Mutombo
Congolese/Somali
Aisha (not her real name) who’s a single mom of 1 met Mohammed hijab at a Dawah event that was organized by an Islamic Institute. After getting to know each other at this event, she revealed that she was in the process of getting a divorce. Mohammed hijab said that he works for an Islamic council and if she needed help in salvaging her marriage he’d be more than happy to assist in doing so with the council’s guidance. They exchange contact information at this event.
Fast forward, Aisha’s divorce is finalized and Hijab starts hinting that he is interested in her and wants to marry her. Aisha mentioned that they were neighbors so he knew about her struggles as a single mom. In their talking stage, Hijab would Constantly reaffirm her that he would never be anything like her ex husband and he’s a good father to his children with his first wife.
Hijab then ghosts Aisha for about 8 months after he formally asked her to be his wife. She mentions being sad, confused about him ghosting her because she fell for him.
After a while Hijab returns and apologizes to Aisha for ghosting her. Hijab said he was dealing with personal stuff and marriage at the time wasn’t ideal for him. He says he is ready now though and wants to get on with the marriage process quickly.
Aisha says she wants Hijab to talk to her father and ask for his permission for her hand in marriage. Hijab rejects meeting Aisha’s father and says he’s unable to meet him for personal reasons.
Hijab suggests meeting the father on a zoom call and says it’s halal. Hijab says he will not show his face on the Zoom call. The zoom call takes place and the father gives his blessings for the marriage to proceed. Hijab makes a promise to the father Aisha and her child we’ll be taken care of and they will be in good hands. Hijab also promises that he will be meeting the family of Aisha in person later on.
Some time after the Nikah is consummated, Hijab’s persona changes. Hijab changes his mind on meeting Aisha’s family and says he’s not islamically obligated to meet them, ever.
Hijab also changed his mind on having a traditional marriage with Aisha and said he only wants a sex marriage moving forward, strictly confined to hotel rooms. So they won’t be living together in one family home and if he wants sex they will be meeting in hotels.
Hijab says he never had any intentions of providing for Aisha and her daughter and paying for anything. No intentions of speaking to her family and never having kids with her. This when Aisha asks for a divorce.