My mom wants me to marry...

[Qalanjo98]

Guys my mom wanted me to marry this guy who lives in Somali, and I showed no interest. Now he is planning to marry, so he called my mom, and my mom seems to be angry at me for not showing interest at first. The guy has been calling our house twice, every day, and today I picked up the phone. He tried to start a conversation with me, and I tried to keep things short. After that he called again and asked my mom if he could live in one of the rooms in our house in Somalia, with his future wife.
I have recently started to talk to this other Somali guy(who lives in diaspora), and my mom got pissed since he is from a different clan. The whole thing is super uncomfortable and since corana is everywhere I have to spend 24/7 with a unhappy mom, who is trying to sabotage me and the diaspora guy from talking

 

[FiftyPence]

Tell your mum you don’t want to talk to abdi in somalia and keep talking to the other guy in private without your mum knowing, maybe down the line she will be more open to him.

 

[Manafesto]

First love is always hard and usually fails, I would say flee to another town where you have other family members from your dad's and obviously don't take this deal, follow your heart and discover your destiny on your own.

 

[Jaydaan]

Does your mum know anything else about the guy except his qabil? If she doesn’t that’s messed up and tell mum stop being qabiliste

 

[karkaar]

keep talking to the other guy, I personally wouldnt advise any girl from the diaspora to marry a guy from back home.It almost always ends badly and is usually a horrendous economic decision.

 

[Cartman]

I thankful to have parents who don’t give a f*ck as long as I don’t marry a hawiye. If she’s a dime tho I still wouldn’t care.

 

[Gambar]

If you are dependent on mum you can’t really say much. Just be respectful and tell her you are not interested in him in a calm demeanour. If your dad is around tell him as well, sometimes getting your dad on your side is the way to get through to mum but she can’t force you to marry the guy.

 

[FiftyPence]

I thankful to have parents who don’t give a f*ck as long as I don’t marry a hawiye. If she’s a dime tho I still wouldn’t care.

Why not hawiye?

 

[Jaydaan]

I thankful to have parents who don’t give a f*ck as long as I don’t marry a hawiye. If she’s a dime tho I still wouldn’t care.

hawiye are good people, I love to make fun of them. But half my family is married to them. Real somalis

 

[Cartman]

Why not hawiye?

My mom is biased because she lived In Mogadishu in the war and was forced to fled because her qabil so she doesn’t want a marriage between two rival clans to affect her family I guess. She doesn’t hate them just doesn’t wanna risk another thing like that happening

 

[FiftyPence]

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My mom is biased because she lived In Mogadishu in the war and was forced to fled because her qabil so she doesn’t want a marriage between two rival clans to affect her family I guess. She doesn’t hate them just doesn’t wanna risk another thing like that happening

I am guessing your MJ?

 

[Cartman]

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I am guessing your MJ?

Yep, but still I plan on living in the diaspora for the rest of my life so I don’t care for qabil.

 

[Invader]

My mother and father are ok with it as long they're muslim my bro has an ajnabi fiance. What i'm saying is that marrying someone back home is dumb. Domestic abuse may come because of that man not growing up in western values.

 

[Cartman]

My mother and father are ok with it as long they're muslim my bro has an ajnabi fiance. What i'm saying is that marrying someone back home is dumb. Domestic abuse may come because of that man not growing up in western values.

Whoever abuses their wife is a ass

 

[Miro]

Yep, but still I plan on living in the diaspora for the rest of my life so I don’t care for qabil.

That is the same thing as saying you don't care about your heritage and anything to do with Somali. Lmao, I have no issue with that, but I hope you aren't thinking about naive shit like somehow retaining your somalinimo in foreign countries. Sooner or later, you will be completely assimilated like every minority group. for example, American Italian, Chinese, Russians, are all groups of people who have in the majority become almost completely Americanized

 

[FiftyPence]

My mother and father are ok with it as long they're muslim my bro has an ajnabi fiance. What i'm saying is that marrying someone back home is dumb. Domestic abuse may come because of that man not growing up in western values.

So western people don’t abuse their wife’s ?

 

[Cartman]

That is the same thing as saying you don't care about your heritage and anything to do with Somali. Lmao, I have no issue with that, but I hope you aren't thinking about naive shit like somehow retaining your somalinimo in foreign countries. Sooner or later, you will be completely assimilated like every minority group is

Minneapolis is already little Mogadishu, they’re gonna grow up with somalis all around them that are first, second, and third generation. Don’t think they’re gonna lose their culture anytime soon if you approach it differently than how are parents did

 

[Invader]

So western people don’t abuse their wife’s ?

Is he a drug addict or alcoholic? You saying that a man in Somalia won't garner 4 wives or just marry for citizenship?

 

[Cartman]

Is he a drug addict or alcoholic? You saying that a man in Somalia won't garner 4 wives or just marry for citizenship?

Hey not all drug addicts abuse their wives, a lot are chill

 

[FiftyPence]

Is he a drug addict or alcoholic? You saying that a man in Somalia won't garner 4 wives or just marry for citizenship?

And where did you get that generalisation from? There are many drug addicts and alcoholics in the west, just like their are abusive men in the west.