SAW, had only 2 true loves and he was admired to his loves one at a time, first khadija then Aisha.

It just proves that genuine love is between one man and one woman and it's supposed to be gentle and a true partnership.

The women shouldn’t even bother with such goofs in the first place. Those types are all over SSpot and I believe they’re called incels.

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Apparently men rape their wives but the poor women think it’s rough sex.


Ladies report him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. If you tell him to stop and he doesn’t.

I know most married faraaxs will be in jail if the wives reported them!


I’m disgusted by this!

 

[Regg]

You can opt for a handjob to take out his energy then he won’t be bothered for a sex until he’s charged up again which can take hours and by that time, who knows you might be in a happy mood for a sex.

 

[Gambar]

Apparently men rape their wives but the poor women think it’s rough sex.


Ladies report him if he makes you feel uncomfortable. If you tell him to stop and he doesn’t.

I know most married faraaxs will be in jail if the wives reported them!


I’m disgusted by this!

A lot of them are not used to facing consequences. Poor Somali women in Africa have to resort to poison. That’s why there is an abundance of weird Somali men popping up, they realize there’s a whole world of consequence out there and they cannot handle it.

 

[Basra]

You can opt for a handjob to take out his energy then he won’t be bothered for a sex until he’s charged up again which can take hours and by that time, who knows you might be in a happy mood for a sex.

 

[Bohol]

As I said before.



"If she refuses there is other ways to punish her. Just get a side chick. "

 

[BetterDaysAhead]

RAPE IS RAPE NO MATTER WHAT

 

[Leila]

This is a controversial subject but it's one that needs to be discussed and not brushed under the rug.

For all the men, remember, you may be blessed or have a daughter, would you want her to be brutalised? If not, please read on.

There is a hadith that people often quote, the one about the husband who calls his wife but she refuses and the angels curse her.

Now, this hadith is controversial and often disputed. To women, the most rational explanation and reason is that the husband calling his wife doesn't have to mean for sexual reasons, it could have been to resolve or reconcile a problem.

As you all know the male and female anatomy is not the same, for a woman to enjoy intimacy or not to be in pain, she needs to be lubricated, therefore, she needs to be in a state of pleasure/relaxation.

Imagine your wife is tired/sick/not in the right head space, her body is also going to reflect her mood.

Some "men", still insist on mounting their wives and doing their deed without any account for her comfort.

Is this normal?

If you ignore a "NO" and force yourself on another person this is called "RAPE".

Let me give you an example for how the scenario would be the other way around:


1. You come home tired, or you are injured, your wife tries to have sex with you but you turn her down, she just jumps on you and gets "hers" anyway.
2. You have some discomfort in your genitals and you cannot "perform", your wife snatches your genitals and just jumps on it anyway.



DISCUSS

You are talking to people who don’t even think a husband can rape his wife. They think women are just there to cook, clean and have sex with .

Alhamdullilah there are men who know how to treat their wife as a human being.

 

[Desert Flower]

@Finesse Your comment about ‘What if you had a daughter’ is interesting. Unless you make mention of a woman related to the man, they don’t care. Why do men need to be told “What if she was your mom, daughter, sister?” in order for them to understand the severity of their actions? No, it’s wrong either way.

 

[Yoo]

This is a controversial subject but it's one that needs to be discussed and not brushed under the rug.

For all the men, remember, you may be blessed or have a daughter, would you want her to be brutalised? If not, please read on.

There is a hadith that people often quote, the one about the husband who calls his wife but she refuses and the angels curse her.

Now, this hadith is controversial and often disputed. To women, the most rational explanation and reason is that the husband calling his wife doesn't have to mean for sexual reasons, it could have been to resolve or reconcile a problem.

As you all know the male and female anatomy is not the same, for a woman to enjoy intimacy or not to be in pain, she needs to be lubricated, therefore, she needs to be in a state of pleasure/relaxation.

Imagine your wife is tired/sick/not in the right head space, her body is also going to reflect her mood.

Some "men", still insist on mounting their wives and doing their deed without any account for her comfort.

Is this normal?

If you ignore a "NO" and force yourself on another person this is called "RAPE".

Let me give you an example for how the scenario would be the other way around:


1. You come home tired, or you are injured, your wife tries to have sex with you but you turn her down, she just jumps on you and gets "hers" anyway.
2. You have some discomfort in your genitals and you cannot "perform", your wife snatches your genitals and just jumps on it anyway.



