My mom wants me to marry...

[Jaydaan]

So western people don’t abuse their wife’s ?

they abuse them more actually

 

[FiftyPence]

they abuse them more actually

I disagree, I think that we shouldn’t generalise. Abusive people are everywhere.

 

[Jaydaan]

I disagree, I think that we shouldn’t generalise. Abusive people are everywhere.

the only reason I wouldnt bring someone over is if it doesnt work out I would feel salty bringing them over. But there are a lot of good people in somalia

 

[Jaydaan]

The second generation has already lost a huge part of their culture, their language. The majority of these people speak English as their first language, and speak little to no af Somali. Furthermore, whatever is left of their culture is being actively absorbed into the dominant culture until nothing is left. Eventually, subsequent generations will be at a point where they identify more with their host country than their original country. It's a fool's mission to try to hold on to your culture where it isn't reinforced and isn't the dominant culture.

So its not even worth trying and we should give up? Btw this isnt only a somali thing. Other africans and Caribbeans I know are the same here in UK. You ask them about anything historically from their country they dont know. Black people in the west are losing their backgrounds and all becoming a poor replica of AA ghetto culture which is the most dominant black culture

 

[Shongoli]

Tell her to shut the f*ck up. You can talk to me if you want to escape that situation. We have helped other girls like you before

 

[Jaydaan]

We can try but it is futile sxb. Anyone who's made up their mind to bring up children and to live permanently in foreign countries should be prepared to be assimilated at some point. There are so many examples of this happening to different people in almost every country. For instance, the cadcad and somali bantus at some point had their own culture and language, but they've been inevitably assimilated. The same will be true for us in diaspora. We aren't any more special than anyone else after all

explain indians ande pakistanis in uk then? the 2 most successful diasporas in uk

 

[anyways]

Seeking a nigga from back home is like seeking poverty in most cases

 

[Jaydaan]

I don't live in the Uk, but I'm sure their under significant cultural pressure too. I doubt their second generation is as fluent in their language as the first generation. When you are forced to function in a society where the dominant language isn't your own, your own language is sure to decline. Other aspects of culture will also inevitably decline over time, but not as fast as language.

I agree and what you say is natural. But completely giving up your culture and accepting a mix culture will be created is different. i would still teach my Somali and where their family comes from. Specially in Europe somali kids will not be seen as English. Even if we leave islam and name our kids john and samantha it wont make difference. You are better of being part/part

 

[Qalanjo98]

For those of you who didn’t get it the guy from Somalia is about to get married, but the problem with him is that he calls the house phone to often, and whenever I pick up he tries to have a convo with me. The problem with my mom is that she is angry because I didn’t take the offer to marry the guy from Somalis + I am talking to a guy from another qabiil now. I feel that it’s unfair to marry or entertain a guy from back home if he can’t take care of me + I feel like guys from back home look at us diaspora girls like naacas, who doesn’t know anything other then comfort...

 

[VantaBlack]

For those of you who didn’t get it the guy from Somalia is about to get married, but the problem with him is that he calls the house phone to often, and whenever I pick up he tries to have a convo with me. The problem with my mom is that she is angry because I didn’t take the offer to marry the guy from Somalis + I am talking to a guy from another qabiil now. I feel that it’s unfair to marry or entertain a guy from back home if he can’t take care of me + I feel like guys from back home look at us diaspora girls like naacas, who doesn’t know anything other then comfort...

He would want to make you his second wife to enter the promised land of the west. A meal ticket to use for his fantasy like many back home.

It is actually a disgusting mind set.

 

[Jaydaan]

For those of you who didn’t get it the guy from Somalia is about to get married, but the problem with him is that he calls the house phone to often, and whenever I pick up he tries to have a convo with me. The problem with my mom is that she is angry because I didn’t take the offer to marry the guy from Somalis + I am talking to a guy from another qabiil now. I feel that it’s unfair to marry or entertain a guy from back home if he can’t take care of me + I feel like guys from back home look at us diaspora girls like naacas, who doesn’t know anything other then comfort...

True, diaspora girls dont have the best rep in Somalia. But Somalis back home think anyone who dont speak good somali is nacas. Have a word with your mum 2020 and being qabiliste is not on.....unless offcourse there is something else she knows about this

 

[Qalanjo98]

He would want to make you his second wife to enter the promised land of the west. A meal ticket to use for his fantasy like many back home.

It is actually a disgusting mind set.

Yeah that’s what i was thinking, it’s to risky to bring some guy over here, and u can’t live back home without any plan of how to survive. I’m still a student after all

 

[Qalanjo98]

True, diaspora girls dont have the best rep in Somalia. But Somalis back home think anyone who dont speak good somali is nacas. Have a word with your mum 2020 and being qabiliste is not on.....unless offcourse there is something else she knows about this

My mom doesn’t know a lot about the guy, the major thing is that she is afraid that I will be to far away from her if I marry another qabiil

 

[Xasusi]

If youre of age 18+, tell your mum to take a hike.

 

[Jaydaan]

My mom doesn’t know a lot about the guy, the major thing is that she is afraid that I will be to far away from her if I marry another qabiil

too far in distance or qabil? Either way mum has to let you go sooner or later.

 

[Xasusi]

This is Qabilism in action, you low IQ, undeveloped people.

 

[Qalanjo98]

too far in distance or qabil? Either way mum has to let you go sooner or later.

To far in qabiil

 

[SomaliWadaniSoldier]

U wont regret it.
Dont fail her

 

[Jaydaan]

To far in qabiil

naah thats nonsense....no offence

 

[CaliTedesse]

Sorry but I need to ask what region in Somalia are you from and what region are both the boys from?