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Murtad Xalimo Critises Older Brothers being Protective
- Thread starter Gacmeey
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Currently no, but I want to be more religious.
Inshallah i hope everything goes well.
Taintedlove
Shaqo la'an ba kuu heysaata
Dang is everyone here irreligious? Are you outwardly irreligious? Sorry if this is intrusive but I've never met a irreligious somali irl.
Taintedlove
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A lot of somali parents acted like Catholics and had 10 children per woman despite their refugee status. So many on welfare, in little cooped up flats. And a lot of the time the father is working all day or just isn't home. Not all Somali families are like this of course, but did any of you have an adeero that acted like nomad and was anywhere but home with his family?
i act irreligious, but I’ve never claimed to be one irl, ig i might be seen as a cultural Muslim, I’ve met a lot of Somalis who are, consequences of being raised in the west.
Taintedlove
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Where are you from? I'm from the UK, and the Muslim community is notably a lot stricter than other diasporas.
I’m from the UK too, and yea most Somalis are obviously practicing Muslims, I’ve just met a lot who act like cultural muslims, mostly happens to be the girls.
i know some non-hijabi somali girls and a lot of hijabis that don't seem very religious, but I live in the Netherlands. I think the UK just self-selects for more religious Muslims.
Taintedlove
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Not surprised. It seems like a lot muslim are treated with more strictness than their male counterparts, which probably leads to disillusionment with islam as a whole. And when you grow up with in a supposedly "feminist" country that promotes equality between the genders, hearing people justify the disparities between treatment of men and women in Muslim communities might just make you leave altogether.
Taintedlove
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It’s easier for men in general wether in the west or not, to fully believe in Islam, and it’s not just about how some people twist Islam, to justify their mistreatment of women.
NordicSomali
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There is a difference between overprotecting and invading someone else's privacy, which is never acceptable.
might be an invasive question but can I ask if your brother was a gang member/criminal of some kind. They tend to be the most controlling over things like this despite being entrenched in haram themselves.My older brother was like this. Nigga was more strict and obsessive than my dad. I used to get beat by him for not saying my cashar correctly and he would hit me and force me to change when he considered by abaya too short. Not to even mention the verbal abuse.
I’ll never forget one time nigga locked me and him in his room because when he was picking me up from school a guy gave me back a pencil I let him borrow and said bye to me when I was 14 and he saw. When we got home he beat the shit out of me and called me a wh0r3, b¡tçh, $lüt, etc. While he was beating me he was forcing me to answer if I was a virgin or not (I was and still am) and my parents allowed it like wtf. After 2020 (when I was 16) I stopped talking to him and haven’t talked to him since then even though he’s tried to apologize like f*ck you
His abuse lowkey the reason why I stopped believing.
dw abayo many people on here use to be openly gaal here but came back to the deen. Make sincere dua to allah and maybe look into islam with a open mind and heart
if you have any questions post in the islam section as well
The only families that had this kind of dynamic were families with a neglectful mother and absent fathers. The sons themselves end up as criminals who smoke, drink and do zina. You can tolerate being policed by conservative parents but a sibling who himself is as haram as haram can get policing you is just
What in the hell? Why and I mean why? Did you your father allow this?My older brother was like this. Nigga was more strict and obsessive than my dad. I used to get beat by him for not saying my cashar correctly and he would hit me and force me to change when he considered by abaya too short. Not to even mention the verbal abuse.
I’ll never forget one time nigga locked me and him in his room because when he was picking me up from school a guy gave me back a pencil I let him borrow and said bye to me when I was 14 and he saw. When we got home he beat the shit out of me and called me a wh0r3, b¡tçh, $lüt, etc. While he was beating me he was forcing me to answer if I was a virgin or not (I was and still am) and my parents allowed it like wtf. After 2020 (when I was 16) I stopped talking to him and haven’t talked to him since then even though he’s tried to apologize like f*ck you
His abuse lowkey the reason why I stopped believing.
I deeply side eye fathers who allow their sons to run crazy and traumatize sisters. You father should have stepped in and told him to stop and tell him he’s the father and he’s still alive and breathing and that he has no such rights to get involved in your life like that.
I’m incredibly disturbed by what you wrote. I’m very sorry this happened to you. I feel like you were also failed by your parents. I hope they’ve apologized as well and are reflecting.
This place used to be filled to the brim with murtads years ago lol these people will eventually crawl back into their rat hole like their kind usually do
Rat hole? It’s very unnecessary to talk about people who have religious doubts like this esp if they’re not being disrespectful. Even more unnecessary because most somali agnostics/athiests seem to go through a phase and eventually find their way back to god.