DISCUSS

http://www.answering-christianity.com/karim/no_marital_rape.htm People misunderstand this hadith, you can't force yourself on her that is an offence that takes you to a shariah court. This link goes into it deeper

 

[Yoo]

Thank you.

A normal man would not bother his wife if she is not interested and vice versa.

Nice exchange , mckenzie is right it's meant for those kind of woman who withhold it to leverage things. Marriages fail because of crappy sex life, many muslim men look at that hadith and not the others were the prophet pbuh advised them not to go at it like animals

• the Prophet directed husbands how they should approach their wifes, He said: “None of you should fall upon his wife like an animal; but let there first be a messenger between you.” The Companions exclaimed, “What is that messenger?” The Prophet replied, “Kisses and (romantic) words!” (Reported by Al-Daylami)

 

[Yoo]

Do you guys know what some women suffer from?

A husband that doesn't want to touch her, I've heard this from some non-Somalis.

One of the ladies that told me this, is stunning, no lie, she looks like a model, she is sweet, always changes her style, literally nothing wrong with her in any way

Her husband doesn't touch her and she caught him watching and using drugs.

DM those details

 

[Inquisitive_]

This is not a Somali problem, the older females complain about a lack of sex if you ever paid attention to there diatribes which are very public.

Those middle aged males that sip testosterone destroying mint tea in cafes don't even have the capacity to rape a Xaalimo, the Xaalimo herself is more masculine then him.

Neither have I ever heard about marital rape cases or accusations of this in the new degenerate Somali generation.

I have heard of all types of evils that emnate from our communities, but marital rape was never cited except by some obscure confused victimhood seeking SJW on twitter

It's not even part of our culture to force ourselves upon our wives, and anyone that claims otherwise is a pathological liar with a hidden agenda.

 

[Yoo]

I thought he was gay also but she caught him flirting with another woman. Their marriage was arranged so I just think he resents her.

She didn't have choice and neither did he.

So no matter how hot she is, which she is, he doesn't want her.

I hate this man, he's elevated to a new high. Couldnt say no to a pretty woman

 

[Mercury]

This is not a Somali problem, the older females complain about a lack of sex if you ever paid attention to there diatribes which are very public.

Those middle aged males that sip testosterone destroying mint tea in cafes don't even have the capacity to rape a Xaalimo, the Xaalimo herself is more masculine then him.

Neither have I ever heard about marital rape cases or accusations of this in the new degenerate Somali generation.

I have heard of all types of evils that emnate from our communities, but marital rape was never cited except by some obscure confused victimhood seeking SJW on twitter

It's not even part of our culture to force ourselves upon our wives, and anyone that claims otherwise is a pathological liar with a hidden agenda.

alot of the users here says otherwise

 

[Halimo-2018]

This is a controversial subject but it's one that needs to be discussed and not brushed under the rug.

For all the men, remember, you may be blessed or have a daughter, would you want her to be brutalised? If not, please read on.

There is a hadith that people often quote, the one about the husband who calls his wife but she refuses and the angels curse her.

Now, this hadith is controversial and often disputed. To women, the most rational explanation and reason is that the husband calling his wife doesn't have to mean for sexual reasons, it could have been to resolve or reconcile a problem.

As you all know the male and female anatomy is not the same, for a woman to enjoy intimacy or not to be in pain, she needs to be lubricated, therefore, she needs to be in a state of pleasure/relaxation.

Imagine your wife is tired/sick/not in the right head space, her body is also going to reflect her mood.

Some "men", still insist on mounting their wives and doing their deed without any account for her comfort.

Is this normal?

If you ignore a "NO" and force yourself on another person this is called "RAPE".

Let me give you an example for how the scenario would be the other way around:


1. You come home tired, or you are injured, your wife tries to have sex with you but you turn her down, she just jumps on you and gets "hers" anyway.
2. You have some discomfort in your genitals and you cannot "perform", your wife snatches your genitals and just jumps on it anyway.



DISCUSS

i've heard way too many somali women refusing to give it up their husbands even in somalia. This Hadith should be taken with a grain of salt its not even humanly and statistically possible for her to not say no every once in a while.
Probably made up by men. Allah knows best.